Hey Doc —

How do you manage with young kids with household duties, work, marriage…life?

It’s the question I hear constantly — in coaching calls, Facebook posts, in casual conversations when someone’s hanging on by a thread. And if you have no nearby family and no reliable backup? The question starts to feel like a punchline.

Most advice boils down to: Just outsource more.

But if it were that simple, you would’ve done it already.

In this episode, I walk you through the real answer — the one I give my clients when they’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and questioning whether this version of life is sustainable. And no, it doesn’t start with a budget or a new chore chart. It starts with values. Identity. Permission.

You’ll learn:

• Why mindset work has to come before outsourcing
• How to audit your household labor (without sparking a fight)
• What “paid” and “unpaid” village building actually looks like
• And how to make space for the life you worked so hard to build

This isn’t about becoming more efficient.

It’s about building a system that supports the version of you that matters most.

🎧 Listen to the full episode — especially if you’ve been trying to survive with zero backup and a calendar that’s doing too much.

And because I love to make your life easier, here are the other episodes I reference in this one:

• Spouse Skeptic? Navigating Au Pair Objections for Physician Moms (for when you’re on board but he’s… not quite there yet)
• The entire June husband series:
  • What Your Husband Was Never Taught: The Expectation Gap at Home
  • How Did We Get Here? When Modern Marriage Falls Into Traditional Roles
  • Let Him Be Great: Releasing Control in Your Home
  • Hey Hubby: What Your Wife Wishes You Understood About Motherhood

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

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Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc,

We’re heading into the holiday season, and I want to offer you a small but powerful reminder — the kind we don’t usually give ourselves this time of year. Between the gifts, the traditions, the kids, the family expectations, and the pressure to “create magic,” it’s so easy to slide into the background of your own life without even noticing.

But what if this year looked different?

What if you let yourself want what you actually want — without guilt, without hinting, without hoping people will guess?

In this short episode, I’m sharing a simple, direct nudge as we close out the year. Think of this as your holiday check-in: a moment to reconsider how much you give, how often you bend, and where you’ve quietly disappeared under everyone else's needs.

🎧 Tune in to the full episode — this is your reminder to put yourself back at the center of your own season.

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

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If you are going through a transition -- becoming a parent, leaving a job, figuring out how manage it all, schedule a strategy coaching session and get clarity and strategic next steps for the life and career you want.

Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya

Hey Doc —

What if I told you your husband and AI have way more in common than you think?

Not in a “men are robots” way, but in a “this explains so much about your marriage” way.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the four big parallels between husbands and AI — the ones that quietly shape your communication, your expectations, and yes… your resentment. And listen, I love AI and I love husbands, so this episode is coming from a place of deep affection and deep realness.

We’re talking about the stuff we all experience but rarely say out loud:

• The mind-reading you wish he could do (but he absolutely cannot)
• The unspoken expectations that turn into premeditated resentments
• How his upbringing — just like AI training data — shapes everything
• Why he jumps straight into Fix-It Mode when you just wanted “Ugh babe, that sucks”
• And why you should be using (and leveraging) both AI and your husband way more than you are

If you've ever wondered “Why doesn’t he just KNOW?” or you’ve found yourself venting to him only to get a full strategic plan you didn’t ask for — this episode is for you.

Share this one with another physician mom who’s ready for more clarity, less resentment, and better communication in her marriage.

🎧 Go listen to the full episode

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

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Join my Email list to get tips on navigating motherhood in the medical field.

If you are going through a transition -- becoming a parent, leaving a job, figuring out how manage it all, schedule a strategy coaching session and get clarity and strategic next steps for the life and career you want.

Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya