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  • S5E10: Expert Boundary Setting to Beat Burnout with Kamini Wood
    Jan 27 2025
    (00:01) Empowering Self-Compassion and Boundaries This chapter focuses on the importance of boundary setting and self-compassion in overcoming burnout and achieving personal growth. I welcome Kamini Wood, an accomplished entrepreneur and life coach, to share her insights and experiences. Kamini discusses her journey from being a people pleaser and overachiever to a human potential coach, emphasizing the significance of understanding oneself to tackle issues like stress and anxiety. We explore techniques for successful boundary setting, the inevitable backlash that can arise, and the necessity of flexibility in managing boundaries. Kamini shares stories from her personal and professional life, including her experience as a mother of five, highlighting the evolution of parenting styles and the importance of mindful parenting. Through these discussions, we aim to empower listeners to navigate their challenges and rediscover their authentic selves. (09:10) Navigating Boundaries and Relationships This chapter focuses on the significance of setting boundaries to maintain healthy relationships. We explore the emotional cues like feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or anxious as indicators that boundaries may be lacking. I discuss the common misconception that boundaries push people away and instead highlight their role in fostering healthier relationships. It's crucial to understand personal needs and values before initiating boundary-setting conversations. We address the challenges faced, especially for those who haven't seen boundaries modeled in their upbringing, and offer strategies for navigating pushback and discomfort when communicating these boundaries. Additionally, we touch on practical approaches, such as defining personal roles and expectations, illustrated through the example of managing relationships with in-laws. Throughout, the emphasis is on self-awareness, resilience, and redefining narratives around personal roles in relationships. (21:31) Navigating Support Systems and Boundaries This chapter explores the importance of building a support network when setting personal boundaries to combat burnout, focusing on how isolation, one of the key components of burnout, can be mitigated through open communication. I discuss strategies for involving loved ones, such as partners, in boundary-setting processes by sharing personal experiences and feelings without placing blame. By clearly communicating our needs and the boundaries we're aiming to establish, we can create a strong support system that offers encouragement and accountability. This approach helps prevent misunderstandings and ensures that those close to us understand and support our journey. I also emphasize the need for honest conversations to gauge whether our support network can meet our needs, allowing us to seek additional support if necessary. (26:59) Practicing Curiosity and Self-Compassion This chapter explores the nuances of seeking advice and support, particularly for new entrepreneurs and individuals setting boundaries. We discuss the importance of distinguishing between asking for advice and seeking permission from friends, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and clarity in one's needs. When encountering pushback from a support system, it opens opportunities for healthy dialogue and understanding differing perspectives. We encourage embracing curiosity over judgment by practicing self-compassion and kindness, reflecting on experiences with a mindset of learning rather than self-criticism. We also highlight the power of asking open-ended, non-judgmental questions to foster meaningful conversations and personal growth. Through personal anecdotes, we illustrate how curiosity can be nurtured in relationships, encouraging a supportive environment where open dialogue thrives. (33:17) Navigating Compassion and Boundaries This chapter focuses on the journey of balancing compassion for oneself with compassion for others, particularly from the perspective of a people pleaser. We explore the misconception that self-compassion is selfish and discuss how caring for oneself is essential to effectively support others. The conversation highlights the importance of boundary setting, distinguishing between having compassion for others and feeling responsible for their emotions. We also examine the discomfort that arises when boundaries are set and emphasize the significance of allowing others to manage their reactions. The discussion touches on the concept of "grace and space," sharing insights on when it is appropriate to offer forgiveness and space to others, and when it is necessary to prioritize one's own well-being by moving on from unhealthy relationships. Additionally, we consider how individuals can use this space to self-reflect and potentially reconcile, leading to healthier interactions. Keywords: Transformation, Boundary Setting, Self-Compassion, Stress, Anxiety, Burnout, Personal Growth, Relationships, Emotional Indicators, ...
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    45 min
  • S5E9: Empowering Introverted Leaders: The Transformative Power of Boundaries with Sharissa Sebastian-Deppen
    Jan 19 2025
    Summary (00:01) Empowering Introverted Leaders Through Boundaries This chapter of the Overcome to Become podcast introduces Sharissa Sebastian-Deppen, CEO of Leadership Mastery Alliance, who specializes in empowering introverted women in corporate leadership. Together, we explore how to establish and maintain boundaries to combat burnout and enhance focus. Sharissa shares her journey from software engineering to technology leadership and eventually to coaching, motivated by her own experience with burnout and a desire for change. She highlights the pivotal role of faith and serendipitous encounters that guided her toward a career in coaching. As a Myers-Briggs certified practitioner with over 15 years of corporate leadership experience, Sharissa emphasizes the importance of leveraging personal strengths and setting boundaries to maintain a healthy mindset and thrive in leadership roles. (09:23) Setting Healthy Boundaries for Self-Care This chapter focuses on the importance of understanding and establishing healthy boundaries, especially for those who grew up perceiving boundaries as negative or unhelpful. We explore how redefining boundaries as beneficial for both oneself and others can transform relationships and personal well-being. By aligning decisions with personal values and approaching conversations with mindfulness, it's possible to maintain relationships while respecting personal limits. The discussion highlights the significance of proactive decision-making and the necessity of taking care of oneself to avoid stress and resentment. By doing so, individuals can show up as their best selves, ready to serve and support others effectively. (22:00) Personal and Professional Boundaries This chapter explores the parallels between coaching in a corporate setting and effective parenting, focusing on setting boundaries and achieving alignment in communication. We discuss the importance of understanding the end goal in both professional and personal environments, and how aligning on expectations can ease difficult conversations. Emphasizing the emotional burden that often arises more intensely at home, we highlight how mastering emotional regulation and boundary-setting in personal life can translate to more effective interactions in the workplace. By addressing these challenges at home, where emotional triggers and lack of sleep are common, we suggest that individuals can enhance their professional demeanor. Additionally, the conversation touches on the dynamics of being an ambivert, balancing the need for extroversion at work with the necessity for introversion at home, and the significance of role modeling effective communication and emotional awareness for loved ones. (28:24) Maintaining Consistent Communication of Boundaries This chapter focuses on the importance of setting and maintaining boundaries in both professional and personal settings. We explore how effective communication and consistency are key in upholding these boundaries, preventing confusion and frustration for both ourselves and others. By establishing clear priorities, we can better filter requests and ensure our time is spent on what truly matters. The conversation draws parallels between work scenarios and parenting, highlighting the necessity of teaching others how to treat us through consistent boundary enforcement. We also discuss the emotional toll of not holding firm on boundaries, noting how it can lead to stress and frustration when decisions are made out of pressure rather than genuine willingness. Lastly, we acknowledge that boundaries may need to adapt over time depending on life circumstances, emphasizing the importance of regularly reassessing their relevance and effectiveness. (34:00) Navigating Boundary Setting and People Pleasing This chapter addresses how to effectively communicate boundaries when faced with an overwhelming workload. I explore strategies to maintain balance, such as informing others that while a task may be familiar, current priorities prevent its immediate completion. Emphasizing the importance of not committing to future dates without a clear view of upcoming obligations, I suggest revisiting the task at a later time to allow both parties to reassess priorities. Language plays a critical role in boundary-setting, especially for introverted leaders who may feel pressured to make instant decisions. I encourage allowing time for internal processing and advise seeking permission to respond at a later time, thus avoiding hasty commitments and reducing stress. The discussion transitions into the topic of people-pleasing, hinting at future exploration of transforming this mindset. (40:24) Navigating the Coaching Process This chapter focuses on the importance of directing energy towards what we can control and the significance of setting healthy boundaries in relationships. I discuss how chasing after people and trying to please everyone can drain energy and lead to stress, emphasizing that people may ...
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    56 min
  • S5E8: Mastering Emotional Control and Setting Effective Boundaries with Dr. Angela Buckley
    Jan 13 2025

    Unlock the secret to maintaining control over your emotions and responses in challenging situations with Dr. Angela Buckley on this enlightening episode of Overcome to Become. If you've ever struggled with setting boundaries that others fail to respect, prepare to gain a new perspective and actionable strategies. Dr. Buckley shares her wisdom on recognizing and naming emotions, using tools like deep breathing and mindfulness to respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively. You'll learn how to normalize feelings of frustration and disappointment, ensuring they don't dictate your behavior when boundaries are overstepped.

    Through engaging anecdotes and insightful reflections, Dr. Buckley guides listeners on approaching boundary challenges with curiosity and compassion. She emphasizes the importance of pressing pause to reassess desired outcomes and navigate tough conversations. This episode is an empowering resource for anyone looking to enhance their leadership skills and personal empowerment. It's not just about setting boundaries—it's about reinforcing them effectively and compassionately, leading to healthier communication and stronger relationships in both personal and professional spheres. Join us on this journey toward more intentional living and leadership.

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    10 min
  • S5E7: Re-Establishing Boundaries after Major Life Events
    Jan 6 2025
    Summary

    Re-establish your boundaries and regain balance in your life by tuning into this enlightening episode of Overcome to Become. I, Dr. Angela Buckley, guide you through the essential steps of setting boundaries to navigate life's inevitable disruptions, like recovering from a sinus infection or handling demanding projects. Discover how observing nature's cycles can inspire us to align our personal and professional boundaries, leading to a more fulfilling and stress-free life. Learn to embrace flexibility within these boundaries, which is crucial for maintaining well-being and preventing burnout.

    We dive deep into actionable strategies for reinforcing boundaries that align with your values and goals. By reflecting on priorities and understanding the importance of pulling back after periods of intense focus, you can master the art of leading yourself more effectively. This episode is packed with scientific insights and personal anecdotes that emphasize the importance of rest and recovery, particularly in the winter season. Don't miss out on these transformative strategies—share this wisdom with friends who are also yearning for personal and professional growth.

    Key Words

    Boundaries, Balance, Life, Nature, Cycles, Flexibility, Well-being, Burnout, Priorities, Reflection, Recovery, Winter, Growth, Strategies, Personal, Professional, Science, Rest, Transformation, Wisdom

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    15 min
  • S5E6: Small Steps for Big Wins in Setting Boundaries with SPIRIT
    Dec 30 2024
    Summary

    Unlock the secret to boosting your motivation and reinforcing positive behaviors by celebrating small wins and practicing gratitude. Join Dr. Angela Buckley on the Overcome to Become podcast as we harness the power of the SPIRIT method of acknowledgment to transform the way you express gratitude and recognize accomplishments. Guided by Teresa Amabile's progress principle, we'll explore how even the tiniest victories in boundary setting can elevate your emotional well-being and drive continued progress. Dr. Buckley promises a journey into the art of specific, personal, impactful, relevant, inclusive, and timely gratitude—each element a stepping stone toward building stronger relationships and nurturing self-worth. In this empowering episode, we'll redefine how you perceive gratitude, moving beyond mere platitudes to cultivate genuine self-compassion and resilience. Discover practical insights on expressing gratitude, whether it's appreciating those who respect your boundaries or acknowledging your own efforts.

    Each thank-you note becomes a powerful affirmation of your values and self-worth, helping you to embrace positivity even in challenging times. Tune in to learn how to create a supportive environment that not only fosters a culture of mutual respect but also enhances perseverance on your personal and professional growth journey.

    The Power of Gratitude

    The episode explores how practicing gratitude and celebrating small wins can boost motivation and reinforce positive behaviors, contributing to both personal and professional growth.

    SPIRIT Method of Acknowledgment:

    Dr. Angela Buckley introduces the SPIRIT method, which stands for Specific, Personal, Impactful, Relevant, Inclusive, and Timely, as a structured approach to expressing gratitude effectively.

    The Progress Principle

    The discussion is guided by Teresa Amabile's progress principle, emphasizing that recognizing even small victories can enhance emotional well-being and drive further progress. Practical Insights: Listeners receive practical advice on expressing gratitude, whether it's acknowledging those who respect boundaries or appreciating one's own efforts. Self-Worth and Resilience: The episode delves into the importance of self-gratitude and self-compassion, highlighting how these practices can enhance resilience and perseverance.

    Gratitude Beyond Platitudes

    Dr. Buckley encourages moving beyond superficial expressions of gratitude to cultivate genuine appreciation that aligns with personal values and fosters self-worth. Building

    Supportive Environments

    The episode emphasizes creating a culture of mutual respect and support by recognizing and reinforcing positive behaviors, both in personal and organizational contexts. Celebrating Small Wins: Regularly acknowledging small achievements is presented as a way to maintain motivation and create positive energy, contrasting with the negative impact of setbacks. Encouraging Inclusion: By using the SPIRIT method, the episode highlights the importance of creating inclusive environments where everyone participates in setting boundaries and acknowledging successes.

    Practical Application

    The episode provides tips on incorporating the SPIRIT method into daily life, encouraging consistent practice in both professional and personal interactions. Call to Action: Dr. Buckley invites listeners to join the Strength in Nature Learning Academy for further learning and offers a discount on the "Overcome the Overwhelm" course.

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    16 min
  • S5E5: Mastering Boundaries: Communicating with Confidence and Compassion
    Dec 16 2024
    Mastering Boundaries: Communicating with Confidence and Compassion 1. Choosing the Right Moment and Environment
    • Assess the Environment: Choose a setting that feels safe and conducive to open dialogue, avoiding environments with potential distractions or stressors. Research suggests that people are more receptive in calm, neutral settings.
    • Timing Matters: Opt for a time when both you and the other party are relaxed and have the bandwidth for meaningful conversation. This minimizes the risk of defensive reactions and miscommunications.
    2. Framing the Conversation

    Be Direct but Compassionate: Use "I" statements to express your needs without assigning blame. For example, "I need time to recharge in the evenings, so I won't be available for calls after 7 PM".

    • Highlight the Purpose: Emphasize that boundaries help maintain healthier relationships and personal well-being. Transparency about your motives can foster understanding and support from others.
    3. Adjusting Your Approach
    • Immediate Enforcement Consequences: Abrupt changes can lead to confusion or conflict. While sometimes necessary, it’s generally more effective to discuss changes proactively.
    • Casual vs. Formal Discussions: Tailor your approach to the relationship and context. Casual settings might work for minor personal boundaries, while professional boundaries often require formal discussions, possibly even dedicated meetings.
    • Smoothing Transitions: Gradually implement changes where possible, allowing others time to adapt. Reinforce new boundaries with gentle reminders and consistency.
    4. Handling Challenges and Maintaining Flexibility
    • Be Prepared for Pushback: Some may resist or test your boundaries. Respond with calm and reaffirm your stance, but remain open to dialogue for necessary adjustments.
    • Stay Flexible: Life is dynamic, and so are relationships. Be willing to adjust boundaries as situations and relationships evolve, ensuring they continue to serve your overarching goals.

    Keywords:

    Boundaries, Effective Communication, Timing, Environment, Conversations, Empowerment, Leadership, Courage, Needs, Values, Setting, Direct, Compassionate, Dialogue, Scheduling, Change, Personal Relationships, Professional Relationships, Leadership Skills, Graceful Communication

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    15 min
  • S5E4: Visualizing Boundaries: Conquering Burnout and Enhancing Personal Growth
    Dec 9 2024

    In episode of "Overcome to Become," hosted by Dr. Angela Buckley, the focus is on the importance and artistry of setting personal boundaries as a means to combat burnout and foster personal growth. Dr. Buckley, an author and leadership consultant, utilizes Robert Frost's poem "Mending Wall" to illustrate how boundaries define personal space and facilitate health and well-being, much like a garden protected by fences. She encourages listeners to visualize and refine their own boundaries, which should be flexible and considerate of personal values, to effectively manage time and energy while maintaining relationships. Through metaphorical exploration of garden-like boundaries, the episode advocates for cultivating a self-care practice that clearly communicates personal needs, promoting a balanced and resilient life. Listeners are invited to further engage with these concepts through the Strength in Nature Learning Academy. Keywords: Boundaries, Personal Growth, Leadership, Burnout, Mental Health, Well-being, Energy, Time, Professional, Personal Development, Fences, Security, Purpose, Poise, Robert Frost, Mending Wall, Invisible Barriers, Aspiring Leader, Garden, Front Yard, Backyard, Symbiotic Relationship, Actionable Tasks, Transform, Approach

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    7 min
  • S5E3: Navigating Backlash When Setting Boundaries
    Dec 2 2024

    Setting boundaries can be a game-changer, but how do you handle the backlash from people who aren't ready for your transformation? On this episode of Overcome to Become, I, Dr. Angela Buckley, share insights from my own leadership journey about the critical role of self-fortification and how it helps navigate resistance from friends, family, and colleagues. Through personal anecdotes, like the evolving dynamic between my teenage son and me, we explore how redefining roles can lead to healthier relationships and empower us to reclaim our time and energy. Unpacking the concept of boundary setting, we dive into understanding its role as a self-care strategy. We explore the psychological and emotional responses others have when you begin to say "no" and set limits, challenging their established beliefs and behaviors. Whether you're a seasoned leader or just starting your journey, this episode equips you with actionable strategies to build resilience against the discomfort that naturally arises when you set new boundaries. Join us to learn how acknowledging and addressing this resistance is an essential step toward personal and professional growth. Keywords Leadership, Personal Growth, Boundaries, Self-Fortification, Empowerment, Relationships, Psychological, Emotional, Challenges, Parenting, Resilience, Transformative, Professional, Personal Life, Time, Energy, Communication, Science-Backed, Coaching

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    18 min