“I think any man out there that’s living out there that might be younger than the age of 30, I don’t think they’ve really felt the brutality of what it takes to survive in the world, right? And the world is not a nice place, as much as we all like to tell each other.”

Mental toughness isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build, brick by brutal brick. It’s about embracing discomfort, pushing past self-imposed limits, and refusing to be the guy who folds under pressure. The difference between success and failure? Discipline, resilience, and a willingness to go all in when others tap out. Whether it’s in business, fitness, or life, the men who win are the ones who don’t just endure hardship—they seek it out, because they know that steel is forged in fire.

Rob Arpa and Nicky Billou dive into the importance of fortifying the mind through physical challenge, discipline, and the right social circles. They discuss the teachings of elite athletes like David Goggins, the necessity of surrounding yourself with high-achievers, and why most men settle for mediocrity when they should be striving for dominance. Their message is clear: if you’re not actively strengthening your body and mind, you’re getting weaker.

Rob Arpa is a seasoned entrepreneur. With a background in business and a relentless drive for self-improvement, he’s built a seven-figure company while continually pushing his own limits. His insights into mindset, resilience, and success come from firsthand experience, making him a voice men should listen to—if they’re serious about stepping up their game.

Also in this episode:

“Never Finished” by David Goggins

https://davidgoggins.com/book/

“Can’t Hurt Me” by David Goggins

https://a.co/d/cQ4CDRX

“Finish Line Thinking: How to Think and Win Like a Champion” by Nicky Billou

https://a.co/d/hjA2G5S

“Extreme Ownership” by Jocko Willink

https://a.co/d/iVVdqWh

“Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill

https://a.co/d/gR1VwTK

“The Missing Secret” by Joe Vitale

https://a.co/d/8TiuQ9J

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“You can be anything to a woman, but you can’t be boring.”

The hard truth? Attraction dies when a man trades his edge for comfort, his decisiveness for “whatever you want, babe,” and his self-respect for a never-ending to-do list. Women don’t fall for a guy because he’s nice; they fall for a guy who makes their heart race, who leads with confidence, and who—let’s be honest—knows how to keep things interesting. Lose that, and you’re not in a relationship—you’re in a slow-moving hostage situation.

Our guest breaks down why so many men go from exciting to invisible in their own relationships. He shares war stories, laugh-out-loud failures, and the hard-earned lessons that turned it all around. The secret sauce? Stop asking permission, start leading, and remember: attraction isn’t a faucet you turn on when you’re in the mood—it’s a dynamic you maintain every single day.

Paul Bauer is a men’s coach, author, and podcast host who learned the rules of attraction the hard way—by breaking every single one of them. After years of trial, error, and some truly questionable dating decisions, he dedicated himself to understanding what makes relationships work. Now, he helps men reclaim their confidence, maintain their edge, and, most importantly, avoid becoming the human equivalent of background noise in their own love lives.

Learn more & connect:

Come on, Man podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ComeOnManPodcast

Books:

1. The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi
   https://www.amazon.com/Rational-Male-Rollo-Tomassi/dp/1492777862
2. No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
   https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy/dp/0762415339
3. The Player’s Handbook by Rollo Tomassi
   https://www.amazon.com/Players-Handbook-Rational-Male/dp/1801440402
4. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
   https://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Landmark-Bestseller/dp/1585424331
5. Atomic Attraction by Christopher Canwell
   https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Attraction-Psychology-Mastery-Dating/dp/1953616012
6. Married Man Sex Life Primer 2011 by Athol Kay
   https://www.amazon.com/Married-Man-Life-Primer-2011/dp/1460981731
7. The Essential Skills of a Masculine Presence Psychology Paradigm
   https://a.co/d/4D1djp0

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“Men kind of get complacent. They think they’ve reached this, you know, sort of finish line. Like they don’t have to try anymore. And things just go into complacency and they stop being the type of attractive guys that inspire that reaction from their wives.”

A thriving relationship is built on more than just commitment—it requires polarity, confidence, and a refusal to slip into complacency. Too many men think the work ends at marriage, but that’s where leadership truly begins. Attraction fades when men stop leading, stop being assertive, and start playing it safe. The key is simple: become the kind of man your wife wants to chase. That means prioritizing self-improvement, standing firm in your boundaries, and bringing an energy that keeps the fire alive.

Paul Bauer has spent years helping men reclaim the respect, admiration, and desire they once had in their marriages. He emphasizes that a loss of intimacy isn’t a scheduling issue—it’s a reflection of lost attraction. When men step up as leaders in their relationships, everything changes. Women respond to confidence, direction, and a sense of adventure. The moment a man reclaims his role, the dynamic shifts from obligation to enthusiasm.

Paul Bauer is a men’s coach and author of Get Her to F** You Again: A Red Pill Guide to Fix a Dead Bedroom.* After experiencing his own struggles in marriage and relationships, Paul dedicated himself to understanding the psychology of attraction and leadership. His mission is to help men restore passion in their relationships and become the kind of men who naturally inspire desire. Find him at call.fixedeadbedrooms.com.

Learn more & connect:

1. Paul Bauer’s Coaching Calendar: https://call.fixedeadbedrooms.com
2. Paul’s latest book: The Essential Skills of a Masculine Presence | Psychology – Paradigm: Mastering Paradigms: Reprogram Your Mind for a Dominant Masculine Presence and Unleash Your Full Potential

https://a.co/d/cEeSAuO

1. Paul previous book: Get Her to F** You Again: A Red Pill Guide to Fix a Dead Bedroom

https://a.co/d/hcbE1aI

1. RP Thor’s Book: A Dominant Masculine Presence: Learning How To Cultivate Your Authentic Self As A Man And Display Supreme Confidence And Control Over How You Are Perceived

https://a.co/d/1MlT07V

You’re invited to come to a Sovereign Circle meeting to experience it for yourself. To learn more, go to https://www.sovereignman.ca/. While you’re there, check out the Battle Ready program and check out the store for Sovereign Man t-shirts, hats, and books.