Épisodes

  • 0017—The Father-Wound and the Blueprint for Masculinity
    Jun 30 2025
    For all our focus on what masculinity should not be, very little is known about what masculinity should be, and is. The emphasis on wounds, harm and the need for healing, may have prevented us from thinking about the ‘shadow side’ of that—namely, the possibility that the results of trauma and inner damage that are playing out in the lives of many men, may indeed be indicators of yet deeper things. Could there be a deeper nature to men? Could there be more to us, beyond mere symptoms (like anger or sexual misconduct) and the need to 'heal' from them? What if I told you that there is indeed a deeper masculine reality within you, that is worth striving for? What if I told you that a blueprint for masculinity does indeed exist within you—and can be reclaimed, no matter how old you are or how much you have suffered? It has 'broader' chapters—on society, the world, media and religion—as well as very personal ones—like the story of my experience of meeting God as a father, as well as quite a few others... In this podcast I talk about my new book 'The Father-Wound and The Blueprint for Masculinity' which deals not only with the father-wound but also with what the wound has prevented us from having, and being... Some chapters deal with the way men, masculinity and fatherhood are influencing our worldview—and of course, our politics, religion, and culture—and some focus on how it shapes us internally. There is a chapter on 'the deformity of men'; there is a chapter on the need to honour and forgive our fathers; there is a chapter on the desperate need for men to have undergone a process of masculine initiation—but at bottom, it is a book that is written from a very personal, lived experience... You can get the book here: Amazon USA: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FFTM2D85 Amazon UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FFTM2D85
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    56 min
  • #0016—'Lack Of Masculinity'
    Jan 6 2025
    What the world is experiencing today is an overwhelming LACK OF MASCULINITY. This episode looks at the reasons why, and offers ways out of this on an individual and collective level. If you are looking for ways to defeat emasculation, overcome your addictions and start feeling like a mature, fully integrated, powerful man—and need coaching and direction on this journey—you can book a free discovery call with me here: https://calendly.com/georgestoimenov/discovery. To learn how to kick-start your inner life and journey, see this: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Rise-Ashes-Recover-Purpose-Resurrect-ebook/dp/B0CLKZBZXF For all of my short books for men who are on this journey, click here: https://www.trainingformen.co.uk/books
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    19 min
  • #0015—'Overeating and Emotional Supression'
    May 20 2024
    Is there a correlation between food addiction and supressed abilities and emotions? I can personality testify that there is! Back in 2020, I discovered that dynamics in my own life. This is a story of what I found... If you are looking for ways defeat your addictions and start feeling like a mature, fulluy integrated, powerful man—and need coaching and direction on this journey—you can book a free discovery call with me here: https://calendly.com/georgestoimenov/discovery To learn how to kick-start your inner life and journey, see this: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0CLKZBZXF For all of my short books for men who are on this journey, click here: https://www.trainingformen.co.uk/books
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    16 min
  • #0014—'Alcohol And Adventure'
    May 14 2024
    Last summer, I grew restless...and found that using alcohol wasn't helping. Something had been missing in my life for a long time; and I decided to find out what it was. This is a story of what I found and how it's related to all men, to our souls and inner journeys... If you are a man who's been struggling with the lack of inner integration I’m addressing here, and feel that you need coaching and direction in this journey, you can book a free discovery call with me here: https://calendly.com/georgestoimenov/discovery. To read my short book on one of those inner 'fragments'—the inner child—and learn how to get it back, click here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0B36KPH5M To learn how to kick-start your inner life and journey, see this: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Rise-Ashes-Recover-Purpose-Resurrect-ebook/dp/B0CLKZBZXF
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    9 min
  • #0013—'Life-Quest' with Nigel Mohammed. Part 2: 'Identity, Belonging, Pain'.
    Sep 30 2023
    Nigel Mohammed is a teacher, writer and a mentor who has worked with men, done presentations and talks, and has been running men's groups in the UK for decades. He provides mentoring and resources for local men's groups, ministries and churches. Nigel has also taught courses and provided development workshops for missionaries and leaders overseas and in the UK. He has worked with the homeless in UK and abroad, and has helped young people at risk of trafficking in Nepal. Nigel's calling is to equip men to live in a 'story bigger than themselves' and he offers his resources both in person and online via his website LifeQuestTruth. Some of you remember Nigel from the previous episode (check out track #0012). As for me personally, Nigel has had a huge impact on my life; he was running the first men's group I was a part of, more than a decade ago, and became my mentor. It was Nigel who once told me, in an act of brutal honesty, that sooner or later I would have to stop running from my inner pain and face it... Recently, we sat down again and recorded the second chapter of the journey through Nigel's life-story. In a way that feels somewhat counter-cultural during these times of frantic shallowness, of clicks, swipes, and soundbites, we took our time and delved deep into Nigel's life, honouring the intrinsic details of the story and marking each turning point, giving it the attention it deserves. We went after depth, and we delved deep into pain... And it was good. We discussed things such as: — his struggle with 'fitting in' in the workplace — his birth-mother suddenly showing up in his life as an adult — covering the pain of the 'inner child' with drugs — the search for meaning and questions about God — feeling lost, having nothing and belonging nowhere — entering deeply into the drug culture and becoming a 'hippie' — 'bad trips' and the dark reality of drugs — looking into different religions and converting to Chrstianity — the 'Jesus question' and the baggage that Western Christianity brings — using drugs as a 'churchgoer' — not fitting into the 'subculture' of church — how unresolved past trauma of 'not belonging' sabotages the present — not being able to relate to God as father — a (re) traumatising mission trip to Asia — a suicide attempt — suffering two broken legs and entering into a lifetime of physical pain — 'opening the door to death' and what that may possibly mean — learning to walk again, learning to live again — studying deep subjects and getting two university degrees in his thirties — revisiting the land of his roots and meeting his biological father for the first time — working as a teacher and diving deeper into pain — the difference between religion and reality — the lessons that pain can teach us ...this, and so much more!
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    2 h et 19 min
  • #0012 — 'Life-Quest' with Nigel Mohammed. Part 1: 'Broken Wings'.
    Jul 20 2022
    Nigel Mohammed is a teacher, writer and mentor who has worked with men and has been running men's groups in the UK for decades. He provides mentoring and resources for local men's groups, ministries and churches. Nigel has also taught courses and provided development workshops for missionaries and leaders overseas and in the UK. He has worked with the homeless, both in UK and abroad, and has helped people at risk of trafficking in Nepal. Nigel's calling is to equip men to live in a 'story bigger than themselves' and he offers his resources both in person and online via his website LifeQuestTruth. Personally, Nigel has had a huge impact on my life; he was running the first men's group I was a part of, more than a decade ago, and became my mentor. It was Nigel who once told me, in an act of brutal honesty, that sooner or later I would have to stop running from my inner pain and face it... And to the best my ability, I did. And I am. And I am grateful for the role of Nigel in my life. This is my attempt to honour him in taking the time to listen, really listen, to the story that is his life, and share this experience with you. Recently, we sat down together during one of his visits to the beautiful town of Eastbourne that I am proud to call my home, and recorded the first chapter of the journey through his life-story. In a way that feels somewhat counter-cultural during these times of frantic shallowness, of clicks, swipes, and soundbites, we took our time and delved deep into Nigel's life, honouring the intrinsic details of the story and marking each turning point, giving it the attention it deserves. We went after depth... And it was good. We discussed things such as: Nigel's beginning in Trinidad and Tobago, his move to London, and the trauma of being abandoned and sent into a foster home, The severe childhood trauma of being sent away from his mother as a little boy and then being re-traumatised by the abduction-like act of being 'taken back' to his family in Trinidad — only to be sent back to London in a few weeks time, The severe trauma of not belonging to a family and not fitting into a category — including racially, Never knowing what words like 'home' and 'family' truly mean, How this childhood rootlessness has been manifesting in his life ever since, Becoming a 'street boy' and the need for a 'surrogate father', Breaking the law at a young age, becoming a football hooligan and looking for belonging in being a part of a 'subculture', Tribalism and the need for a boy to bond, and belong to, something bigger than himself, Hiding behind a false version of masculinity, The possible subconscious repeating of patterns and re-enacting childhood realities in later life, The importance of recognising the 'turning points' in life and their impact, The search for adventure in young men and the curse of living in a society that has no male role-models but offer only destruction as a means of filling that 'vacuum' in a young man's soul, Nigel's hitchhiking adventure in Europe: the hard work, the hunger, the resulting crime, and the subsequent brutal time behind the bars of a Communist prison in the former Yugoslavia, His experience of humanity in prison and the struggle to adapt, The way prison sentence can mean more than one thing in life, The feeling of having one's 'wings broken' and being 'locked up in a cage', The desire for freedom and the search for salvation through faith, ...this, and so much more!
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    1 h et 36 min
  • #0011 — 'Pain and Partnership': a Conversation with John Richards.
    Jan 27 2021
    Me and my friend John Richards recently decided to record one of our conversations. As it is my custom, I did not prepare in any way — when it comes to heart-inspired conversations, I have learned to simply 'tune in' to the reality within, lay down any agendas I might have, and stay open and curious. But even I didn't expect this conversation to happen in the way it did... Our time together turned from conversation to interview, but it wasn't John who was being interviewed — it was me! We delved into things such as: — how we first met, and what John's first impression of me was — the impact of a group of friends who are 'real' and committed to truth — how men tend to overcompensate for inner 'weaknesses' and how to move on from those cycles — sex, porn and masturbation — what happens when men are not taught and trained to handle power as boys — the price of 'killing the boy' inside yourself and building up external life without him — the origins of the desire to control our environment and the fear that hides behind the facade of the muscle-building addiction — the way unresolved childhood issues are taken into a marriage — the way shame and the fear of 'being seen' play out in a man's life and relationships — the effectiveness of forgiveness which does not take away a person's power — the importance of honouring all emotions and releasing them from repression ...and more! _______________________________________ John's website: www.awarenesschange.com
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    48 min
  • #0010 — 'Film And Story': a Conversation with John Fontaine
    Jan 11 2021
    In this episode, I am finally reunited with my friend John Fontaine, to talk about something we both love wholeheartedly — movies! Join us as we sit down to discuss topics such as: — why films are important to most people — what are our favourite films and why — how have we searched in film, for something missing in our reality — how movies represent and mirror the spiritual and masculine journey — what our favourite films and characters tell us about ourselves — how movies represent and mirror the spiritual and masculine journey — what our favourite films and characters tell us about ourselves ...and a lot more besides! John Fontaine's website: www.maximusheart.com ____________________________________________________________________ To revisit my first 'sit-down' with John, click on the links below: (video) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEN4UbgJrJo (audio) https://www.menscorner.co.uk/podcast-1/episode/c385e540/007-roots-and-story-a-conversation-with-john-fontaine)
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    2 h et 5 min