Relationship Trauma

The stress of painful past experiences is more than just a memory. It can cause you to avoid certain people or places, affect your emotions, even your trust in people. This makes the most important relationships in life harder to maintain. You’ve likely gotten this far by creating your own coping mechanisms. Maybe even done the work of understanding your past. But we can understand our past mentally, and still feel the pain of trauma. Because the body doesn’t forget. Some pain has to be worked through at a deeper level.

Know that you are no longer alone. For a long time, I didn't know what triggered my anger. Past and present were mixed together, and it was impossible for me to tell them apart. I felt rejected and abandoned. To get to see it more clearly, I undertook several therapeutic approaches, in groups, alone. The secret was buried deeply in my memory and poisoned my existence. All I wanted was to feel better. I simply did not know how and what was causing my suffering.

Most of us are only starting to become aware of how our foundational years contribute to who we are today. Our childhood environment shapes the foundation for our sense of self, how we feel about the world, and how we relate to others. If we experienced trauma or dysfunction along the way, it likely disrupted the pathways to these fundamental structures. Understanding our trauma is not about blame, but about understanding, learning, and growing. In most cases, our caregivers did the best they could with the tools they had, often while dealing with external or internal stressors as well.

Shadow work—the process of exploring your pain, trauma, and imperfections—is a powerful tool to help you embrace and accept yourself, even the parts that are difficult. Shadow Work gives you everything you need to get started with a clear explanation of what shadow work is, how it works, and how it helps you, as well as guided meditations and affirmations to walk you through your own shadow work. Written by licensed therapist Jor-El Caraballo, this book is the perfect companion for your self-exploration journey.

Some parents are plain mean, mentally, emotionally, and physically abusive, manipulative, lying and cold blooded towards their children. They are the kind of parents that you would rather live without than live with; parents you want to distance yourself from and forget that they exist because every time you talk to them, they bring their vile of mean comments, arguments, bring you down, and find opportunities to be aggressive even when not necessary.

This guide by Dr. Lawrence L James, an expert in alcoholism and trauma, offers not just knowledge but a shared understanding of the lifelong impact of adverse childhood experiences. Drawing from personal and professional experiences, Dr. James delves into the heart of the emotional and psychological turmoil faced by adult children of alcoholics.

This book is for anyone who has experienced emotional abuse or wants to understand and support a loved one who has. Inside you will learn about the causes and effects of emotional abuse, as well as healing strategies. You will learn all about the feelings of worthlessness, isolation, and powerlessness that victims often feel. Plus you will discover practical solutions for dealing with them and becoming a stronger person.

Emotionally broken. Mentally drained. Anxiety riddled and devoid of hope. The trauma bond that ties you to your abuser seems unbreakable. But it doesn't need to be this way. The bond can be broken. In this audiobook, I'll use my own 13-year-long story and the lessons I've learned along the way to guide you through breaking the trauma bond.

Are you ready to unlock the power of inner child healing to transform your relationships? In this audiobook, you will embark on a transformative journey that focuses on healing your inner child, the cornerstone of both your personal growth and relationship growth. This guide illuminates the often overlooked impact of insecure attachment styles—such as anxious and avoidant patterns—on our relationships and emotional well-being.

Self-healing through self-parenting, a concept introduced a generation ago, has helped thousands of adult children of alcoholics who are codependent and have conflicts in their primary relationships. Now Patricia O'Gorman, PhD, and Phil Diaz, MSW, authors of the classic book The 12 Steps to Self-Parenting for Adult Children and its companion workbook, expand the reach of that successful healing paradigm to anyone who has suffered from any kind of trauma.

If you're like many adults today, you've experienced some kind of loss of a loved one. Whether it was a parent, spouse, sibling, friend, or child, losing someone close hurts.

Explore your personal roots to shame with an expert. As a top authority on recovering from growing up in toxic families, Karen C. L. Anderson walks you through her shame story, her relationship with her narcissistic mother, and the simple practices she has developed to alleviate guilt from unhealthy relationships. Author of bestselling Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters with over 150,000 copies sold, Karen offers tools to process, understand, and move beyond childhood trauma so you can not only survive, but thrive.

In a society that values independence, self-preservation, and individualistic thinking, we are missing the key to fulfillment: Connection through attachment. Simply, attachment is the way that we connect to each other. Without attachment, people feel alone to deal with challenges they face, which leads to distress, dysfunction, and mental health disorders. Improve your client's relationships by teaching them strategies to feel more connected reestablish trust, and restore positive emotions..

Shame influences more of our thoughts and actions than many other emotions. Used as a punishment for bad behavior, shame acts as an incentive for us to behave in socially acceptable ways. As a common method used to regulate children’s behavior, shame is by far one of the most pervasive socializing agents. Many of our more persistent, punitive, and critical feelings about ourselves stem from humiliations in early childhood even if we don’t remember the specific events that prompted them.

The wounds of our inner child, though hidden, can silently devastate our present reality. They shape our beliefs, influence our choices, and hinder our joy. But here’s the truth: you hold the power to heal them with the help of “Healing Your Inner Child”—an empowering guide designed to illuminate the path to healing using practical, yet profound tools deeply rooted in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

A practical and inspiring guide to transformational personal storytelling, The Story You Need to Tell is the product of Sandra Marinella’s pioneering work with veterans and cancer patients, her years of teaching writing, and her research into its profound healing properties. Riveting true stories illustrate Marinella’s methods for understanding, telling, and editing personal stories in ways that foster resilience and renewal. She also shares her own experience of using journaling and expressive writing to navigate challenges including breast cancer and postpartum depression.

With a bachelor's and master's degree in education and over 30 years of experience, plus training in trauma sensitivity, author and mother of two, Jennifer Alushan, is ready to give parents and caregivers proven techniques to effectively understand and authentically interact with children so the healing process can begin.

This is a two-book collection of previously released books by Lauren Kozlowski, Trauma Bonding and Coercive Control.

Just as you prepared your home to welcome a new child, it is important to prepare your heart and mind - especially if the child has suffered from a background of trauma. Perhaps your invitation for love is met with hostility and you find that this new member of your family rejects connection. It’s critical to acknowledge the effects of trauma on a child’s ability to attach. Mike and Kristin Berry realized this when they became adoptive and foster parents. They now offer guidance from their own journey to others parenting a child who has experienced past trauma.

Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy. Its main goals are to teach people how to live in the moment, cope healthily with stress, regulate emotions, and improve relationships with others. It was originally intended for people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) but has since been adapted for other conditions where the patient exhibits self-destructive behavior, such as eating disorders and substance abuse. It is also sometimes used to treat post-traumatic stress disorder.