In this special bonus episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, Hali sits down with Alana Gordon to dive deep into the ins and outs of couples work after betrayal. We break down the different phases of healing, what each phase entails, and how to know when you're ready to move forward.

We discuss:✔️ The importance of slowing down the healing process✔️ Why individual work is essential before deep couples healing✔️ How to recognize when you're ready for the next phase of repair and reconnection✔️ Details about our upcoming Couples Intensive designed for couples ready to take the next steps

If you and your partner are navigating the aftermath of betrayal, this episode is packed with insights to help you understand where you are and how to move forward with intention.

Ready to take the next step? Learn more about our upcoming Rebuilding Us Couples Intensive to be held in Mesa, Arizona on March 26-29, 2025.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

We look forward to journeying with you!

In today’s episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we dive into the emotional shields we build to protect ourselves after betrayal—and how those same shields can keep us from truly reconnecting with our partner. We explore the delicate balance of leaning in versus leaning back, understanding the role of defensiveness, and the importance of emotional vulnerability in rebuilding trust. Together, we’ll discuss practical strategies for creating emotional safety, recognizing our own defenses, and the slow but powerful process of rebuilding connection. If you’re feeling emotionally distant or stuck in a cycle of hurt, this episode is for you.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the critical role of self-advocacy in the healing process. Recovery is a deeply personal journey, and learning to advocate for yourself—whether with professionals, your spouse, or even with yourself—is essential for moving forward. Join us as we dive into:

• Trusting Your Gut: Learn to tune into your inner voice and distinguish between intuition and fear. Discover practical ways to rebuild self-trust after betrayal.
• Advocating with Your Professional Team: Tips for choosing the right therapist, coach, or support group, communicating your needs effectively, and evaluating your progress along the way.
• Advocating with Your Spouse: How to set boundaries, create space for meaningful dialogue, and handle pushback while standing firm in your needs.
• Advocating with Yourself: Embrace self-compassion, define your non-negotiables, and hold yourself accountable without guilt or shame.
• Overcoming External Pressures: Strategies to resist people-pleasing tendencies, manage unsolicited advice, and stay true to your unique recovery journey.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

Trusting Your Gut

• Understanding Intuition: How to recognize your inner voice amidst the noise of emotions and external opinions.

• Distinguishing Fear from Intuition: Strategies to differentiate between instinctive knowing and fear-based reactions.

• Rebuilding Self-Trust: Practical steps to regain confidence in your decision-making after betrayal.

• Advocating with Your Professional Team

• • Selecting the Right Professionals: Choosing therapists, coaches, or support groups that align with your values and needs.

  • Clear Communication: How to articulate your goals, boundaries, and expectations with professionals.

  • Evaluating Progress: Knowing when a professional relationship is working or when it's time to seek a new perspective.

  Advocating with Your Spouse

  • Setting Boundaries: Communicating your needs clearly and respectfully without guilt or hesitation.

  • Creating Space for Open Dialogue: Establishing times and ways to discuss your feelings and progress.

  • Navigating Pushback: Handling resistance or defensiveness from your partner while standing firm in your needs.

• Advocating with Yourself

• • Defining Your Non-Negotiables: Identifying what you need to heal and sticking to it.

  • Practicing Self-Compassion: Giving yourself permission to prioritize your well-being without shame.

  • Holding Yourself Accountable: Balancing self-advocacy with consistent effort in your healing journey.

  Overcoming External Pressures

  • Managing Well-Meaning Advice: How to deal with unsolicited opinions from friends, family, or society.

  • Resisting People-Pleasing Tendencies: Staying aligned with your needs rather than others' expectations.

  • Focusing on Your Unique Path: Emphasizing that your recovery process is not one-size-fits-all.

  Encouraging Listeners

  • Affirmation of Strength: Acknowledge their courage in advocating for themselves.

  • Call to Action: Small steps they can take today to practice self-advocacy, such as journaling or having a candid conversation.

  This episode will empower you to stand up for yourself and trust that you know what is best for your healing process. Whether you're just starting or are well into your journey, these insights and strategies will help you take ownership of your recovery.

In this episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the complex and often unspoken topic of shame for the betrayed partner who chooses to stay. Choosing to stay after betrayal can feel isolating, especially in a world that often labels this decision as weak or misguided. But staying is a courageous choice, rooted in love, resilience, and hope. Together, we’ll unpack the origins of shame, its impact on your healing journey, and practical ways to overcome it so you can reclaim your power and peace. We also share ways that the spouse seeking recovery can acknowledge and support their betrayed partner through these difficult emotions.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the profound journey of rediscovering oneself and rebuilding identity in the aftermath of betrayal. Whether you're navigating the impact of disclosure or grappling with the ripple effects of past choices, this episode offers insights and tools for self-reflection, healing, and growth.

We discuss:

• The importance of self-reflection and self-awareness in the healing process.

• How betrayal impacts identity and challenges core beliefs about yourself and your relationship.

• Practical steps to rebuild self-worth and embrace authenticity.

• The role of trauma in shaping (and reshaping) your sense of self.

• How to create a new narrative that fosters healing, connection, and a stronger foundation for the future.

Rediscovering yourself after betrayal is not only possible but essential for moving forward. Tune in to learn how to embrace your true identity and heal—individually and together.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

We look forward to journeying with you!

Welcome to this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal! As the New Year begins, many of us feel the weight of societal pressure to set ambitious resolutions. But for those couples on a healing journey, especially after being impacted by betrayal in your relationship, this pressure can feel overwhelming and misaligned. In this episode, we explore how to redefine growth for the New Year by shifting the focus from rigid resolutions to meaningful intentions. You can find the Good Day With Tay podcast on affirmations that is mentioned in this episode HERE.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!

In this episode of the Choosing to Stay podcast, Hali and Stephanie dive into a listener's question: Does the pain ever go away after betrayal? They explore the emotional realities of betrayal trauma, what healing looks like over time, and how to approach the process of working through pain rather than avoiding it.

From personal experiences to professional insights, Hali and Stephanie share:

• The nature of pain in the aftermath of betrayal.

• The impact of avoidance and survival mode on healing.

• How to honor and process pain for long-term growth.

• The importance of finding meaning in pain and experiencing post-traumatic growth.

Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or reflecting on years past, this conversation offers empathy, validation, and hope.

Resources Mentioned:

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

• Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K. Truman

Connect With Us:We love hearing from our listeners! If you have questions or topics you’d like us to address, please reach out.

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

We look forward to journeying with you!