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Becoming the One
- Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself
- Narrated by: Sheleana Aiyana
- Length: 7 hrs and 14 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Spiritual writer and founder of Rising Woman, Sheleana Aiyana takes you on a transformational inner-work journey to heal lifelong relationship patterns and reclaim power over your life.
Romantic relationships have the ability to infuse our lives with the magic of intimacy and connection. But for many of us, that magic is fleeting—over and over, our relationships don't last, or if they do, they fail to make us happy. We find ourselves chasing unavailable love, sublimating our needs in service to others, or trying to save our partners from themselves, all the while abandoning the one who needs us most—ourselves.
If you find yourself struggling to let go after a relationship ends, or you keep hitting the same wall in dating and relationships with emotionally unavailable people, this is not a sign that you are broken. It is a sign that somewhere along the way, you learned to sacrifice yourself in order to be loved. In Becoming the One, spiritual leader and visionary founder of the Rising Woman community Sheleana Aiyana offers a road map for transforming your relationship patterns to end the cycle of self-abandonment and move into the light of self-discovery. You'll learn to:
Build a secure, loving relationship with yourself.
Connect with your inner child.
Challenge your core beliefs about love.
Set self-affirming boundaries.
Discover and celebrate your true desires.
Recognize red and green flags.
Sheleana's revolutionary lessons, based on wisdom from the traumas of her past and years of guiding thousands of women around the world in her internationally acclaimed "Becoming the One" program of spiritual and therapeutic healing practices, teach you to embody the qualities you are seeking in others so that you can become "the one" for yourself. You'll learn how to trust your body, make peace with your past, and clear the path for healthy, conscious love—one that returns the authority to you to choose how to live and whom to love.
The desire for love is wired into the very fibers of our being, but before you can create rewarding bonds with others, first you must stand wholeheartedly in self-acceptance. Becoming the One is an invitation to find your way home to yourself.
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What the critics say
“Becoming the One is an extraordinary gift that illuminates the path to wholehearted self-acceptance so that we can participate fully in the flow of human connection. The personal stories that the author shares about her own life are unforgettable and alone worth the price of admission. Sheleana Aiyana is a wise woman, a compassionate and clear-eyed guide, a visionary, and a teacher in the true sense of the word. I’d follow her up any mountain.”
—Harriet Lerner, PhD, New York Times bestselling author of The Dance of Anger and Why Won’t You Apologize?
“Sheleana guides you on the journey of reclaiming yourself and defining your life. This masterpiece will take you from pain to freedom. Reading Becoming The One will help you understand the process and power of healing. Sheleana has created a must-read for people who seek to heal childhood wounds.”
-Nedra Glover Tawwab, New York Times bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace
"Sheleana Aiyana has created a clear bridge between personal healing and improving our relationships. Becoming The One is for you if you want to live more fully and experience love at a greater level of harmony. This is a spectacular guide to the inner world and relationships, it dispels myths, grounds you in transformative truth, and reconnects you to your power."
-Yung Pueblo, New York Times bestselling author of Inward
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- Spiffy_Tiffy
- 2022-12-08
Life Altering Realizations
Wow. I literally finished and immediately began to listen to it again. I feel like if I were to make one constructive criticism it would be that this should be more marketed to both men and women. I fear most men won’t listen feeling that it is more “meant for chicks” it is meant for humans. The work in this book is so important for people of all walks in all states and all ages. We all carry our past and all can benefit from healing from it in one at or the other.
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- Stephanie Bourgeois
- 2023-01-04
Excellent!! Beautiful and soothing voice.
Absolutely therapeutic, worth many sessions of therapy!! The voice of the author is so calm and meditative! Loved every bit of it. Now off to apply it all… Thankfully I can reread it ;)!
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- Melanie Lapointe
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this book found me
I discovered this book at exactly the right time. Since last summer, I've read it twice and listened to the audio version as well. So much to integrate, it's a life changing book.
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- Aubrey Bonnah-Vink
- 2022-10-25
Amazing journey of self reflection
Such a beautiful and gentle way to go on a journey of self reflection. The author is patient and kind in the writings of this book to help the reader look inwards at what may be blocking them from their own journey of happiness.
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- Leda Narry North
- 2022-07-03
I could listen to her talk forever.
Beautifully written. I am excited to apply her teachings in everyday life. I will likely listen to it multiple times!
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- Bryce P.
- 2023-01-19
powerful
as a man I found this book immensely helpful in working on myself and gaining a female perspective
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- Moods
- 2023-02-27
Great book
I was given this book by a good friend. Very good book. I recommend it
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- Kristina
- 2022-11-23
Great book to listen to!
Author is a great reader and is easy to listen to. Book has good insight as to how to heal from trauma and the material is presented in a new light. Thank you. I will listen to this again in the future as I remind myself that healing from trauma is a life long journey.
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- Dave Weale
- 2022-06-14
Life changing...
So much deep wisdom in here. Grateful for the transformation that Sheleana is helping cause in the world ❤️
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- Laura Walker
- 2022-10-06
Enlightening
This book has helped me to understand so much about my own behaviors and given me an insight to look deeper and understand the path forward.
Once I started it I could not stop listening and after I finished the audio book and proceeded to the store to buy a paper copy for me and a couple of friends who I believe will benefit from this book as well.
I highly recommend it.
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