In this episode, Arlina Allen explores the truth about 12-step programs and dives deep into the common misconceptions, barriers, and unexpected benefits. Arlina shares her personal journey from resistance to transformation, highlighting how reframing common challenges—like the language of “character defects” and the concept of powerlessness—can make the 12 steps a powerful tool for healing.

Key Takeaways:

• [01:06] – Why 12-Step Programs Are So Misunderstood

• [05:00] – Reframing the Good Wolf vs. Bad Wolf Parable

• [07:22] – The Problem with “Character Defects”

• [15:46] – The Illusion of Moderation: Can You Control Your Drinking?

• [25:14] – Why 12-Step Programs Get a Bad Reputation

• [28:46] – Rethinking the Role of God in Recovery

• [37:35] – Why Words Like “Alcoholic” Can Be Both Useful & Limiting

• [46:31] – The 12 Steps as a Structured Path to Change

• [50:49] – The 4th Step: Why Looking at Ourselves is So Hard

• [54:28] – Is AA a Cult? Debunking the Myth

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In this episode, Jillian Turecki delves into relationships, the hidden relationship trap, and how negative narratives sabotage love. Jillian emphasizes the internal battle we face between positive and negative thoughts, likening our minds to battlefields. She highlights the importance of not believing every thought that crosses our minds and instead tuning into our hearts and instincts for a more fulfilling life.

Key Takeaways:

• [00:05:20] Relationship dynamics and interpretations.
• [00:12:17] Relationship resistance and patterns.
• [00:15:14] Responsibility in toxic relationships.
• [00:18:04] Taking responsibility for love life.
• [00:22:14] Relationship patterns and personal growth.
• [00:29:01] Accountability in relationships.
• [00:30:27] Truth as medicine in relationships.
• [00:39:08] Making peace with unhealthy habits.
• [00:44:26] Relationship accountability and needs.
• [00:50:22] Importance of genuine appreciation.
• [00:52:56] Relationship positivity ratio.
• [00:57:12] Emotional patterns in relationships.
• [01:04:38] Fear driving relationship behaviors.
• [01:05:58] Effective communication strategies.
• [01:10:56] Positive intent in relationships.
• [01:16:36] Healing from heartbreak.

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If you enjoyed this conversation, check out these other episodes:

How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson

Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigating Romantic Relationships

Cindy Stulberg on Relationships

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In this episode, Corey Keyes explores the concept of languishing vs. flourishing and how to feel alive again He delves into the often-overlooked emotional state that exists between mental illness and thriving and discusses how many of us can feel worn down by life and stuck in a gray zone of stagnation. Corey shares his insights on the importance of mindset and how changing the way we think about our daily tasks can lead us to a more fulfilling life. The discussion touches on the critical aspects of purpose, connection, and vitality, offering listeners strategies to move from languishing to flourishing.

Key Takeaways:

• 00:05:29 – The Role of Positive Psychology and Mental Health
• 00:06:46 – Corey’s Background and the Successful Aging Research Network
• 00:08:08 – The Purpose of Positive Psychology and Addressing Languishing
• 00:09:25 – Flourishing Despite Mental Health Conditions
• 00:10:08 – The Relationship Between Flourishing and Mental Illness
• 00:12:49 – The Challenge of Defining Recovery in Addiction and Mental Health
• 00:14:02 – The Lack of Peer Support Groups for Depression
• 00:15:05 – The Role of Experts in Mental Health
• 00:16:15 – The Difference Between Sharing with Experts and Peer Support
• 00:17:07 – The Importance of Having a Clear Program in Support Groups
• 00:18:04 – The Need for a New Approach to Mental Health Support Programs
• 00:19:01 – Defining Languishing and Its Distinction from Depression
• 00:20:36 – The Overlap Between Languishing and Depression
• 00:22:29 – The Impact of Languishing on Mental Health
• 00:23:39 – Personal Reflections on Eliminating Suffering and Seeking Joy
• 00:25:04 – The Challenge of Recalibrating After Addiction
• 00:25:58 – The Importance of Functioning Well
• 00:28:05 – The Nuances of Feeling Good vs. Functioning Well
• 00:30:09 – The Difference Between Satisfaction and Momentary Feelings
• 00:31:04 – The Role of Storytelling in Perceived Well-Being
• 00:32:49 – The Importance of Meaning and Values Over Mood
• 00:33:59 – Allowing Self-Assessment in Measuring Well-Being
• 00:35:53 – The Criteria for Flourishing and Languishing
• 00:37:08 – Encouraging Reflection and Integration for Listeners
• 00:38:18 – The Importance of Functioning Well in Achieving Flourishing
• 00:40:28 – The Difficulty of Achieving Social Well-Being
• 00:41:10 – The Five Vitamins of Flourishing
• 00:42:01 – Integrating Flourishing Activities into Daily Life
• 00:45:05 – The Importance of Mindset in Achieving Flourishing
• 00:47:09 – Research on Mindsets and Practical Applications

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