Parenting Trauma

A primer on the Family Constellations philosophy and its core principles that will inspire and empower listeners to take ownership of their lives.

Adoption is often framed by happy narratives, but the reality is that many adoptees struggle with unaddressed trauma and issues of identity and belonging. Adoptees often spend the majority of their youth without the language to explore the grief related to adoption or the permission to legitimize their conflicting emotions. Adoptee and counselor Cameron Lee Small names the realities of the adoptee's journey, narrating his own and other adoptees' stories in all their complexity.

I wrote this book because it is the book that I needed when I started my journey to both understanding and overcoming my traumatic past. When I started I never expected what it would become. The short version is this: I come from a dark place, my ACE score is 10, and I attempted to take my own life twice, not to mention being morbidly obese and a drug addict at 12 years old. Today, I am happy, healthy, and driven towards being my best self every day. Why? Because I choose to Think Unbroken.

Stop feeling not good enough, stop believing everything is always your fault, stop telling yourself you don't deserve to be loved. If this sounds like you there is a good chance you were raised by a parent on the "Continuum of Narcissism". Parents who either had to always be right, appear perfect, were self-absorbed, or thrived on power and control.

We are influenced by those who came before us and influencing those who come after. Everything in the universe is interconnected so are we. We inherit cultures and experiences. This is known as collective unconscious or memory in nature. It organizes itself in systems such as flock of birds, religions, countries, football teams and so on, but the most important system for human beings is the family. Family systems are responsible for how we live and how we thrive through natural laws called 'The Orders of Love".

In 2021, women represented 54.3% of the US workforce but only held 35% of senior leadership positions. Of that percentage, only 2.7% of Asian women were seen in management roles. While there have been great leaps for women in the workplace in the last decade, women of color still fall behind. The Tao of Self-Confidence book sets a foundation to help Asian women start being seen as leaders in work and life rather than by our stereotypes. In order to move forward with true confidence, we must learn the lessons our challenges have taught us and heal our trauma.

Set against a backdrop of East End London, Georgia experienced a childhood few of us could imagine. Though brought up in a loving family, she watched her family break apart through deceit and her mother descend into heroin addiction. Escaping into what she felt was a loving sanctuary, Georgia ended up trapped in a violent relationship with a man who would beat and abuse her. After having her three children by him, she knew she had to escape to finally find safety. Now Georgia is sharing her story of survival to help others and prove there is hope even after trauma and heartache.

Rachael Maddox bravely shares her own story of statutory rape and recovery, inviting readers into the possibility that their current sex issues, fears, stunted confidence or self-worth troubles, private addictions or private depressions, or impossible-seeming dreams could in fact be resulting from unresolved sexual trauma. There's a myth that so many women bear the burden of in today's world. The myth is that we're bad for the violations that happen to us as well as the mess of the aftermath of those abuses.

I've been through the trenches of narcissistic abuse. I've endured the hurt, heartache, and humiliation at the hands of the one person who ought to care for me: my partner. He would belittle me, berate me, and make me feel full of self-doubt and dread. Being told I was worthless, useless, and that I was lucky to have him eventually took its toll, and I ended up broken and shattered.

Perhaps you have reached a level of success in your career and personal life, but don’t feel anything at all—only the persistent nag of being unfulfilled and “numb.” Or maybe you feel held back by trauma or frustrating patterns like overwhelm, procrastination, and self-doubt, unable to reach your next level of happiness and success.

Most of us are only starting to become aware of how our foundational years contribute to who we are today. Our childhood environment shapes the foundation for our sense of self, how we feel about the world, and how we relate to others. If we experienced trauma or dysfunction along the way, it likely disrupted the pathways to these fundamental structures. Understanding our trauma is not about blame, but about understanding, learning, and growing. In most cases, our caregivers did the best they could with the tools they had, often while dealing with external or internal stressors as well.

By now, many of us understand that our childhoods play a vital role in our behavior, especially in our closest & most intimate relationships. BUT! This doesn’t mean these behaviors are now set in stone forever. In fact, by taking the time to understand their cause, uncover their roots & truly work through them, you can not only heal your inner child & anxious attachment style, but start living your best life. With the practical strategies, tips & exercises you can start your journey to FREEDOM.

Luckily, you can heal your inner child, set yourself free, cleanse the unresolved wounds and finally move forward to THE best version of yourself. You’ll discover a practical journey within that inner child, so you can actually get to the root of the pain & the traumas and finally start your road to full recovery.

In stories of love and loss, of trauma and hope, told from care homes, living rooms, classrooms and kitchens, All the Lonely People is an intimate portrait of loneliness. Over countless cups of tea, psychologist Dr Sam Carr has collected hours of conversations with people young and old, including single parents, carers, teenagers and the bereaved, and found that while each of their stories is utterly unique, they are all born out of the same desire for human connection.

Within this book, you will discover hope in regaining control of your emotions so that memories only serve as reflections of the past and no longer cause you pain. Discover how to ease yourself out of depression and release anxieties by rewiring your high-alert trauma brain. Brain chemistry changes from high cortisol levels, and science shows are directly connected to symptoms.

Trauma Bonds is motivational, inspirational, and full of hope. Like reading a woman’s diary, the author lets you in on her reflective thoughts throughout. She offers guidance, introspection, and recovery as she walks you through her memoir.

Do you feel like your relationship with your parents is always bringing you down? Do they blame you for their problems, for being a thorn in their shoes, always endeavoring to make you feel like the most massive burden? Abusive parents tend to share common traits - they are constantly negatively reactive, lack empathy, are extremely controlling, always critical, and continuously transfer blame to you. If your parent ticks any of those boxes, then you are likely already aware of who and what you're dealing with. But from here on, things can only get better if you let them

Know that you are no longer alone. For a long time, I didn't know what triggered my anger. Past and present were mixed together, and it was impossible for me to tell them apart. I felt rejected and abandoned. To get to see it more clearly, I undertook several therapeutic approaches, in groups, alone. The secret was buried deeply in my memory and poisoned my existence. All I wanted was to feel better. I simply did not know how and what was causing my suffering.

Ruth M. Glenn wasn’t surprised the first time her husband beat her. She was hurt and disappointed but after a childhood in a broken and violent home, she was not surprised. After all, this was just the way things were, right? It was only after she lay bleeding in a carwash parking lot, after being shot three times by him, that Glenn resolved—if she managed to survive—to spend the rest of her life standing up to domestic violence.

We are built to love. Every part of our physiology and psychology is designed to attach with others and share our lives in deep and meaningful ways. As social animals we need people, this is simply our biology. But in modern life, so much has got in the way of building healthy attachments. This book will offer tools and strategies for creating positive, secure attachments and help us create the fulfilling and nourishing relationships we need.