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Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

• Philippians 2:3-4

Many of us are familiar with this passage in scripture. We understand this idea “to be of service to others and treat them better than ourselves” - but when it’s the person who forgets to take out the garbage, who didn’t fill up the car, who forgot to schedule the kids’ doctor appointment - we don’t always feel like being of service. We want to be frustrated, grouchy, and maybe even a little resentful. But Paul makes it clear in Philippians that we are to treat others better than ourselves - and that includes our spouse. This honest, hilarious, and convicting episode reminds each of us that the person we should be out-serving is our spouse - and Dr. Gary and Barbie, as always, have some practical and insightful ways to do that.

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Healthy marriages are full of intention: intention to praise each other, intention to serve, intention to communicate, and the list goes on. The uncomfortable truth is that if we become passive in our relationship, indifference can creep in and lead to apathy - and as Dr. Gary and Barbie share today, apathy is the biggest marriage killer. So, how do we combat apathy and indifference? Connection! Listen up as Dr. Gary and Barbie share the “Two Chairs” method, a practice they began early in their marriage, and how setting aside 10-20 minutes every day to connect with your spouse can revolutionize your relationship.

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Have you ever found yourself in the middle of the same old argument? Something triggers it and you both fall into the same pattern of: confronting, blaming, defending, disrespecting, and…dang. You’re no closer to a resolution and you’re even more distant from your spouse. The Rosbergs call this the Crazy Making Cycle, and man, we have ALL been there. Luckily, Dr. Gary and Barbie have packed this episode full of practical ways to “interrupt” this cycle so you and your spouse can communicate with clarity, connect with validation and respect, and come closer together at the end of it all. After all, who doesn’t want to kiss and makeup?

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You and your spouse may each read your Bible, pray individually, and attend church as a family, but do you have true spiritual intimacy with one another? What is spiritual intimacy? Today, Dr. Gary and Barbie explain the spiritual needs that each husband and wife secretly desire and how you can support one another as you grow in Christ. If there’s a part of you that wonders if there’s “more” for your marriage when it comes to your spiritual walk together, we’ve got great news - there is more, and boy, oh boy, is it good.

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When walking through the darkness of pain, loss, financial hardships, or marital stress, it can seem impossible to express gratitude. When we are hurting it feels unnatural to shout a ‘Thank you, God!’, but when we force ourselves to count the blessings around us - even the basics of breath in our lungs to food on our table - things shift in our spirit and the atmosphere around us. In today’s episode, Dr. Gary and Barbie share how the simple act of gratitude can directly counter the enemy’s desire to keep us bound in despair and hopelessness. Living a life of gratitude happens one small intentional step at a time - and beautiful things begin to occur when you and your spouse are walking together in thankfulness.

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Who would you call your best friend? Would your spouse be at the top of that list? For some, it’s an easy “yes,” but for others, that question stirs a longing for something more. In this episode, Dr. Gary and Barbie explore the essential roles of friendship and companionship in marriage. They’ll share insights on how to cultivate trust, reignite excitement, and build a love that’s both joyful and enduring. The secret? It takes time - but it’s worth every moment.

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Today, Dr. Gary and Barbie continue the third installment of their series, 12 Steps to Having an Affair. Today, Gary and Barbie discuss steps 7-12: Purposeful Isolating, Pleasurable Isolating, Affectionate Embracing, Passionate Embracing, Capitulation, and Acceptance. However, this series is also one of encouragement and hope! Gary and Barbie emphasize that if you’ve ever found yourself in these 12 Steps (or are there right now), it is not too late. By confession before God, with a trusted advisor, and with your spouse, you are forgiven and you can work toward restoration in your marriage.

12 Steps to Having an Affair

Week One

1. Readiness
   • Is there a readiness in your spirit or in your spouse's spirit that could lead you to a place you don’t want to go?
2. Alertness
   • Are you aware of/alert of a certain person in your circle who you find yourself drawn to who isn’t your spouse?

Week Two

1. Innocent Meeting
   • A chance encounter with someone with whom you end up mentally/emotionally/spiritually connecting. Your guard is down.
2. Intentional Meeting
   • You’re looking for this individual when you are at the same events - or you make sure to be at events where they will be present. Your heart is looking for that connection with them.
3. Public Lingering
   • Time spent together in group meetings/settings. You linger together after the meeting has concluded. People will begin to notice your attention towards each other.
4. Private Lingering
   • You lean into more risk-taking and feel the need to hide your time together.

Week Three (this episode)

1. Purposeful Isolating
   • You plan private meetings for “legitimate purposes”, i.e. if you work together, you go to their office often to ask “questions”, etc.
2. Pleasurable Isolating
   • You plan private meetings specifically for the enjoyment of the relationship.
3. Affectionate Embracing
   • You both begin to rationalize touching (hands touching, placing a hand on the arm, etc.)
4. Passionate Embracing
   • You begin to purposely engage in affectionate touching and embracing, i.e., hugging, kissing, etc.
5. Capitulation
   • You take the next step and enter into a sexual relationship.
6. Acceptance
   • Mutual consent and acceptance of affair.

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America’s Family Coaches

Meet Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg

6 Secrets to a Lasting Love

The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women

Guard Your Heart

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12 Steps to An Affair PDF

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Temptations Men Face: Straightforward Talk on Power, Money, Affairs, Perfectionism, Insensitivity

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Today, Dr. Gary and Barbie continue the second installment of their series, 12 Steps to Having an Affair. Each episode will cover the slow and (sometimes innocent) steps that lead to infidelity if left unchecked. However, this series is also one of encouragement and hope! Today, Gary and Barbie discuss steps 3-6: Innocent Meeting, Intentional Meeting, Public Lingering, and Private Lingering.

Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss Gary and Barbie sharing biblically based, intentional actions every married couple can take to find the “more” in their marriage.

12 Steps to Having an Affair

Week One

1. Readiness
   • Is there a readiness in your spirit or in your spouse's spirit that could lead you to a place you don’t want to go?
2. Alertness
   • Are you aware of/alert of a certain person in your circle who you find yourself drawn to who isn’t your spouse?

Week Two (this episode)

1. Innocent Meeting
   • A chance encounter with someone who you end up mentally/emotionally/spiritually connecting with. Your guard is down.
2. Intentional Meeting
   • You’re looking for this individual when you are at the same events - or you make sure to be at events where they will be present. Your heart is looking for that connection with them.
3. Public Lingering
   • Time spent together in group meetings/settings. You linger together after the meeting has concluded. People will begin to notice your attention towards each other.
4. Private Lingering
   • You lean into more risk-taking and you feel the need to hide your time together.

Connect with the Rosbergs:

America’s Family Coaches

Meet Dr. Gary and Barb Rosberg

6 Secrets to a Lasting Love

The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women

Guard Your Heart

Resources

12 Steps to An Affair PDF

Have a marriage question? Call in and leave a message: 855-ROSBERG (855-767-2374)

Books Mentioned

Temptations Men Face: Straightforward Talk on Power, Money, Affairs, Perfectionism, Insensitivity

The 5 Love Needs of Men and Women