In this special bonus episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali sits down with Alana Gordon to dive deep into the ins and outs of couples work after betrayal. We break down the different phases of healing, what each phase entails, and how to know when you're ready to move forward.

We discuss:✔️ The importance of slowing down the healing process✔️ Why individual work is essential before deep couples healing✔️ How to recognize when you're ready for the next phase of repair and reconnection✔️ Details about our upcoming Couples Intensive designed for couples ready to take the next steps

If you and your partner are navigating the aftermath of betrayal, this episode is packed with insights to help you understand where you are and how to move forward with intention.

Ready to take the next step? Learn more about our upcoming Rebuilding Us Couples Intensive to be held in Mesa, Arizona on March 26-29, 2025.

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We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

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Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

We look forward to journeying with you!

In today’s episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we dive into the emotional shields we build to protect ourselves after betrayal—and how those same shields can keep us from truly reconnecting with our partner. We explore the delicate balance of leaning in versus leaning back, understanding the role of defensiveness, and the importance of emotional vulnerability in rebuilding trust. Together, we’ll discuss practical strategies for creating emotional safety, recognizing our own defenses, and the slow but powerful process of rebuilding connection. If you’re feeling emotionally distant or stuck in a cycle of hurt, this episode is for you.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the critical role of self-advocacy in the healing process. Recovery is a deeply personal journey, and learning to advocate for yourself—whether with professionals, your spouse, or even with yourself—is essential for moving forward. Join us as we dive into:

• Trusting Your Gut: Learn to tune into your inner voice and distinguish between intuition and fear. Discover practical ways to rebuild self-trust after betrayal.
• Advocating with Your Professional Team: Tips for choosing the right therapist, coach, or support group, communicating your needs effectively, and evaluating your progress along the way.
• Advocating with Your Spouse: How to set boundaries, create space for meaningful dialogue, and handle pushback while standing firm in your needs.
• Advocating with Yourself: Embrace self-compassion, define your non-negotiables, and hold yourself accountable without guilt or shame.
• Overcoming External Pressures: Strategies to resist people-pleasing tendencies, manage unsolicited advice, and stay true to your unique recovery journey.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

Trusting Your Gut

• Understanding Intuition: How to recognize your inner voice amidst the noise of emotions and external opinions.

• Distinguishing Fear from Intuition: Strategies to differentiate between instinctive knowing and fear-based reactions.

• Rebuilding Self-Trust: Practical steps to regain confidence in your decision-making after betrayal.

• Advocating with Your Professional Team

• • Selecting the Right Professionals: Choosing therapists, coaches, or support groups that align with your values and needs.

  • Clear Communication: How to articulate your goals, boundaries, and expectations with professionals.

  • Evaluating Progress: Knowing when a professional relationship is working or when it's time to seek a new perspective.

  Advocating with Your Spouse

  • Setting Boundaries: Communicating your needs clearly and respectfully without guilt or hesitation.

  • Creating Space for Open Dialogue: Establishing times and ways to discuss your feelings and progress.

  • Navigating Pushback: Handling resistance or defensiveness from your partner while standing firm in your needs.

• Advocating with Yourself

• • Defining Your Non-Negotiables: Identifying what you need to heal and sticking to it.

  • Practicing Self-Compassion: Giving yourself permission to prioritize your well-being without shame.

  • Holding Yourself Accountable: Balancing self-advocacy with consistent effort in your healing journey.

  Overcoming External Pressures

  • Managing Well-Meaning Advice: How to deal with unsolicited opinions from friends, family, or society.

  • Resisting People-Pleasing Tendencies: Staying aligned with your needs rather than others' expectations.

  • Focusing on Your Unique Path: Emphasizing that your recovery process is not one-size-fits-all.

  Encouraging Listeners

  • Affirmation of Strength: Acknowledge their courage in advocating for themselves.

  • Call to Action: Small steps they can take today to practice self-advocacy, such as journaling or having a candid conversation.

  This episode will empower you to stand up for yourself and trust that you know what is best for your healing process. Whether you're just starting or are well into your journey, these insights and strategies will help you take ownership of your recovery.