READ: 1 CORINTHIANS 13:3-7; 1 JOHN 4:16

Maybe you’re like me, and you’ve found yourself struggling with same-sex attraction. Or maybe you haven’t personally experienced this, but some of your friends have come out as LGBTQ+. You may wrestle with knowing how to respond. Should you still be friends with them? How much do you agree with your friends, and how much don’t you? What does “love” mean in this scenario?

Although this could be (and should be) a much longer conversation, let’s dive into how to love our friends when they come out to us by using three characteristics listed in 1 Corinthians 13.

“Love is…kind” (1 Corinthians 13:4). I am giving you permission to be kind to your friends—no matter how they identify. It is God’s kindness, tolerance, and patience that leads us to repentance (Romans 2:4). Additionally, our friends who identify as attracted to people of the same sex may not need repentance from it. They are simply telling us how they are tempted sexually. Temptation of any variety is not a sin (Hebrews 4:15).

“Love…rejoices whenever the truth wins out” (1 Corinthians 13:4-6). I have watched people change their theology of marriage overnight when a friend comes out. They see their friend genuinely in pain over what they reveal (or happy for the first time in a long time), and they conclude, “We must have gotten marriage wrong.” The church has unquestionably gotten loving people in the midst of any type of wrestling wrong, but the Bible isn’t wrong when it comes to marriage and sexuality. Loving your friend well means loving them toward daily surrender of any type of sin struggle.

“Love never gives up” (1 Corinthians 13:7). If your friend rejects you, don’t reject them. If they wander from the faith, you stay connected. As one friend said to me, “You are so annoying in your pursuit of me—and so like Jesus!” Be annoying like Jesus—just like He is in His pursuit of you—as you love your equally broken friends. Never give up on them.

Truly loving someone is not easy—it is costly. But it is the only way I know how to demonstrate the heart of the one whose name is Love. • Laurie Krieg

• Whenever we read 1 Corinthians 13, it’s vital to remember that this is the way Jesus loves us. Consider taking some time to read this passage slowly, and just rest in Jesus’s love for you.

• Throughout the Bible, God blesses marriage between one man and one woman. He makes it clear that the relationship between a husband and wife should reflect the loving and faithful relationship

between Christ and the church, and that sex is a good gift to be shared and enjoyed by a husband and wife within marriage. While being attracted to someone of the same sex is not a sin, acting on those attractions by pursuing a sexual encounter is sin. In the same way, pursuing a sexual encounter with someone of the opposite sex who is not our spouse is also a sin. And lusting after anyone is a sin as well. But, thanks be to God, He extends forgiveness to us through Jesus’s death and resurrection. The truth is, we are all equally broken with sin and in need of Jesus. And even after we’ve put our trust in Jesus to save us, He calls us to live in a daily rhythm of confession, repentance, and thankfulness as we rest in His forgiveness. How should these truths affect the way we interact with people who struggle with different temptations than we do?

• Read Hebrews 4:14-16. Why is it important to know that Jesus Himself was tempted yet was without sin?

• Who do you know who is wrestling with their sexuality right now? Have you responded to them in love? Consider taking some time to pray for this person, asking God to bless them and to help you love them well.

READ: ROMANS 7:18–8:2; EPHESIANS 3:14-21

My eyes snapped awake, and I searched inside of myself: Do I still feel the attraction? One second of introspection revealed the dreaded answer: Yes. I’m still attracted to her.

I felt like this shouldn’t be. I was a pastor’s daughter. I led worship and small groups at my church. I loved Jesus as much as I knew how, and here I was: a Jesus-loving-and-fearing woman who was attracted to other women.

I had been in a secret same-sex relationship for months, but I didn’t even call her my girlfriend. We were simply two Christian best friends who loved each other deeply…and yet…there was this sexual aspect to it. I both hated and loved it.

I felt a lot like Paul in Romans 7: “I love God’s law with all my heart. But there is another power within me that is at war with my mind…Oh, what a miserable person I am! Who will free me from this life that is dominated by sin and death?” (verse 22-24).

I knew the answer Paul stated in the next verse. I did not like it: “Thank God! The answer is in Jesus Christ our Lord.”

But how? I questioned God. I love You, but here I am, wrestling with what most Christians do not even call a “sin struggle.” I feel I am automatically categorized as the worst type of human until it is gone. But I couldn’t stop. I could not pray the attractions out of me.

I wish present-day me could go back into that moment, cup my face in my hands, and say some words of hope: Dear one, it’s okay. Everyone has broken sexuality. This is simply your version. Find someone you can talk to about this, who will love you as you are and who will teach you not only to know Jesus’s love but also how to experience it. Then you will be empowered to daily surrender all your brokenness to Him (Ephesians 3:19).

Those words would come to me soon, but I offer them to you today: You are not the worst. You’re simply broken—like everyone else. • Laurie Krieg

• Can you think of a time you felt like today’s author felt, and like Paul felt in Romans 7?

• Do you view people who wrestle with same-sex attractions differently than you view those who struggle with heterosexual lust? Why?

• Why is it important to know that we are all broken and struggling with sin—that we are all desperately in need of Jesus and the forgiveness He extends to us through His death and resurrection? (Daniel 9:9; Romans 3:23-24; 10:9-13) If you want to know more about Jesus and why we all need Him, see our "Know Jesus" page.

• Do you wrestle with shame or self-hatred because of your sexuality? God loves you right now—right here in the midst of your struggles—and He wants to help you. How can you take the next right step to reach out to a trusted Christian who can help you not only know God’s love for you but experience it?

• God created sexual intimacy as a good gift to be shared and enjoyed between a husband and wife within marriage. Though we may experience attraction to people who are not our spouse, we don’t need to act on these attractions, either by pursuing a sexual encounter or by lusting. If we’ve put our trust in Jesus, the Holy Spirit lives in us and helps us follow God’s good ways, regardless of the temptations we face. What a relief! Through the Holy Spirit, we have the power to live godly lives because of His life in us (2 Peter 1:3). Instead of focusing on temptation, He calls us to set our minds on His Spirit in us and His good desires for us (Romans 8:5). When we are facing temptation, it can be helpful to remember that, as Christians, God has already given us the power to say “no” to any sin. And even when we do sin, the Holy Spirit helps us to repent by reminding us of...

READ: LUKE 22:54-62; JOHN 21:15-25; ROMANS 3:23-24

Will I go to hell for how I am? This question invaded my mind on too many occasions for me to count, especially after observing other people’s Christian walks. Usually, they appeared to be extremely holy people who had their righteous lives intact. Nothing fazed them, they committed no wrongdoings—at least, not in public—and they referred to their prayer lives often. Reading the Bible and speaking to God through prayer seemed like second nature to them. It didn’t for me.

I struggled for years to pray and read my Bible daily. But it wasn’t that I lived my life separately from what I heard on Sundays or that I didn’t even think about God throughout the week. I just had a difficult time setting up good habits. During that time, I kept wondering about God’s tolerance of my lackluster performance. Especially, I thought, in comparison to my clearly better-suited fellow humans. They seemed much holier than I was.

Cue teenage me discovering John 21. It’s uncoincidentally located right after Jesus reinstates Peter. Peter had denied Jesus three times before Jesus’s death on the cross. But now, in this passage, Jesus asks Peter three times, “Do you love me?” And each time, when Peter says yes, Jesus responds, “Feed my lambs… Shepherd my sheep… Feed my sheep.” This echoes the three times Peter denied Him, showing that Jesus is reinstating Peter as a disciple. Jesus goes on to tell Peter the kind of death he will die to glorify God, and then He says to Peter, “Follow me.” But Peter notices another disciple, John, is following them. Peter asks Jesus, “What about him?” That’s when Jesus said one of the most liberating things I’ve ever heard: What’s it to you?

The last thing Jesus wants us to do is selfishly worry about others’ relationships with Him—that’s not our concern. The truth is, we all fall short of God’s holiness, but Jesus has given each of us grace, and that is the grace we are to be concerned with. You are free to focus on your relationship with Him, not the apparent relationships of others with Him. • Carson D. Jacobs

• In what ways might you be focusing on others’ relationships with Jesus instead of your own?

• How do you think you can develop healthy Bible-reading and prayer habits? Don’t worry about doing it just like someone else—find out what works for you! For example, how do you usually prefer to talk on the phone? Pacing? Sitting down? Figure out which way is most comfortable for you and try mimicking that while praying.

“If I want him to remain until I come,” Jesus answered, “what is that to you? As for you, follow me.” John 21:22 (CSB)

READ: JOHN 10:1-30

Every time I get a voicemail from my mom, I smile. I’ve heard her voice almost every day of my life. So if I know anyone’s voice, it’s hers. What always makes me smile is the fact that she still feels the need to tell me that it’s her leaving the voicemail.

It’s not just my mom’s voice that I hear and instantly know. I have some close friends and family members I talk with all the time. They can leave a voicemail without a name, and I know who they are. But, if someone I didn’t know very well left me a message without a name, I would have no clue who they were.

Jesus says His sheep hear His voice and follow Him. When we trust Jesus as our Savior, we become His sheep. He is our good shepherd (John 10:11). So, as Christians, we spend time listening to His voice so we can know it and follow Him. We can do this by absorbing the truth of the gospel—meditating on who Jesus is and what He has done in the pages of God’s Word, the Bible. Throughout the Bible, God reveals His unending love and steadfast character, ultimately making Himself known to us through Jesus (John 1:18). As we press into relationship with Jesus through spending time in His Word, in prayer, and with His people, it will become easier and easier for us to discern His voice. • Melissa Yeagle

• How have you heard people talk about listening to God’s voice?

• Have you ever tried to listen to God’s voice? What was that like?

• The primary way God speaks to us is through His Word, the Bible. And the gospel (good news) is the lens through which we understand His Word, because the whole Bible points to Jesus and hinges on His death and resurrection. If you want to know more about the gospel, see our "Know Jesus" page.

• Learning to listen to God’s voice takes time, and we’ll keep learning until the day Jesus returns— then we won’t need to discern anymore because we’ll see Jesus face to face! But in the meantime, if we know Jesus His Holy Spirit lives in us, reminding us of everything Jesus has said and helping us discern His voice. We can also talk to trusted Christians and help each other answer questions like: Does this agree with the Bible? Does this glorify God the Father and God the Son? Does this bring the fruit of the Spirit and hope, or condemnation and fear? Remember, God will never ask us to sin, and He will never break His promises. If you want to dig deeper, read John 3:17; 14:26; 16:12-15; Romans 8:1; Galatians 5:22-23.

[Jesus said,] “My sheep hear my voice, I know them, and they follow me.” John 10:27 (CSB)

READ: ISAIAH 53:1-5; MATTHEW 2:13-18; JOHN 13:2-5

Son of Man

You chose to get Your hands dirty,

to get knee deep in human suffering.

To cry with us and bear our pain.

You refused to turn away

when we shouted with angry voices.

Clashing swords while You were being born.

You chose humility,

while we searched for mighty kings.

You ripped apart the fabric of our reality

when You decided to come and live

in the midst of humanity’s broken dream. • Catherine Valentine

• We live in a world that has been broken by sin, and we all experience hardships, like sickness, injuries, the pain of loss,and thesuffering of loneliness. What kinds of suffering and pain have you experienced lately?

• Sometimes, it’s easy to think that God is far removed from us and our lives. But that’s not true! In Jesus, God came to be with us. In fact, one of the names for Jesus is Immanuel, which means “God is with us” (Matthew 1:23). It can be hard to picture the almighty, perfectly holy God being present here, in the midst of our messy lives. But the truth is, God is not afraid of our mess. He loves us so much that Jesus came and died and rose again to be with us—mess and all. He paid the price for our sins with His life, then He ascended into heaven so that His Holy Spirit could live in us. That means, once we know Jesus, we never have to go through the mess of life alone. And Jesus promises to return one day to get rid of all the mess, sin, and brokenness forever. Hallelujah! Consider spending some time in prayer, asking God to remind you of how He is with you right here, right now, in the middle of your mess.

And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. Romans 8:38 (NLT)

READ: 2 CHRONICLES 34; 1 TIMOTHY 4:1

Six teenagers recently decided to run for governor of Kansas. With no age limit on gubernatorial candidates in that state, these teens debated and did interviews. They had opinions about abortion, health insurance, and education. But they weren’t the first young people involved in government leadership. In 2 Chronicles 34, eight-year-old Josiah was crowned king of Judah.

At age 16, “Josiah began to seek the God of his ancestor David” (verse 3). And he soon rid the country of the previous evil regime. He tore down the places where people worshiped idols, and he repaired the temple of God. Because of this young king’s leadership, the people of Judah followed the Lord as long as Josiah lived. Even at 16, he was a good leader because he sought after God, who was the source of his wisdom and strength. And yet, even Josiah could not cleanse the people of their sins. His reign only looked forward to the coming kingdom of Jesus.

You probably won’t be king any time soon (and you probably won’t be governor of Kansas either because the state Legislature quickly set a minimum age requirement of 25 for gubernatorial candidates). But you can be a leader.

You might be thinking, “Not at this point in my life. Other people are leading me. My parents, my teachers, my boss, and even my youth pastor.” True. But think about it—even adults are under the authority of others. Yet you can be a leader among your friends, in your school, in your family, and even in your church. How? By following 16-year-old Josiah’s example of seeking God and earnestly doing what He says is right and good. And even when you fail, you can rely on the love and forgiveness of Jesus, pointing others to the only one who could ever follow God’s law perfectly, the only one who could cleanse us of sin. • Linda Weddle

• If you had the opportunity to beagovernment leader, what is the first thing you would do?

• Jesus is God—the King of kings—yet He humbled Himself, becoming human and living among us (Philippians 2:1-18). He is the only person who never sinned, so He was able to take all our sin upon Himself on the cross. Then He rose from the dead, making the way for all who trust in Him to live with Him forever! What does Jesus’s ministry show us about leadership in God’s kingdom?

• Consider taking a moment to pray and ask God to help you notice where you have opportunities to lead others, and also ask Him for wisdom in these situations.

• If you want to dig deeper, read 1 Kings 13:2; 2 Kings 21–23; 2 Chronicles 35.

He did what was right in the LORD’s sight and walked in the ways of his ancestor David; he did not turn aside to the right or the left. 2 Chronicles 34:2 (CSB)

READ: ISAIAH 30:20-21; 61:1-3; ROMANS 8:18, 38-39

Throughout my life, God has been faithful to provide me with wonderful women to disciple me in my walk with Christ. One of these women was Kathryn, a wife and mom in her thirties who championed the communications ministry at my home church. Kathryn was a spiritual firecracker. She shared the hope of the gospel wherever she went, prayed fervently for those who did not yet know Jesus, and poured herself out for Christ and His church. And she intentionally poured into me from the time I was in middle school.

Several months ago, Kathryn was diagnosed with a serious form of cancer. The news rocked my world, along with those of Kathryn’s husband, children, and others at our church. Yet, it was no surprise to see the tremendous strength Kathryn displayed through the journey as she shared the gospel with medics and continued to faithfully testify of God’s goodness to her.

Within two months, the cancer took Kathryn’s bodily life. When this unexpected period of suffering came about, I clung to the sovereignty of our God, but I wondered how He would bring beauty out of this circumstance. Though I knew Kathryn was with Jesus, it was the most painful loss I had ever experienced.

A few days after Kathryn’s death, I was evangelizing on the streets of New York City, and I encountered a number of people that day who were wrestling with deaths in their own lives. God used the hardship I was going through to directly share His message of hope with others who were grappling with grief. He used the physical death of one of His children to birth spiritual life in people who had not yet believed in Him.

Friends, I encourage you: our God redeems the darkest circumstances and uses them for His glory. If you are suffering right now, ask Him to show you His heart, and watch Him bring beauty out of your pain. • Chelsea Leigh

• In Luke 4:16-21, Jesus said He had come to fulfill the words of Isaiah 61. He promises to trade our ashes of despair for beautiful joy. Through dying on the cross and rising from the grave, He made the way for us to be with God—and when He returns, all His people will live together in renewed creation, free of suffering forever! Until that day, He grieves our pain with us and reminds us that He is always at work. How can we draw near to God in times of suffering?

And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. 1 Peter 5:10 (NIV)

READ: PROVERBS 3:5-6; MATTHEW 6:25-34; EPHESIANS 2:10

During our teen years, it can feel like the pressure is on. Whether it’s making a career decision, choosing a college, or getting ready to stand on your own two feet, the approaching adult life can be terrifying. There is so much to think about and so many people telling us we need to decide. I’ve struggled with all three of those decisions and more.

Here’s the secret though—God knows exactly what He has planned for me, and He’s going to guide my feet along paths that will lead to my good and His glory (Psalm 23:1-3; Romans 8:28-29). Every moment I spend overthinking the future is wasted, because ultimately, I want to be where God wants me to be— both in the future and the present.

Jesus made it pretty clear that we don’t need to worry about what tomorrow will bring—much less years down the road. Instead, we are called to live in the moment. We’re called to make the most of where God has placed us by pressing in to relationship with Jesus and ministering to those around us (Ephesians 5:15-20). Contentment won’t come in the far-off future, when everything is perfect and settled. Spoiler alert—it never will be. Instead, we have the perfect opportunity to learn contentment in the present, because Jesus is with us right here, right now (Philippians 4:11-13).

Worrying about the future distracts us from the good things God has for us in this stage of life. The future is important, but it isn’t ours to worry about— God will guide our feet and light our paths as we seek Him (Psalm 119:105). Let’s entrust our futures to God’s care, and let’s walk in the good deeds He has for us to do right here, right now. • Hannah Ruth Johnson

• Are there any future decisions that feel particularly daunting to you right now? Consider taking a moment to pray, entrusting these to the Lord and asking Him to help you know what to do in His perfect timing.

• It’s not wrong to make plans for the future, but we get into trouble when we’re so focused on the future that we forget to pay attention to what God is doing in our lives today. How might God be inviting you to do His kingdom work right here, right now? In what ways might He be giving you opportunities to shine His light in your everyday life? (Matthew 5:14-16)

You can make many plans, but the LORD’s purpose will prevail. Proverbs 19:21 (NLT)