Ali Bushell, therapist and Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner, joins us on the #teakink Podcast for a deep dive intotherapy, kink, and self-discovery. From his work with sex workers to exploring fetish in therapy, Ali shares insights on topics like power, violence, and the parts of ourselves we exile. We unpack shadow archetypes of therapists, the brain as a sexual organ, and the complexity of integrating the self through practices like Vipassana and IFS.

Ali's book, 'The Sex Party Handbook': https://shorturl.at/dZeF6 Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Meet Ali Bushell, Therapist and Internal Family Systems Practitioner (00:40) - How We Met, Ali's Sex Worker Outreach (03:12) - How Sex Workers Can Find Therapists (14:20) - Defining Sex and the Brain as a Sexual Organ (16:05) - Kink in Therapy (24:30) - Power and Violence (26:20) - An Extreme Example? Is it ok That I Enjoyed What I Enjoyed with My Father? (31:00) - Exiled Parts of Ourselves (33:00) - What is Therapy, to Ali (37:50) - Shadow Archetypes of Therapists: Savers, Narcissists and Robots (39:20) - Vipassana, Hearing Voices and Integrating the Self (44:50) - How Ali Found Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Uses It (49:40) - You Can't Un-Kink (52:09) - Sex Negativity and Turning the Lights Off (53:50) - The Kinsey Scale, How Homosexual or Heterosexual are We?

Eva Oh and Vex of Four Chambers dive into a conversation about the sometimes messy and always fascinating intersections of sex, art, and identity. From how performance challenges embodiment in sexuality, to how burnout hits when your work revolves around desire. We journey through Vex's cyber goth era and chatroom nostalgia to inducing lactation for a porn series, as she opens up about her values, and the shifts shaping porn today.

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HIGHLIGHTS:
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(00:00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink
(00:00:23) - Meet Vex of Four Chambers and a Thought on Hawking Porn vs Fashion
(00:01:40) - The Point of Four Chambers and Hotness?
(00:03:40) - Order, Mess and Truth in Sex and Our Work
(00:06:30) - What Vex is Hiding, Sexual Performance vs Embodiment
(00:10:20) - Who Are We Really? How Vex is Using Weed in Self-Discovery
(00:13:20) - Our Relationship to Surrender and Burnout
(00:16:00) - Vex's Craving for the Physical
(00:18:00) - Eva's Burnout Strategies and Meditation
(00:20:45) - Vex at 12 in Habbo Hotel Chatrooms, the Internet as a Portal and Weirdness
(00:26:20) - Vex's Draw to Cyber Goth Culture and Darkness
(00:29:00) - Boredom and Craving Storytelling
(00:30:50) - The Void, Cuckolding and Leaning into Despair
(00:37:10) - How Making Porn Has Changed Vex's Life and Values
(00:39:30) - The Disappearance of Pornography?
(00:41:30) - Chatrooms to Camming to Tumblr Porn to Four Chambers
(00:45:05) - What Sex Work Taught Us About (Lack of) Freedom, Society and Meta
(00:51:40) - Our Longing for Undocumented Experiences
(00:55:00) - The Substance, Doppelgänger by Naomi Klein and Being 'Palatable' as Women
(00:57:24) - Managing Mobile Phone Usage and Dating Younger
(01:01:00) - Exploring Archetypes and Fucking with Mommy Issues
(01:06:00) - Inducing Lactation for the Porn Series 'Maman'
(01:12:30) - Popular Porn Categories
(01:15:00) - Eva's MILF and Digital Detox Plans

A New Year Begins on the #teakink Podcast. Indulge in a flashback episode, where Eva Oh looks back through the seasons. Their highs and tears, special interviews, the most popular episodes and where it may all go from here.

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HIGHLIGHTS:

Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:23) - Happy New Year! Podcast Flashback Time

(02:20) - The Experiment of Season 1, My First Experiences as a Dominatrix

(06:24) - The Storytelling of Season 2 - Slave m, Klub Verboten, My Worst Relationship Ever

(11:30) - Season 3 - Major Highlight Episode, Would a Sex Worker Date You

(13:32) - Answering Your Questions Through Season 4

(14:41) - Season 5, Interviews That Took Us Far

(16:40) - The Format Now

(20:00) - Wishing You A Sweet New Year and Always, Thank you for everything

Today on #teakink Podcast, meet Conor - Shibari Artist, Rope Studio Owner, ex-Publisher and a multi-facted mind whom Eva Oh always adores to sit with. Listen in to their conversation which spans Conor's entering into kink, masculinity and fibromyalgia, kink as therapy, Antwerp, women clients, the link between kink and gambling - and so so much more.

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More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:
Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.
(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink
(00:23) - Meet Conor Aphilia, A Multi-faceted Mind That I Adore
(01:30) - How We Met, Paraphilia Magazine
(03:10) - Conor's Entering into Kink - Tinder, Parties and Ireland
(05:10) - Rope - Lockdown, Masculinity and Fibromyalgia
(08:30) - Kink as Therapy or Denying the Fun?
(12:40) - Moving into Sex Work and Discovering Others and Ourselves
(19:30) - Women Clients
(22:50) - The Post-War Porn Reality of Shibari
(26:30) - How Shibari has Changed Conor's Daily Life
(29:45) - What Motivates Sex Work
(35:40) - Antwerp, The Kinkiest Place in the World?
(38:00) - The Highs and Woes of Publishing a Kink Magazine
(42:50) - International Rope Learning Retreats
(44:40) - What is Kink to Us - Power, Fetishism and Questioning the Norm
(46:15) - Meeting Dossie Easton - The Link Between Kink and Gambling
(47:30) - Dom Drop and Aftercare
(52:00) - Men vs Women Clients and Intention Setting
(54:45) - How to find Conor and the Aphilia Studio

Eva Oh has been getting invited to more and more crazy rich sex parties to manage BDSM dungeons and entertain guests with kinky installations. Enter the clandestine operations of sex parties for the uber wealthy - where multiple day productions cost millions, where guests and staff are flown in all expenses paid from across the world, and where Eva often sits in between the gratitude of a gig and the spectacle, shock and concerns of extreme wealth.

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More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com

HIGHLIGHTS:

Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.

(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink

(00:23) - Crazy Rich Sex Parties and NDAs

(02:30) - Where and How?

(03:30) - Who Runs and Attends Them?

(04:20) - Staffing, Recruitment and Production Companies

(08:14) - What Do I Do at Them, BDSM Show and Tell

(09:40) - Consent Concerns

(13:30) - The Overwhelm of Extreme Wealth

(15:55) - Crew Bonding, Catering and Naps

(17:50) - Theatre, Campness and Value

(19:15) - A Story, The Labyrinth of a Guest Experience

The Current Keeper of the Museum of Sex Objects, Deborah Sims, joins Eva Oh for a fascinating discussion on women and freedom on the #teakink Podcast. We discover more about the origins of the Museum, WeWork Dominatrix Dungeons, Coven Garden Industrial Spanking, and the museum's objects - including a whip made from Meretrix hair of Roman times. Deborah and Eva chat rage, 'Poor Things', historical patterns of sexual and female liberation and the importance of remembering our history - including cases of forced female circumcision in Notting Hill not that long ago. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Meet Deborah Sims, the Keeper of the Museum of Sex Objects (02:15) - The Objects, from Roman times to Today (05:50) - Why the Museum Came About, Untold Stories and Straightjacketed Women (11:10) - The Intersection of Freedom, Desire and Cat Ladies (15:30) - Rage and Forced Female Circumcision in Notting Hill (20:35) - 'Poor Things', Female 'Hysteria' and Roe vs Wade (21:30) - Historical Patterns of Sexual and Female Liberation? (27:10) - The Importance of Remembering History (30:10) - Matriarchal Sex Cults and 18th Century Industrial Spanking (33:40) - Societal Challenges and Hopes for the Museum (37:40) - Coco de Mer and the Ladies of Covent Garden (40:30) - Sexy Soho Walking Tours and the WeWork Dominatrix Dungeon (43:05) - Manet's 'Olympia' (44:45) - The Unpaid Sexual Labour of Marriage vs(?) Sex Work (48:50) - Rethinking Censorship on Social Media, Awareness and Freedom
(51:40) - Pain is Pleasure

Matthew of Baron Books joins Eva Oh on her play space sofa to indulge us on the pornographic origins of Baron and how the influence of powerful women shaped his views on identity and sexuality. They also chat sex shops, cruising apps, The Death Book, medical fetish, feeders, Versace, Bruce La Bruce and so so much more.
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HIGHLIGHTS:
Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.
(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink
(00:23) - Meet Matthew of Baron Books
(02:15) - How Baron Books Began
(03:35) - What is P*rn at Baron?
(04:30) - We Won The Baron Prize - with our P*rn, Grief Encounter
(06:30) - Sex, Sexuality and Powerful Women
(09:15) - Femininity and the Lack of Representation of Gay Men
(11:30) - It Started with a Photography Project on Cottaging
(15:00) - The Bruce La Bruce Book Launch in a Sex Shop
(17:15) - The Baron Sex Shop?
(18:55) - My Ongoing Gripe About the Lack of Queer Cruising
(20:15) - The Digital vs the Physicality of Books
(23:25) - Jackie Collins, Versace, the Bitch and Sarah Baker
(26:34) - Baron’s Impact on Matthew’s ‘Dynasty’
(28:15) - My Interest in Rage
(29:04) - Baron and BDSM: Forniphilia with Namio Harukawa and Medical Fetishism with Romaine Slocombe
(34:50) - How Baron Chooses Books
(37:55) - Fat Bodies, Feeders and Control
(40:10) - How Books and Baron are Evolving
(43:50) - The Past, Present and Future of Sex Shops
(46:40) - The Death Book, HIV, and Gay Identity
(49:35) - Sex, Death, Control
(52:25) - Problematic Projects, Publishing and Imprisonment

Eva Oh joins Miss May at her playspace, E1 Darkroom, to talk dating, polyamory, the draw of filth and intensity, the 'ick' of the stereotypical 'dominant' man, the rarity of a good service sub and the deep deep importance of cleaning.
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More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com
HIGHLIGHTS:
Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.
(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink
(00:23) - Meet Miss May at her play space, E1 Darkroom
(01:30) - Why Start a Playspace?
(02:48) - The Draw of Filth and Intensity
(04:40) - The E1 Darkroom Impact
(06:20) - Cleaning, The Central Tenet
(07:50) - The Rarity of a Good Service Subs
(09:10) - Different Client Dynamics and Friend-Zones
(12:20) - Dungeons and Dating
(15:40) - Sadism, Objectification and Oral Sex
(17:15) - Polyamory, Cheating and Evolving Desires
(19:05) - An Excuse to Ask What I Want
(19:40) - Miss May's Ideal Life
(21:00) - Money and Sex Work vs the Investment of Dating
(22:50) - 'Dominant' Men, the Ick and the Stereotype of the Patriarchy
(26:40) - Professional Domination: Germany vs the UK
(34:20) - How to be a Dominatrix - Hygiene! and...
(36:20) - How to Hire E1 Darkroom