If you've ever experienced verbal abuse, you know how devastating, demeaning and cruel it is. You know how destructive it is to your self-esteem.

When that hurtful scenario keeps recurring, it seems the only sane thing to do is get away from that abusive person at least temporarily and possibly permanently.

But when that person is your husband, someone you’ve built a life with—sworn to love, honor and respect—and have children with, it’s not so easy to tear apart your family. But you don’t want to live with ongoing verbal abuse either! Nobody should have to live with that.

What if you could reduce the blow-ups? What if they dwindled down to hardly ever? Or even none at all?

I wouldn’t have believed that was possible if I hadn’t seen it in my own marriage. And now that I’ve also witnessed thousands of other women use the Connection Framework to create the same peaceful, even playful outcome in their marriages, I’m a believer.

You don’t have to take my word for it—you can see for yourself by experimenting in your own relationship. Learn what victims of verbal abuse have done to create peace, connection, and playfulness in their relationships.

Sometimes, such victims make one of two common mistakes that worsen the abuse. It’s shocking because I remember feeling so hopeless and helpless about this in my marriage, I was offended by the idea that I was making any mistakes besides having married the wrong person!

But I was making these two mistakes that were within my control to fix…

Do you worry about your husband drinking too much—or, worse, driving after drinking and all the heartache that could cause? Then you’ve got to hear Amanda’s story.

She had already been struggling with her husband’s lies, stonewalling, depression, and alcoholism when he was arrested for driving under the influence. That’s what made her look for help and find a book that changed everything. Now he’s sober, and they talk, flirt, and snuggle like teenagers in love.

Learn how she used that crisis as a catalyst to build a stronger, more connected marriage.

How did she find hope, strength, and a way forward? And what do you need to know if you’re in a crisis, too? You’re about to find out!

Remember when he couldn’t keep his eyes—or hands—off you? If you’re missing that spark and want to feel truly desired again, this episode is for you. Learn how you can be ridiculously attractive to your husband in ways that go beyond looks.

If, like me, you’ve found yourself feeling entirely resistible to your man, you know how painful that is. You might think that means it’s time to lose a few pounds or get a makeover.

When I couldn’t seduce my own husband, that’s what I thought too. But that had nothing to do with why I wasn’t attractive to him. Now that I know how to magnetize him, I want every woman to know because this stuff really works to make you irresistible.

Like when I’m brushing crumbs off the kitchen counter and John says “Don’t move,” he gets out his phone to take my picture like I’m a supermodel he’s been married to for 35 years.

What I learned has given me an unfair advantage.

Here’s how to make yourself a magnet too, sweatpants and bed hair included.