"How dare you not only win but have the audacity to celebrate?!"

Too often, women are shamed for owning their success and taking up space. In this powerful conversation with Dr. Sagashus Levingston, we unpack why bold energy makes people uncomfortable, how conformity keeps us small, why motherhood should not be rooted in sacrifice, and why sisterhood is the key to breaking free.

You can find Dr. Sagashus Levingston on LinkedIn and Instagram at Infamous.Mothers.

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2:46 – Meet my guest, Dr. Sagashus Levingston—her journey, expertise, and impact 4:20 – How I met Sagashus and knew the meeting was "divine" 6:57 – What Serena Williams' Crip Walk really symbolized at the Super Bowl 14:29 – The backlash against winning: "How dare you not only win, but celebrate?!" 16:15 – Why celebrating success can trigger others’ feelings of inadequacy 17:54 – Why we all need to show up as the Pink Highlighter in a world that wants us to blend in 24:11 – What is your Crip Walk? (The thing you were once shamed for but could reclaim today) 26:00 – The destruction that followed when Sagashus bought her dream home 28:47 – New Level, New Devil: The resistance I faced at our last retreat 30:14 – Why attacks in our lives are often tied to our greatest gifts 34:10 – The power of perspective: Nothing is wasted 37:09 – How Sagashus used her truth to unlock healing and growth 43:15 – The Power of Grit—how resilience shapes our path 47:29 – Redefining motherhood: Strength, mobility, and collective care over self-sacrifice 52:55 – The most sincere compliment I’ve ever received 1:02:30 – When pushback almost made Sagashus retreat, but she built a sisterhood instead 1:12:24 – How society tries to prevent women from forming sisterhoods and instills fear around Life After 40 Final Takeaways – Sagashus shares her wisdom and a message for listeners

This is your permission slip to stop playing small. Let’s break free, claim our space, and celebrate our wins—without apology!

Bullying doesn’t stop after childhood—it just evolves. In this episode, I sit down with Christina Lorey, Editor of UpNorthNews, to explore the reality of adult bullying and the ways it shows up in workplaces, online, and even within our communities. We discuss why the biggest bullies often aren’t kids, how our words shape the world around us, and why it takes courage to create instead of criticize.

Plus, we dive into small acts of kindness, the power of compassion, and the responsibility we all have for the energy we bring into spaces. If you've ever been hurt by words—or want to be more mindful of the ones you use—this episode is for you.

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Show Notes:

• 02:51 – Rise. Renew. Rebirth Retreat in Sedona, April 9-13
• 07:45 – Welcome my guest, Christina Lorey, Editor of UpNorthNews
• 14:56 – How Christina works to “uplift” the news despite negativity
• 20:00 – Why the biggest bullies aren’t children
• 30:02 – What it really means when something triggers you
• 33:01 – How the words our kids hear shape their beliefs and self-worth
• 41:39 – Why do we want to see others struggle instead of offering support?
• 44:41 – Christina flips the script and asks me a question
• 50:04 – Finding compassion for those who hurt you with words
• 53:33 – The courage to create vs. the ease of criticizing
• 58:04 – Small acts of kindness and the ripple effect they create
• 1:04:19 – The responsibility of our energy
• 1:07:16 – How to follow Christina & sign up for her newsletter

✨ Tune in now and let’s talk about breaking cycles, choosing kindness, and shifting the way we show up in the world. ✨

Join me for a special 50th episode with my 6-year-old son, Arlo, and his monkey, Stuart! We talk about co-creating with the Universe, managing BIG emotions, and the importance of keeping promises to our kids and Inner Child.

Arlo shares his unique perspective on self-regulation, the importance of tone and energy, and what every adult can learn from a 6-year-old about unconditional love and emotional balance. It’s an episode that will leave you laughing, reflecting, and reconnecting with the magic of your own Inner Child!

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Show Notes:

01:45 – Celebrating a BIG 50th Episode Milestone with one of my favorites 03:41 – How to co-create with God and the Universe 07:21 – Where did my imagination go? 09:19 – When Hulk takes over Legos and mom also needs to self-regulate 12:47 – Where Arlo feels sadness and anger in his body and what he does to feel better 15:59 – What parents can do when their kids have BIG feelings? 18:12 – Why keeping your promises to your child (and Inner Child) is a BIG deal 19:17 – When Hulk makes poor decisions and leaves Arlo to clean up the “mess” 22:59 – Why we need to be careful of our tone and energy 27:57 – What is a “Love Cup” and how to fill it 31:40 – Arlo’s reminder for adults

Episodes with his sister, Aria:

• Episode #22: Healing My Relationship with My Daughter
• Episode #40: Milestones, Memories, & The Depths Beneath the Surface

From embracing the dark feminine energy to breaking free from the “good girl” conditioning, Zoe and I dive into the wounds that shape us, the armor we wear, and the freedom that comes when we finally feel safe to be seen. Plus, we unpack the impact of childhood wounds, the power of deep healing immersion, and why taking a break from daily life is sometimes the exact medicine we need.

✨ Ready to step into your healing? Learn more about the Rise, Renew, Rebirth Retreat here!

Show Notes:

• 5:53 – The retreat experience: what happens when you step into a space of healing and deep immersion
• 8:20 – Balancing the "Good Girl" and embracing your dark feminine energy
• 10:46 – How childhood wounds and silenced emotions still impact us today
• 19:27 – Navigating independence, removing shame, and reclaiming your truth
• 24:08 – When a small pebble in your shoe creates a big wound (and what that means in life)
• 26:24 – Pressing pause on everyday life to tend to your Inner Child and the Woman within
• 29:57 – What it’s like to feel safe to be seen—without your armor
• 36:50 – When someone else’s light triggers you: what it reveals about you
• 43:12 – Special retreat incentive for taking inspired action, $500 OFF until 2/22/25!

✨ Ready to step into your healing? Learn more about the Rise, Renew, Rebirth Retreat here!

Episodes Mentioned:

• #2: Lose Yourself to Find Yourself (Zoe)
• #48: The Wake-Up Call: From Rock Bottom to a Life of Purpose (Katie)
• #42: The Dance Between Masculine & Feminine Energy: Healing After Divorce (Andrew)
• #36: Redefining Masculinity: From Tough Guy to Devoted Husband (Santino)

Katie’s story reveals how our childhood environments can create deep wounds that the Ego tries to protect by disconnecting us from our true selves. After years of addiction and a life-changing car crash that led to her intervention, Katie began a courageous journey of healing, uncovering the love and worth that had always been within her.

If you would like to support this channel and hear more inspiring stories, join the Tami Talks Tribe by becoming a Patreon.

Show Notes:

• 01:59 – How I learned about Katie after she officiated a mutual friend’s wedding
• 08:28 – How Katie ended up in Texas and found her sobriety
• 12:18 – Katie’s childhood story and how it shaped her foundation
• 22:14 – The decisions and choices Ego makes to protect the Inner Child
• 25:58 – Embracing vulnerability and the parts of us that Ego tried to protect by hiding
• 32:43 – Illuminating self-discovery and the need to feel seen in your experience
• 37:58 – The ripple effects of addiction
• 42:52 – How self-love can help heal abandonment wounds
• 47:27 – When addiction and trauma prevent you from doing what you know you should do
• 51:18 – How boundaries can allow you to have and give unconditional love for others and yourself
• 56:43 – Why healing can feel incredibly lonely and help you build a new baseline
• 1:01:48 – Co-creating your reality and how Arlo manifests
• 1:04:46 – Dealing with resentment and helping your Inner Child heal
• 1:07:27 – When you are purpose-driven and trust in God’s plan
• 1:12:29 – The catalyst for Katie’s journey to sobriety

✨ This episode is a reminder that no matter how lost we feel, healing is possible, and sometimes, it starts with just one person showing up for us.

Episodes Mentioned: #47: If They Wanted To, They Would

Have you ever found yourself stuck on the phrase, "If they wanted to, they would"? This belief can sting deeply, especially when it triggers unhealed wounds from childhood. In this episode, we’ll explore the emotional layers behind this phrase and why shifting to a "Let Them" mindset can open the door to healing and freedom.

Through personal stories, divine messages, and practical insights, we’ll uncover how to let go, break the cycle of pain, and embrace acceptance—all while healing your inner child.

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Show Notes:

• 01:31 – How a “Code Blue” confirmed the message I am channeling
• 05:57 – Challenging the phrase, “If they wanted to, they would”
• 11:35 – The shift to “Let Them”
• 15:14 – How “If they wanted to, they would” triggers childhood wounds
• 17:18 – How Arlo’s framed banana was a teaching moment
• 24:40 – What would you do differently if you survived a code blue?
• 34:03 – When God sends a message from above to get your attention
• 38:01 – Heal so you can “Let Them”
• 40:45 – Do you have a “Betrayal Wound?”

Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode #44: The Sound of Silence
• Episode #34: The Importance of Movement

Join the Conversation: What resonates with you from today’s episode? Have you experienced moments where "If they wanted to, they would" triggered old wounds? Share your story with me in the comments, on social media, or via email at tami@unscriptedhealingwi.com!

In this inspiring episode, I sit down with Keith Batenhorst, founder of the Mental Mountains Project, to uncover his incredible journey of resilience, healing his Inner Child, and giving back to help others climb their own mental mountains.

Keith shares his battles with panic attacks, substance abuse, and the uphill climb to finding mental health support. Through vulnerability and determination, he overcame personal challenges, summiting both literal and figurative mountains.

Tune in to hear how his journey led him to create the Mental Mountains Project and find out what expeditions he plans to conquer next to raise money for those in need of mental health support.

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Show Notes:

• 0:02:08 – What is the Mental Mountains Mission?
• 0:03:24 – My biggest on-air podcast “flub” to date!
• 0:04:26 – Why I’m obsessed with my heated vest from Ventusa: Shop it here
• 0:06:41 – Meet today’s guest, Keith Batenhorst, founder of the Mental Mountains Project
• 0:08:19 – The uphill battle: Keith’s struggle to find mental health support
• 0:17:10 – Keith’s mental mountain: Battling panic attacks and substance abuse
• 0:24:39 – The turning point that helped Keith overcome his challenges
• 0:31:00 – Keith faces his fears: Climbing Grand Teton, elevation 13,700 feet
• 0:33:40 – The hard truth Keith discovered at the summit
• 0:38:08 – How showing up for someone else likely saved Keith’s life
• 0:40:33 – Finding purpose through giving back
• 0:53:10 – How hiking helped heal Keith’s worthiness wound
• 0:57:25 – Building resilience in the face of adversity
• 1:04:25 – The healing power of vulnerability and letting people in
• 1:10:41 – Understanding the impact of childhood trauma
• 1:17:37 – Keith’s full-circle journey back to worthiness
• 1:23:20 – How you can support the Mental Mountains Project

My Favorite Heated Vest

Episodes Mentioned:

• #45: Faith Through Tragedy
• #33: Healing & Hope Through Recovery

Discover the healing power of faith, community, and compassion in this heartfelt episode. Together, we explore the power of sharing our stories, the importance of community during tragedy, and the legacy left by Mark’s son, Abraham. Mark opens up about the emotional wounds that come from trauma, the impact of small, intentional gestures, and how his faith has deepened even through loss.

We also dive into creating safe spaces for men to express their emotions and the importance of approaching everyone with compassion because we never truly know their struggles. This conversation is a powerful reminder of resilience, connection, and healing through faith and community.

01:30 – The confirmation I received from God about my ability to channel after last week’s episode. 07:12 – Join me and Krista at Tellurian’s Not-A-Gala event on February 28th! 08:14 – Welcoming my guest, Mark Bendorf. 10:51 – Why healing happens when we share our stories. 14:52 – Mark shares the story of his son, Abraham, and the lasting impact he made. 21:02 – The importance of having community and support during times of tragedy. 30:41 – The power of small gestures and how to be intentional in showing care. 36:56 – How emotional support around traumatic events can reduce the wounds left behind. 40:51 – Why you can’t pour from an empty cup and the need for self-care. 43:18 – The importance of creating safe spaces for men to express their emotions. 50:49 – A call to meet everyone with compassion, as we all carry unseen struggles. 55:17 – How Mark’s faith was strengthened despite the tragedy of losing his son.

If this episode resonated with you, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this message. And if you’re local, mark your calendars for Tellurian’s Not-A-Gala event on February 28th! Let’s keep healing and supporting one another. To learn more, visit their website.