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SHAME + NARCISSISM = SEX ADDICTION. Too simplistic? Maybe, but it is a good place to start, if you want to better understand the reason for the activities - as an outlet for Shame & Narcissism.

Try hard to come out from under the umbrella of covering that Shame provides - but is unseen. It covers the Addict and a partner. It keeps them hidden and in hiding. yet, the antidote to shame is to come out of hiding. But it is vital that the 'coming out of hiding' is into the right forum and/or individuals.

The wrong forum or individuals, will cause or contribute to an adverse and unhelpful increase in Shame - which causes individuals to quickly scurry back into hiding and not come back out for a very long time.

Shame is a conundrum for some cultures - such as Asians - because Shame arises when the individual in that community has not lived up to the community's rules and expectations. Asian (and those with a similar culture) prides itself on collectivist, interdependence, social harmony and group cohesion. The "we" is paramount.

It does function to build group harmony and unity; but can also be an intolerable burden, tied to fear of rejection, exposure, ostracising and loss of both family and cultural community support; where Asians put a high value on the harmonious integration of group members. The fear is that one's inadequacies (exposed) will result in loss of union within the group or expulsion from the group.

Such cultures experience Shame of one's actions in the broader context of 'individuality' and 'collectively/(the broader community group). Upholding the concept of 'cultural honour' is of paramount importance. Therefore a learned response is to suppress emotions and personal inadequacies and problems. Sex addicts are locked into silence.

Shame loves that and will thrive - rubbing its metaphorical hands - with glee and delight.

Let The Kairos Centre show you where and how to come out of hiding and thereby break the back of Shame. Something also about 'Compassion'.

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.

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