"How dare you not only win but have the audacity to celebrate?!"

Too often, women are shamed for owning their success and taking up space. In this powerful conversation with Dr. Sagashus Levingston, we unpack why bold energy makes people uncomfortable, how conformity keeps us small, why motherhood should not be rooted in sacrifice, and why sisterhood is the key to breaking free.

You can find Dr. Sagashus Levingston on LinkedIn and Instagram at Infamous.Mothers.

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2:46 – Meet my guest, Dr. Sagashus Levingston—her journey, expertise, and impact 4:20 – How I met Sagashus and knew the meeting was "divine" 6:57 – What Serena Williams' Crip Walk really symbolized at the Super Bowl 14:29 – The backlash against winning: "How dare you not only win, but celebrate?!" 16:15 – Why celebrating success can trigger others’ feelings of inadequacy 17:54 – Why we all need to show up as the Pink Highlighter in a world that wants us to blend in 24:11 – What is your Crip Walk? (The thing you were once shamed for but could reclaim today) 26:00 – The destruction that followed when Sagashus bought her dream home 28:47 – New Level, New Devil: The resistance I faced at our last retreat 30:14 – Why attacks in our lives are often tied to our greatest gifts 34:10 – The power of perspective: Nothing is wasted 37:09 – How Sagashus used her truth to unlock healing and growth 43:15 – The Power of Grit—how resilience shapes our path 47:29 – Redefining motherhood: Strength, mobility, and collective care over self-sacrifice 52:55 – The most sincere compliment I’ve ever received 1:02:30 – When pushback almost made Sagashus retreat, but she built a sisterhood instead 1:12:24 – How society tries to prevent women from forming sisterhoods and instills fear around Life After 40 Final Takeaways – Sagashus shares her wisdom and a message for listeners

This is your permission slip to stop playing small. Let’s break free, claim our space, and celebrate our wins—without apology!

Bullying doesn’t stop after childhood—it just evolves. In this episode, I sit down with Christina Lorey, Editor of UpNorthNews, to explore the reality of adult bullying and the ways it shows up in workplaces, online, and even within our communities. We discuss why the biggest bullies often aren’t kids, how our words shape the world around us, and why it takes courage to create instead of criticize.

Plus, we dive into small acts of kindness, the power of compassion, and the responsibility we all have for the energy we bring into spaces. If you've ever been hurt by words—or want to be more mindful of the ones you use—this episode is for you.

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Show Notes:

• 02:51 – Rise. Renew. Rebirth Retreat in Sedona, April 9-13
• 07:45 – Welcome my guest, Christina Lorey, Editor of UpNorthNews
• 14:56 – How Christina works to “uplift” the news despite negativity
• 20:00 – Why the biggest bullies aren’t children
• 30:02 – What it really means when something triggers you
• 33:01 – How the words our kids hear shape their beliefs and self-worth
• 41:39 – Why do we want to see others struggle instead of offering support?
• 44:41 – Christina flips the script and asks me a question
• 50:04 – Finding compassion for those who hurt you with words
• 53:33 – The courage to create vs. the ease of criticizing
• 58:04 – Small acts of kindness and the ripple effect they create
• 1:04:19 – The responsibility of our energy
• 1:07:16 – How to follow Christina & sign up for her newsletter

✨ Tune in now and let’s talk about breaking cycles, choosing kindness, and shifting the way we show up in the world. ✨

Join me for a special 50th episode with my 6-year-old son, Arlo, and his monkey, Stuart! We talk about co-creating with the Universe, managing BIG emotions, and the importance of keeping promises to our kids and Inner Child.

Arlo shares his unique perspective on self-regulation, the importance of tone and energy, and what every adult can learn from a 6-year-old about unconditional love and emotional balance. It’s an episode that will leave you laughing, reflecting, and reconnecting with the magic of your own Inner Child!

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Show Notes:

01:45 – Celebrating a BIG 50th Episode Milestone with one of my favorites 03:41 – How to co-create with God and the Universe 07:21 – Where did my imagination go? 09:19 – When Hulk takes over Legos and mom also needs to self-regulate 12:47 – Where Arlo feels sadness and anger in his body and what he does to feel better 15:59 – What parents can do when their kids have BIG feelings? 18:12 – Why keeping your promises to your child (and Inner Child) is a BIG deal 19:17 – When Hulk makes poor decisions and leaves Arlo to clean up the “mess” 22:59 – Why we need to be careful of our tone and energy 27:57 – What is a “Love Cup” and how to fill it 31:40 – Arlo’s reminder for adults

Episodes with his sister, Aria:

• Episode #22: Healing My Relationship with My Daughter
• Episode #40: Milestones, Memories, & The Depths Beneath the Surface