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Should I Stay or Should I Go?
- Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist
- Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula PhD
- Length: 10 hrs and 46 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Do you feel like you are talking and talking, and your partner is never listening?
Do you feel like you keep saying the same thing over and over again?
Does your partner make promises, only to break or betray your trust repeatedly?
Is your partner controlling or just plain mean?
Have you read every relationship book out there, practiced your communication skills, and still feel unheard or neglected?
Are you done with second chances?
Should you stay or should you go?
We live in a world of romance and rescue - where everyone believes love will conquer all, and the more we put up with, the more loving we are being. It doesn't work that way. Sometimes we choose mean people, and before long we are in so deep, we don't know whether we are coming or going. One day you want to fight harder, and the next day you are ready to pack it in, and the next day you want to fight harder.
Should I Stay or Should I Go? is a survival manual, a guidebook, and a shot of reality. Some people will never change, and kissing frogs is the stuff of fairy tales, not real life. The Beast never turns out to be a nice guy (or gal). This is a book that breaks down what mean people do to us, how they do it, and what we can do to survive.
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- Michela
- 2020-02-22
Life altering
I love Dr Durvasula! I love learning about how the brain works and why people behave the way they do... she is amazing for her ability to be able to explain it so well. Through my research lately about mental health disorders I’ve found that her material is the best description of a narcissist. I didn’t know what one was for 30 years of my life and just recently I realized I’ve been in a relationship with one for 11yrs. I have struggled for these 11yrs and now I am finally taking my life back! Thank you Dr and I look forward to more of your great work!
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- Anonymous
- 2018-10-12
Excellent!
Best book on subject that I've read. (Audible version.) Wish had done so several years ago. As my partner didn't fit all criteria..was somewhat different and I fooled myself into believing my love could change things. Helps give me confirmation that partner will not change and to stop myself from hanging on, waiting for all the broken promises to be fulfilled and the contempt, lack of empathy and on good days indifference - to magically disappear. ( still trying to get me back!!!) Extremely practical, realistic advice/information in this book. Audible version with passion! Thank you to the author!
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- Izabela
- 2019-09-13
one of the best
I've gone through quite a few books on narcissism but this one stands out by far
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- seeker
- 2019-08-23
Awesome
This book is awesome I realize for quite awhile now that my husband wasn’t going to change but yet I kept going back to talk hoping the next talk would be different. This book set me straight it’s not going to change. I see so much narcissistic traits she mention in my husband. My husband is not controlling or abusive nor does he have any money but he lack empathy he doesn’t care he’s emotionally empty has no insight. He doesn’t like to be confronted. He is selfish never apologize, take no responsibility and blame me and a lot more so I believe he is a narcissistic person. I want to go but have fear of being alone since I’m nearing 60yrs. I will read this book again to help straighten me.
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- Anonymous User
- 2018-10-08
Brilliant book on understanding Narcissists
An eye opener! Very incite full and thorough with excellent examples and references. Thank you!!
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- candace
- 2018-04-29
powerful
extremely powerful book. very eye opening. a must read if you are on the fence about staying or going
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- Jasmine
- 2024-02-27
Such a healing blessing
Thank God for the healing process! It’s great book for healing and knowing the signs and myself. I was thinking if I’m also being a narcissist after being such kind of people. I feel sick of it, and I need healing. Thank the author and the honest people sharing their stories and prayers.
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- Teena Gowdy
- 2023-11-15
after 40 years
I told my husband , we are in insane to keep doing what we’re doing and not getting results…. This is the only thing we have not done “separation” for my health and sanity… and for him to be happy! I cried at a few parts in this book because it is so true of what I’ve been through, I have tried, and have hope for .. now I need to live with the fact that he will not change, but I can !..Thank you.
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- Aren Armenian
- 2023-06-07
Some good life lessons.
I really appreciated the examples given in this book. As Dr. Durvasula was examining the multi-faceted problems of narcissism and enumerating the examples, I was doing a mental checklist of my past relationships with narcissists that aligned with what she was saying. I would definitely recommend this book for anyone who wants to cultivate healthy relationships.
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- Lisa Quinney
- 2023-02-20
Thank you!
I have so much clarity on my next steps and am excited for a brighter future!
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