Ali Bushell, therapist and Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, joins us on the #teakink Podcast for a deep dive intotherapy, kink, and self-discovery. From his work with sex workers to exploring fetish in therapy, Ali shares insights on topics like power, violence, and the parts of ourselves we exile. We unpack shadow archetypes of therapists, the brain as a sexual organ, and the complexity of integrating the self through practices like Vipassana and IFS.

Ali's book, 'The Sex Party Handbook': https://shorturl.at/dZeF6 Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Meet Ali Bushell, Therapist and Internal Family Systems Practitioner (00:40) - How We Met, Ali's Sex Worker Outreach (03:12) - How Sex Workers Can Find Therapists (14:20) - Defining Sex and the Brain as a Sexual Organ (16:05) - Kink in Therapy (24:30) - Power and Violence (26:20) - An Extreme Example? Is it ok That I Enjoyed What I Enjoyed with My Father? (31:00) - Exiled Parts of Ourselves (33:00) - What is Therapy, to Ali (37:50) - Shadow Archetypes of Therapists: Savers, Narcissists and Robots (39:20) - Vipassana, Hearing Voices and Integrating the Self (44:50) - How Ali Found Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Uses It (49:40) - You Can't Un-Kink (52:09) - Sex Negativity and Turning the Lights Off (53:50) - The Kinsey Scale, How Homosexual or Heterosexual are We?

Eva Oh and Vex of Four Chambers dive into a conversation about the sometimes messy and always fascinating intersections of sex, art, and identity. From how performance challenges embodiment in sexuality, to how burnout hits when your work revolves around desire. We journey through Vex's cyber goth era and chatroom nostalgia to inducing lactation for a porn series, as she opens up about her values, and the shifts shaping porn today.

Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh
More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:
Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.
(00:00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink
(00:00:23) - Meet Vex of Four Chambers and a Thought on Hawking Porn vs Fashion
(00:01:40) - The Point of Four Chambers and Hotness?
(00:03:40) - Order, Mess and Truth in Sex and Our Work
(00:06:30) - What Vex is Hiding, Sexual Performance vs Embodiment
(00:10:20) - Who Are We Really? How Vex is Using Weed in Self-Discovery
(00:13:20) - Our Relationship to Surrender and Burnout
(00:16:00) - Vex's Craving for the Physical
(00:18:00) - Eva's Burnout Strategies and Meditation
(00:20:45) - Vex at 12 in Habbo Hotel Chatrooms, the Internet as a Portal and Weirdness
(00:26:20) - Vex's Draw to Cyber Goth Culture and Darkness
(00:29:00) - Boredom and Craving Storytelling
(00:30:50) - The Void, Cuckolding and Leaning into Despair
(00:37:10) - How Making Porn Has Changed Vex's Life and Values
(00:39:30) - The Disappearance of Pornography?
(00:41:30) - Chatrooms to Camming to Tumblr Porn to Four Chambers
(00:45:05) - What Sex Work Taught Us About (Lack of) Freedom, Society and Meta
(00:51:40) - Our Longing for Undocumented Experiences
(00:55:00) - The Substance, Doppelgänger by Naomi Klein and Being 'Palatable' as Women
(00:57:24) - Managing Mobile Phone Usage and Dating Younger
(01:01:00) - Exploring Archetypes and Fucking with Mommy Issues
(01:06:00) - Inducing Lactation for the Porn Series 'Maman'
(01:12:30) - Popular Porn Categories
(01:15:00) - Eva's MILF and Digital Detox Plans

A New Year Begins on the #teakink Podcast. Indulge in a flashback episode, where Eva Oh looks back through the seasons. Their highs and tears, special interviews, the most popular episodes and where it may all go from here.

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More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:23) - Happy New Year! Podcast Flashback Time

(02:20) - The Experiment of Season 1, My First Experiences as a Dominatrix

(06:24) - The Storytelling of Season 2 - Slave m, Klub Verboten, My Worst Relationship Ever

(11:30) - Season 3 - Major Highlight Episode, Would a Sex Worker Date You

(13:32) - Answering Your Questions Through Season 4

(14:41) - Season 5, Interviews That Took Us Far

(16:40) - The Format Now

(20:00) - Wishing You A Sweet New Year and Always, Thank you for everything