• SurvivingToThriving with Meghan

  • Auteur(s): Meghan
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SurvivingToThriving with Meghan

Auteur(s): Meghan
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  • My story. My journey. My offering to the universe.
    © 2024 SurvivingToThriving with Meghan
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  • Episode 11: Abuse of Kids, Pets & Property
    Oct 4 2023

    Is the abuse of pets and destruction of property considered domestic violence? I would argue that it is. In this episode I discuss the characteristics of abuse that include using kids, pets, and property to control or manipulate a situation, emotions, or another person. For a full list of references, please visit my blog:

    Moments with Meghan
    https://meghantschida2021.wixsite.com/my-site

    Please remember- You're not crazy, you're not alone, you deserve healthy love, and you're safe here.

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    15 min
  • Episode 10: Spiritual Abuse
    Sep 26 2023

    Spiritual abuse is a complicated topic because everyone's religious beliefs are different, everyone typically thinks that their beliefs are the correct ones, and many, many abuse survivors have had religion used against them at some point, either by their abuser or as secondary abuse (sometimes referred to as double abuse) by their church or families. Often, the victim ends up leaving the church altogether due to this abuse.

    In their book Escaping the Maze of Spiritual Abuse, Dr. Lisa Oakley and Justin Humphreys define spiritual abuse as "A form of emotional and psychological abuse. It is characterized by systematic pattern of coercive and controlling behavior in a religious context." They also state that "Spiritual abuse can have a deeply damaging impact on those who experience it."

    There are entire podcasts, blogs, and foundations devoted just to the topic of religious abuse, but for our purposes, I will discuss the markers of spiritual abuse within an abusive relationship that are listed in Sarah McDougal's Red Flags chart. Many of the examples come from the Patrick Weaver Ministries Facebook Page. Please keep in mind that these 'half truths, untruths and/or false applications of scripture' are used to coerce and abuse. While some of these statements may seem true within the scope of a healthy relationship, they absolutely do not apply to an abusive one.

    For a written out list of the explanations, examples, and resource list, please hop over to my blog for the full list.

    https://meghantschida2021.wixsite.com/my-site

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    9 min
  • Episode 9: Intellectual Abuse
    Sep 11 2023

    Do you know someone who's so difficult to disagree with that it's just a waste of time? Do you find yourself agreeing just so that you don't have to argue, even if you know you're in the right? Or, do they have a reputation of 'always being right' to a point where it's just easier to agree? This is not ok. This is not normal. In an intimate relationship, this is abuse.

    Intellectual Abuse can be defined as an overall disrespect for another's intellectual interests, talent, way of thinking, or learning styles. This goes beyond just disagreeing with someone's ideas or having a different worldview. Remember, when we're talking abuse, we're talking a pattern of behavior that belittles, demeans, or shifts the power/control dynamic between partners.

    This particular series of podcasts is my own experience with abuse. The definitions and characteristics that I use are drawn from the Power and Control Wheel, specifically Sarah McDougal's version.

    Some indicators of intellectual abuse include:
    --Demanding perfection
    (Can look like........Nothing can ever be right, nit-picking tasks, ideas, texts, or communication)

    --Insists on proof of your right to opinions
    (Can sound like......'Prove it,' 'Who says?' 'Who do you think you are? 'You think you're smarter than everyone else now?' 'You're just saying that because so-and-so thinks that') This is a tricky one because often disagreements involve asking for authority or validity to support opinions; this is normal. What's not normal, is belittling someone's opinions or not even allowing for someone else to even have an opinion. It's an attitude that everyone else is wrong, their opinion is right, and there's really no room for argument.

    --Insults intellect, education level, or ability to think
    (For me, this sounded like 'Well, I don't have a fancy Master's Degree like you.' In public, he would brag about how smart I am and how educated I am, but in private, I would be called a 'lazy banker's daughter' who had no right to an opinion, no intellectual value, or ability to think independently.)

    --Dumbs victim down
    (Can sound like......'Even you have to agree that xyz is wrong' 'Wouldn't you agree that you're not the best decision maker?' 'Just because you have a *insert education or training* doesn't mean you know everything.')

    --Intimidated by your mind
    (Can sound like........'I guess I'm just not as smart as you.' Can also look like a refusal to talk about anything that could have multiple interpretations.)

    --Refuses to allow you to disagree
    (This is where arguing is pointless. They're always right and there's no room for discussion. Ideas are never addressed - only superficial topics because those are subject to the abuser's final opinion. Black and white thinking and circular logic helps to accomplish this.)

    --Invalidates others if they point out abuse
    (Can sound like......'they just think they're better than us.' 'They have no idea what they're talking about.' 'Who do they think they are to talk like that?' 'Even you'd have to agree that so-and-so is a hothead.')

    When researching intellectual abuse, the internet grouped it into emotional, psychological, and spiritual abuse rather than intellectual abuse in itself. My next episode will be on spiritual abuse, but for now this gives some clarity as to what intellectual abuse sounds, feels, and looks like.

    As always, you're not crazy, you're not alone, you deserve healthy love, and you're safe here.

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    8 min

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