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Lysa TerKeurst
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Jolene Barto
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Lysa TerKeurst
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READ BY THE AUTHOR | Also includes exclusive interview with Lysa!
#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
What do you do when God’s timing seems questionable, his lack of intervention hurtful, and his promises doubtful? Lysa TerKeurst unveils her heart amid shattering circumstances, inviting you to live assured when life doesn't turn out like you expected.
Life often looks so very different than we hoped or expected. Some events may simply catch us off guard for a season, but others shatter us completely. We feel disappointed and disillusioned at best and overwhelmed and hopeless at worst. We quietly start to wonder about the reality of God’s goodness and why he allows us to suffer and experience grief and loss.
Lysa TerKeurst understands this deeply. But after many tears, godly counseling, and prayerful seeking, she's also discovered that our disappointments can be the divine appointments our souls need to radically encounter God. In It's Not Supposed to Be This Way, Lysa invites us into her own journey of faith and, with grit, vulnerability, and honest humor, helps us to:
- Stop being pulled into the anxiety of disappointment by discovering how to better process unmet expectations and other painful situations.
- Train ourselves to recognize the three strategies of the enemy, so we can stand strong and persevere through unsettling relationships and uncertain outcomes.
- Discover the secret of being steadfast and not panicking when God actually does give us more than we can handle.
- Shift our suspicion that God is cruel or unfair to the biblical assurance that God is protecting and preparing us.
- Know how to encourage a friend and help her navigate hard realities with real help from God's truth, the Bible.
Look for additional biblically based resources and devotionals from Lysa:
- Good Boundaries and Goodbyes
- Forgiving What You Can't Forget
- Uninvited
- You're Going to Make It
- Embraced
- Seeing Beautiful Again
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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- Cara B
- 2022-09-09
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loved it. reaches right in to where hurt has found a home and reveals truth to illuminate the darkness. call us to look at life with truth and with a push to become more than our lies have t
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- Victoria Youmans
- 2019-09-16
Game changer
This book had me laughing and crying but most important it helped me breakthrough. I can not tell you enough how this reset and restored my mindset and helped me look at my lifes challenges from a place of love and to open my heart and mind. I highly recommend this book to anyone. It does refer to the bible and I am not religious yet this book still had a tremendous impact upon me 💞
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- Susan Morash
- 2021-03-20
inspiration
an insightful book that offers hope through the tough times. When the seasons of life are overwhelming at times, the Lord offers hope.
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- Helen Martens
- 2019-03-22
I loved this book!!!
I chose this book as my free trial book and I am so thankful I did I was so blessed!!
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- Amber Ferr
- 2020-01-13
Relatable
I super enjoyed this book. I found it so easy to relate to Lisa, love her transparency. Can't wait to read another of her books.
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- Jacqueline W.
- 2021-05-12
It's Not Supposed to be This Way
Absolutely loved this book! Lisa is so easy to listen to. I have a condition called Dry Eye so the audible books are a God send for me.
Listening to this book makes me want to read anything that she has written! She really has a solid understanding of Scripture and she shared the references so anybody could look them up and be then reassured of the truth she was speaking of.
Her testimony would, I expect, attract many different types and ages of women. A winner for the glory of God!
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- Diana
- 2020-10-22
Thank you, Lysa.
I love to hear authors read their own audiobook. It helps me to understand her side of the story better, plus what she wants her readers to know about God. Thank you, Lysa.
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- Lisa
- 2019-06-02
This was a true blessing!
I Love the book. I will definitely be listening to this again! I was greatly blessed by this book.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2019-08-09
food for the weary soul
Loved it! This is a steak dinner for the famished and battered soul. Sharing it!
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- Jeanette
- 2020-02-12
Helpful!!
What a helpful book. As a woman in ministry myself, you never hear about problems in women in ministry relationships... I’m sure there are some 😉, but they are hard to find publicly. I appreciate Lysa’s honesty about the pain. Because we serve a great big God we need to remain in him no matter what circumstance we find ourselves in. This book helps to show you, you’re not alone, other people go through the same sorts of problems, and that you can still be an over comer through Jesus Christ! Thank you Lysa and God bless you!
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