Uncover a new layer of the Enneagram as we dive into the incredibly impactful world of the instinctual subtypes. In this episode, we focus on the self-preservation instinct—a survival-driven instinct that influences every part of life, from daily routines to family dynamics. Learn how self-preservation types prioritize safety, comfort, and health, and why they often feel the need to be prepared for any situation. Whether it's turning their home into a cozy sanctuary or meticulously planning for the future, self-preservation types bring a unique sense of stability to their families. We’ll explore how to recognize self-preservation tendencies in yourself, your partner, or your child, and how understanding this instinct can deepen your connections and help manage daily challenges. Plus, find out why some Enneagram types may not resonate with their usual descriptors if they have this subtype. Tune in to unlock insights that could transform your family’s dynamics.

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In this episode of Not So Normal Parenting, we take a deep dive into the Competency Triad of the Enneagram, focusing on both parents who identify as Type 1 (The Perfectionist), Type 3 (The Achiever), or Type 5 (The Observer), and how to parent children with these types.

Whether you are a Type 1, 3, or 5 yourself or raising a child with these tendencies, you’ll discover how these types push emotions aside to solve problems logically, especially in relation to systems like work, family, or school. We’ll explore the 3 key ways each type strives for competency and how this impacts their approach to life and relationships.

Learn how to manage perfectionism as a Type 1 parent or help your Type 1 child embrace flexibility. Discover how to balance achievement with authenticity as a Type 3, or guide your Type 3 child to value more than just success. Finally, support your own Type 5 need for independence while fostering emotional connection, or help your Type 5 child stay emotionally engaged.

Tune in for real-life stories, practical strategies, and insights to help you and your child thrive within your unique Enneagram types.

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In this episode, we’re tackling a common struggle for many parents: reactivity—especially for those in the Enneagram reactivity triad: Types 4, 6, and 8. If you often feel frustrated or overwhelmed in those tough parenting moments, this episode is for you.

What you’ll learn today:

1. How to Hold Realistic Expectations for yourself and your child’s behavior.
2. How to Harness Your Triggers so they no longer control your reactions.
3. How to Heal Through Guided Thoughts, personalized for your Enneagram type.

If you’ve ever been told that you just need to be more patient, but it only makes you feel worse, this episode offers a fresh perspective. It’s not about squeezing out more patience—it’s about shifting your mindset and understanding your triggers to foster more peaceful, connected relationships with your kids. Tune in as we break down these tools and share practical mantras tailored for Types 4, 6, and 8!

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Welcome back to our 9-part series on the Enneagram triads! In today’s episode, we’re diving into the Reactivity Triad, which includes Types 4, 6, and 8—personalities that tend to respond to stress with emotional intensity and immediate reactions. These types externalize their feelings when they don’t get what they want or when their needs are unmet, often displaying frustration, anxiety, or anger. We’ll explore the three key aspects of how these types cope: how they process emotions outwardly, why they react so strongly, and what they seek from others through their emotional responses.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. How Type 4s express deep emotional intensity, often seeking validation and understanding from others when they feel unseen or misunderstood.
2. How Type 6s react with anxiety and doubt, testing loyalty and seeking reassurance in moments of insecurity or uncertainty.
3. How Type 8s respond with assertiveness and anger, seeking strength and control in their environment to avoid feeling vulnerable.

We’ll also share four practical strategies to help you support your reactive child and navigate their emotional outbursts:

1. Acknowledge their feelings
2. Provide reassurance or understanding
3. Teach emotional regulation
4. Maintain your own calm presence

Join us as we uncover how these intense emotional reactions can be understood and managed, allowing for deeper connection and growth within the family.

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In this episode, "Understanding the Positive Outlook Types: Exploring Enneagram Types 2, 7, and 9," we kick off a 9-part series by diving into the Harmonic Triads of the Enneagram. We explore the Positive Outlook Triad, focusing on:

1. Type 2 (The Helper): Learn how Type 2s maintain harmony by focusing on others' needs, often neglecting their own, and how they can grow by embracing self-care and acknowledging their own emotions.

2. Type 7 (The Enthusiast): Discover how Type 7s avoid discomfort by seeking constant excitement and reframing negative experiences, and the importance of slowing down to engage with deeper emotions for personal growth.

3. Type 9 (The Peacemaker): Understand how Type 9s seek inner peace by avoiding conflict and focusing on positive experiences, and the necessity of stepping into their own needs to foster deeper connections.

Tune in to learn how understanding these patterns can lead to greater self-awareness, resilience, and a more fulfilling life.

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Did you know that a simple marshmallow can predict your child's future success? In this episode, we dive into the Stanford Marshmallow Experiment, a groundbreaking study packed with insights for parents. Here’s what you’ll learn:

1. The Power of Delayed Gratification: Understand how a child's ability to wait for a reward is linked to greater success in academics, health, and social skills.

2. Consistency Builds Trust and Self-Control: Discover how consistent parenting, with clear rewards and consequences, helps children develop the self-discipline needed for long-term achievements.

3. The Role of Clear Expectations: Learn why setting clear rules and guidelines is crucial for enhancing your child’s decision-making skills and ability to delay gratification.

We’ll also explore how personality plays into these dynamics and offer practical tips for parents. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to set their child on the path to a thriving future!

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Tune in to Episode 33 of Not So Normal Parenting as Wendy discusses the important topic of childhood anxiety with Dr. Jaylynne Koch, Developmental Psychologist, counselor and play therapist.

Topics covered are:

• How personality factors into anxiety.
• Nontypical symptoms that may not look like anxiety.
• How anxiety and ADHD can be interchangeable.
• The four triggers: Physical, The Unknown, Incongruance and Shoulds.
• Coping Strategies such as coregulation, externalizing, exposure therapy and attachment.
• The importance of “special playtime”, consistency in parenting and managing transitions.

Dr. Jaylynne Koch https://www.facebook.com/BloomBetween

What to Do When You Worry Too Much by Dawn Huebner and Bonnie Matthews

The Worry Wars Paris Goodyear-Brown

Guide to Special Playtime Beth Richey, Tammi Van Hollander https://youtu.be/GBNB2IZhfOA?si=mm0Hz24ZGUU8BAAY

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I am so thrilled to have Dr. Brandon, pediatrician and founder of Colorado Kid's Pediatrics, to chat about how traits like social awkwardness, anxiety, defiance, OCD, homework struggles or impulsivity could be symptoms of ADHD.

This episode will be beyond helpful if you have a child that is exhibiting any of these traits: Many parents don't realize that all of these behaviors can be symptoms of ADD or ADHD which are on the rise due to all the stimulation children are experiencing in this generation of screens. In this episode we talk about:

Common trends Symptoms and how to get a diagnosis

Treatment, including:

parenting strategies,

diet,

acupuncture and acupressure,

medications and

personality factors like being an SP or and P type as well as a child with introverted sensing, introverted feeling or introverted intuition and a tendency to wander off inside their mind.

Dr. Brandon is founder of Colorado Kid's Pediatrics and Trekwise which is an integrated approach to behavioral health with quick and efficient telehealth sessions and affordable cost sharing.

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