I’m joined by Victoria Haydn, a brilliant brand photographer who works with women to capture them in a way that feels truly authentic and empowering.

I wanted to chat to Victoria because so much of what I cover on the podcast is about stepping into who you really are, letting go of people-pleasing, and embracing your worth—and having photos taken can bring up so many fears and insecurities that reflect limiting beliefs holding you back from living life on your terms.

Throughout this episode Victoria shares common struggles people-pleasers have when it comes to having their photos taken and tips and tricks she uses to help ease anxiety and self-consciousness.

I hope you enjoy this episode! If you want to find out more about Victoria you can find her on Instagram & check out her website https://www.victoriahaydn.com/

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

You pride yourself on being kind — but is it really kindness, or something else in disguise?

In this episode, I’m talking about the subtle but powerful difference between genuine kindness and people-pleasing. Because while kindness comes from empathy and choice, people-pleasing is often driven by fear, guilt, or a need for approval — and over time, it can quietly lead to burnout, resentment, and losing touch with who you really are.

I’ll walk you through the five types of people-pleasers — from the burnout pleaser to the chameleon — and share practical, down-to-earth strategies to help you tune into why you're saying yes, and what it’s costing you.

If this hits home and you're ready to get clear on what’s really behind your people-pleasing, head to my website and book in for a 90-minute Unlock Clarity session. Let’s make sense of it together.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

If you’re an Overcommitter, you probably find yourself automatically saying “yes”, often without even thinking. You’re seen as the 'dependable one', the 'strong one' always available to help. But you end up juggling far too much — running around, squeezing everything in, and quietly carrying the pressure because you don’t want to let anyone down.

The difficult part is, even with the best intentions, this pattern can lead you straight into overwhelm. You might feel frazzled, stretched too thin, double-booked, or so burnt out that you end up having to cancel at the last minute — leaving you feeling guilty, frustrated, and stuck in the same cycle again.

In this episode, I’ll share how to recognise if you're People-Pleaser personality is The Overcommiter and how you can begin to break out of this pattern. I hope this encourages you to consider the powerful shift of including yourself in the equation —thinking not just ‘How can I help you?’, but also ‘What about me too?’ when you’re deciding how much you can realistically commit to.

p.s. yes, if you listen carefully that is Max snoring in the background!

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

Do you get' what you need to do - you've read the self-help books and listened to the podcasts but you just don't feel able to implement the advice?

In today’s episode, I’m sharing my view of Mel Robbins’ “Let Them Theory” - the idea that we aren’t responsible for managing other people’s emotions or choices. While this sounds liberating, for those with trauma histories, ADHD, rejection sensitivity, or deeply ingrained people-pleasing patterns, it’s rarely as simple as “just let them.”

I talk about why letting go of responsibility can feel unsafe and cover practical steps to begin gently shifting this pattern. If you've ever struggled to step back without guilt or anxiety - this one’s for you

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

Did you know that people-pleasing isn't just doing things for others, it runs much deeper than that. If you're curious about your own People-Pleasing Personality - take my free quiz and discover more about how people-leasing is showing up for you... and what to do about it click here

In this episode me and Hannah are chatting all about our experiences with being Social Chameleons - the type of people-pleasing where you shape-shift your personality to match the person or people you're with.

You might find yourself nodding along to things that you don't agree with or pretending to love the Netflix show everyone raves on about.. just so you fit in.

Find out more about Hannah on Instagram or visit her website

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

In this episode, Nicola joins me to share her personal journey from over-giving and over-doing in relationships to recognising her worth was beyond what she gave and achieved and provides insights on how to start receiving as much as you give.

We talk about how people-pleasing tendencies often stem from deep-seated beliefs about worthiness and explore practical steps toward healing and self-acceptance.

I hope you find this conversation full of realisations and strategies that will empower you to stop the cycle of burnout and start living as your authentic self.

To find out more about Nicola you can follow her over on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theselfworththerapist

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

Do you feel like you've been following all the 'right' steps in life - being the good girl, ticking off the achievements, doing what’s expected - only to realise something still feels off?

In this episode, I chat to fellow therapist Natasha about her personal journey of realising she wasn’t showing up as her true self, the wake-up call that led her to embrace her authenticity, and how living life in line with her own values changed her confidence, career, and daily life.

Natasha shared the powerful reminder that "You were born an original - don’t die a copy."

Find out more about Natasha https://www.natashapsychotherapy.com/

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/

In this episode, Matt Hassan (@veggie_gardener_matt) shares his story of breaking free from people-pleasing and approval seeking tendencies to that of embracing life on his own terms.

You'll find lots of relatable examples of how people-pleasing can show up - in often subtle ways - and how freeing it feels to no longer be in it's grip.

Matt shares examples of what helps him practice living life for himself and I'm sure you'll find this episode really helpful. Keep listening to the end where he hits me with an unexpected question!

Would love to know what you think - feel free to DM me on instagram.

Take the quiz! What's Your People-Pleaser Personality? and discover my 6 step method to unlocking Clarity, Change and Freedom so you can say yes to the real you - without anxiety and guilt.

Join me over on Instagram for regular updates, posts and talks about all things people-pleasing and feel free to DM me any content ideas: https://www.instagram.com/charlotte_bailey_therapies/

Visit my website for more information, resources and details on how to work with me https://www.charlottebaileytherapies.com/