
It's On Me
Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life
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Sara Kuburic
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Sara Kuburic
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“A masterful guide to help all those who are building self-awareness.”—yung pueblo, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Lighter
A revolutionary guide to identifying self-loss—that feeling of being adrift, disconnected from your true Self—and discovering the freedom that comes from taking responsibility for how we live and who we become, from an existential psychotherapist, USA Today columnist, and Instagram’s popular “Millennial Therapist”
So many of us feel lonely, unfulfilled, or trapped—in our roles and relationships, in cycles of self-sabotage and bad decisions, by our patterns and misguided attempts to feel happy or to feel something. According to existential psychotherapist Sara Kuburic, it doesn’t have to be so difficult. Really.
The answer is found in facing ourselves—whatever version that might be, regardless of whether we like the person we see reflected back to us. It’s about accepting full responsibility for the choices and actions that create our reality. It’s about finally taking ownership of this person we call our “Self.” It’s about realizing that it’s on us to figure out the two most essential questions: “Who am I” and “Why am I here?” and then to live accordingly.
In It’s on Me, Kuburic unpacks “self-loss,” giving us new vocabulary to understand this rarely talked about experience and offers tools she’s used for years to help clients recover. Self-loss becomes apparent when we do not recognize ourselves in our actions, words, or relationships; when we lose sight of who we truly are, and feel the pain and emptiness from performing or observing life, rather than living it. Guiding us through her unique process of self-reflection, acceptance, and discovery, Kuburic proves that we can
• experience but not feel overpowered by our emotions
• establish a healthy connection to our bodies
• set loving boundaries to define ourselves and heal our relationships
• declutter our physical and mental environments to create space for our true Self to thrive
• find meaning and purpose in a seemingly meaningless world
Revelatory and empowering, Kuburic shows how we can stop sleepwalking our way through the lives we don’t want and step into our most vibrant, authentic, and meaningful Self. In doing so, we unlock a deep sense of connection to our innermost being, and to those around us.
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What the critics say
“Sara Kuburic has created a masterful guide to help all those who are building self-awareness. Read this book if you are serious about your personal evolution. It’s On Me eloquently and brilliantly reconnects us with a life of meaning and empowerment by helping us understand the concept of self-loss . . . relatable and necessary.” (Yung Pueblo, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Lighter)
“If human beings came with a manual, It’s On Me would be it! Though we are all subject to the ups and downs of the world around us, we have more control over how we respond to that world than we realize, and Sara Kuburic shows us how.” (Simon Sinek, Optimist and New York Times bestselling author of Start with Why and The Infinite Game)
“Masterful and provoking. Kuburic has outdone herself with her brilliant guide, It's On Me, as she challenges the reader to step towards a path of Self-inquiry and discovery. If your goal is to live an authentic life—one of freedom—then this a must read. In a world where skirting responsibility is often the norm, Kuburic argues that finding responsibility becomes the gateway to meaning, which will ultimately lead you to the Self—the most profound form of existence.” (Vienna Pharaon, LMFT, author of The Origins of You)
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- 2024-01-26
Good but few new lessons…
If you enjoy positive psychology, and you aren’t new to the genre, there may not be much in the way of insightful breakthroughs.
Narration was a little on the slow/quiet side for me, even when sped up.
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- Tommy Causevski
- 2023-09-20
Wasn't what I expected
I didn't get out of it what I expected. was looking forward to it but I found it to be a bit boring.
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- Lana
- 2023-10-06
Loved it! Shifted perspectives!
I loved this book. I enjoyed the experiences that were shared. I appreciated how the book’s teachings allowed me to resonate and reflect on my own life. 10/10 will read again.
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- Kateryna Merkin
- 2023-10-18
Eye opening!
This book is a must read! It makes you turn toward yourself and open doors to the darkest secret rooms inside yourself that you always wanted to ignore previously and pretended they didn't exist
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