In this special episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I lead you through a guided meditation designed to help you let go of mental burdens and find focus in an overwhelming world. Using visualization techniques and intentional breathing exercises, this meditation offers a space to acknowledge your stressors, release tension, and tap into a feeling of calm and clarity.

This experience is set in a vivid mindscape of space, where you can imagine yourself aboard a futuristic spacecraft, surrounded by the beauty of the cosmos. Together, we’ll navigate through moments of recognition, release, and rejuvenation. By the end of this session, you’ll feel more centered and grounded, with a renewed connection to how you’d like to move forward.

Whether you’re a seasoned meditator or new to mindfulness, this episode is a judgment-free zone to focus on yourself. Bookmark it to return to anytime you need a mental reset.

Sponsor
This episode is brought to you by NOCD, a leading provider of virtual therapy for obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). If you’re stuck in cycles of overthinking, compulsive behaviors, or intrusive thoughts, NOCD offers specialized treatment using Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)—a gold-standard therapy for OCD.

They provide virtual sessions with licensed therapists, accept many major insurance plans, and offer support between sessions to make treatment as accessible as possible.

Visit https://www.nocd.com to schedule a free 15-minute consultation and take the first step toward relief. For more insights on OCD and ERP, check out my interview with Dr. Patrick McGrath in episode 406 of this podcast.

Chapters:

• 00:15 — Introduction: Why This Meditation Matters
• 03:00 — Sponsor: NOCD – Treatment for OCD Symptoms
• 04:30 — Setting the Scene: Guided Visualization in Space
• 08:00 — Acknowledging and Offloading Mental Burdens
• 13:00 — Breathing for Release: Techniques to Let Go
• 17:00 — Choosing Your Focus and Setting Your Intention
• 19:30 — Relaxation Breathing and Body Scan
• 25:00 — Final Reflections and Letting the Experience Settle

About the Podcast
I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to make mental health topics relatable and actionable. Whether through guided meditations like this one, Q&A sessions, or expert interviews, I aim to help you navigate life’s challenges with clarity and confidence.

Connect With Me:

• Website: https://duffthepsych.com
• Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych
• YouTube: https://youtube.com/duffthepsych

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#GuidedMeditation #Mindfulness #MentalHealth #Relaxation #StressRelief #SelfHelp

In this inspiring episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Jordan Grumet, a hospice director, author, and podcast host, to explore how we can transform our lives by embracing the concept of “little p purpose.” Dr. Grumet shares insights from his latest book, The Purpose Code, which offers actionable strategies to uncover and build a meaningful life, regardless of your circumstances.

Our conversation dives deep into the difference between “big P Purpose” (society’s lofty, often unattainable ideals) and “little p purpose” (daily actions that bring joy and meaning). Dr. Grumet shares his personal journey—from losing his father at a young age to becoming a physician driven by unresolved trauma, to ultimately finding fulfillment by pursuing his passions for writing, speaking, and connecting with others.

Key takeaways from our discussion include practical ways to recognize your purpose anchors, how to turn regrets into motivations, and why pursuing joy in small, intentional ways can lead to profound impact and lasting legacy. We also explore how Dr. Grumet’s work in hospice has shaped his understanding of what truly matters in life, highlighting lessons from those at the end of their journeys.

This episode is packed with wisdom for anyone feeling stuck, searching for meaning, or simply looking to live with more intentionality and joy.

Sponsor
This episode is brought to you by NOCD, a leading provider of virtual therapy for obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). If you're caught in an endless loop of “what-ifs” or struggling with obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors, NOCD offers specialized, evidence-based therapy designed just for OCD—Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). They accept many major insurance plans, making it accessible and affordable, with support available between therapy sessions.

Take the first step by visiting https://www.nocd.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Plus, check out my interview with Dr. Patrick McGrath, NOCD’s Chief Clinical Officer, on episode 406 of this podcast to learn more about OCD and their approach.

Chapters:

• 00:15 — Introduction: Meet Dr. Jordan Grumet
• 02:00 — Finding Purpose After Loss: Dr. Grumet’s Early Life
• 06:15 — Purpose Anchors: Joyful Work vs. Goal-Oriented Burnout
• 10:45 — Lessons from the Hospice Life Review
• 16:30 — Regrets of the Dying: Turning Regret into Action
• 20:00 — Building Purpose When You Feel Stuck
• 24:15 — Tools and Levers: Joy of Addition and Art of Subtraction
• 30:00 — The Difference Between Meaning and Purpose
• 37:00 — How Small Joys Create Big Impact and Legacy
• 44:15 — Practical Steps to Start Building a Purposeful Life
• 50:30 — Final Takeaways: Finding Your Purpose Anchors

About the Podcast
I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. Each episode dives deep into mental health, personal development, and strategies for living authentically and fulfilling your potential.

Guest Links

• Dr. Grumet’s Website: https://jordangrumet.com
• The Purpose Code: https://jordangrumet.com/books
• Podcast: https://www.earnandinvest.com/episodes

Connect With Me:

• Website: https://duffthepsych.com
• Instagram: https://instagram.com/duffthepsych
• YouTube: https://youtube.com/duffthepsych

#MentalHealth #Purpose #PersonalDevelopment #Legacy #SelfHelp #Mindfulness

In today’s year-end wrap-up episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast (Episode 425), I reflect on 2024 and reveal my guiding word for 2025. Instead of traditional New Year’s resolutions, I choose a single word each year to serve as a focal point and inspiration. I revisit last year’s word—Connection—and discuss what worked well, like strengthening family bonds and growing professionally through clinical supervision and podcast interviews, as well as what didn’t go as planned (like making new friends or achieving full Spanish fluency). These reflections highlight how intentions can guide growth in unexpected ways.

Looking ahead to 2025, my new word is Mend. From addressing health issues to repairing lingering logistical and financial tasks, I want to focus on making what I already have stronger and more sustainable, rather than building from scratch. This year’s theme is about restoring, improving, and taking care of what’s important in my personal life, home, and professional endeavors—including the podcast and Duff the Psych projects.

Join me as I wrap up 2024, share my aspirations for 2025, and encourage you to reflect on your own values, accomplishments, and future direction. Thank you for another year of support and attention. I’ll see you in 2025!

Chapters:

00:00 — Reflecting on Another Year: Gratitude & Long-Term Listeners
01:00 — Beyond Resolutions: Choosing a Guiding Word Each Year
03:00 — Reviewing 2024’s Word “Connection”: Wins, Misses & Insights
05:00 — Personal Highlights: Family Bonding, Board Games & Quality Time
09:00 — Professional Growth: Clinical Supervision, Networking & Interviews
11:00 — Language Ambitions: Progress in Spanish, But Not Fluent Yet
13:00 — Introducing 2025’s Word: “Mend”
14:00 — Repairing & Improving: Health, Home Projects & Finances
16:00 — Podcast & Brand Updates: Refining Instead of Expanding
18:00 — Final Thoughts: Entering 2025 with Intention & Flexibility

About the Podcast

I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist aiming to make mental health more accessible. On the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I break down complex psychological concepts, share actionable tips, and provide relatable advice to help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life. Whether through solo episodes, interviews, or listener Q&A, my goal is to support your mental well-being without unnecessary jargon.

Connect With Me:

• Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com/
• Contact: https://www.duffthepsych.com/contact
• Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych

#MentalHealth #SelfHelp #PersonalDevelopment #Mindfulness #NewYear #Goals #Intention #Reflection #Podcast

In this solo Q&A episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast (Episode 424), I tackle two listener questions that address challenging mental health scenarios. The first question delves into the concept of antidepressant-associated chronic irritable dysphoria (ACID), a proposed condition rather than a formally recognized diagnosis, and the potential long-term effects of antidepressants in the context of bipolar disorder. I break down the limited research behind ACID, emphasize the importance of comprehensive care, and acknowledge the frustration that can arise when medications seem to worsen symptoms instead of helping.

The second question focuses on waking up early with irritability and racing thoughts. I provide practical strategies like pre-bed journaling to offload worries, identifying actionable steps for lingering concerns, and creating a calming buffer before sleep. I also discuss the importance of reexamining one’s work environment, considering meaningful changes, and finding fulfillment outside of a stressful job. Throughout the episode, I offer insights on self-advocacy, exploring alternative treatments, and laying the groundwork to regain a sense of control in your daily life.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Needing More Questions & Holiday Scheduling
02:00 — ACID Explained: A Proposed Condition, Not a Formal Diagnosis
08:00 — Bipolar Disorder & Antidepressants: Complex Interactions and Research Gaps
11:00 — Frustration with Care: Inadequate Guidance and Long-Term Medication Issues
14:00 — Exploring Alternatives: Therapy, Lifestyle Changes, and Treatments Like TMS/Ketamine
21:00 — Morning Irritability: Unpacking Workplace Stress & Uncontrollable Factors
24:00 — Reevaluating Work: Finding Meaning Outside Employment and Considering Changes
27:00 — Pre-Bed Journaling: Offloading Worries, Identifying Action Steps, and Creating Buffers
30:00 — Final Thoughts: Gratitude, Year-End Plans, and Continuing the Journey

About the Podcast

I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. I’m here to demystify mental health, break down psychological concepts, and provide actionable advice without unnecessary jargon. Through expert interviews, listener Q&A, and relatable discussions, this podcast aims to help you live a healthier, more fulfilled life.

Connect With Me:

• Website: https://www.duffthepsych.com/
• Contact: https://www.duffthepsych.com/contact
• Email: duffthepsych@gmail.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych

#MentalHealth #Antidepressants #Bipolar #WorkStress #Journaling #SleepHygiene #QandA #SelfHelp #Psychology

In today’s episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I sit down with psychologist, professional speaker, and author Dr. Matt Zakreski to explore the concept of neurodiversity and how to create a more supportive world for neurodivergent individuals. Drawing from both personal and professional experiences, Dr. Matt shares his journey as someone who is gifted and ADHD, and how that shaped his understanding and advocacy for neurodivergent folks.

We discuss what neurodiversity truly means, highlight differences between neurotypical and neurodivergent brains, and break down why it’s crucial to avoid framing neurodivergent individuals as “failed neurotypicals.” Dr. Matt provides practical strategies for understanding executive functioning challenges, improving communication, and fostering more inclusive environments both in schools and in everyday life. Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself, raising a neurodivergent child, or simply looking to become a better ally, this episode is packed with insights and guidance to help you understand, accept, and celebrate neurological differences.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Send in Your Questions & Introducing Dr. Matt Zakreski
02:00 — Defining Neurodiversity and Neurodivergence
08:00 — The Performance Cliff: When School Outpaces Natural Ability
11:00 — Common Threads: Executive Functioning and Pragmatic Language in Neurodivergence
17:00 — Brain-Based Differences: Sensory Input, Basal Ganglia, and Emotional Intensity
21:00 — Universal Design in Education: Creating Systems That Work for All
24:00 — Shame, Emotionality, and the Reality of ADHD
28:00 — Inattentive vs. Hyperactive: Recognizing Subtle Signs and Misdiagnoses
33:00 — Rethinking Assessment: Moving Beyond DSM Checklists
38:00 — Why Specialists and Relationships Matter in Mental Health Care
41:00 — Making Therapy Work for Kids: Meeting Them Where They Are
43:00 — The Neurodiversity Playbook: Tools, Strategies, and Action Points
48:00 — Intention vs. Impact: Communicating Clearly and Compassionately
52:00 — Practical Tips for Executive Functioning in Daily Life
54:00 — Final Takeaways: Building Community and Embracing Your Unique Brain

About the Podcast

I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into approachable, actionable advice. Each episode dives deep into mental health, personal development, and practical strategies for thriving. Whether through expert interviews, audience Q&A, or practical tips, this show is all about making meaningful changes without unnecessary jargon or fluff.

Guest Links:

• The Neurodiversity Playbook by Dr. Matt Zakreski:
  https://www.drmattzakreski.com/the-neurodiversity-playbook

• Dr. Matt Zakreski’s Website:
  https://www.drmattzakreski.com/

• Instagram:
  https://www.instagram.com/drmattzakreski/

Connect With Me:

• Website:
  https://www.duffthepsych.com/

• Instagram:
  https://www.instagram.com/duffthepsych/

• YouTube:
  https://www.youtube.com/c/DuffThePsych

#Neurodiversity #ADHD #Gifted #TwiceExceptional #Autism #ExecutiveFunction #InclusiveEducation #MentalHealth #SelfHelp #PersonalDevelopment

In this Q&A episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I address two insightful listener questions. The first explores coping with the end of a therapeutic relationship, while the second delves into the physical manifestations of depression and strategies to manage them. This episode offers practical advice and empathetic understanding for those navigating these challenges.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Returning to Q&A
After a series of interviews, I return to answering your questions. Learn how to submit your own and connect with the podcast.

02:05 — Coping with the End of Therapy
A listener shares the grief experienced after concluding therapy with a transformative therapist. I discuss why these feelings are normal, the concept of transference, and practical ways to navigate the loss of such a significant relationship.

12:15 — Understanding the Physical Symptoms of Depression
Addressing a listener's concern about the often-overlooked physical manifestations of depression, including fatigue, dissociation, and the role of self-injury as a coping mechanism. I explore what these symptoms can look like, why they occur, and practical tools to help reconnect with the body and manage the emotional weight.

24:00 — Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Reflecting on the courage it takes to share these challenges and offering guidance on taking small steps toward healing.

About the Podcast
I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist and the host of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast. My mission is to break down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. Each episode combines expert insights, practical tips, and answers to listener questions, all aimed at helping you live a healthier, more fulfilled life.

Connect With Me:

• Website: duffthepsych.com
• Instagram: @duffthepsych
• YouTube: youtube.com/duffthepsych

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Book: Skin Game: A Memoir by Caroline Kettlewell. This memoir provides a vivid account of living with and overcoming self-injury. Available on Amazon:

I hope you find this episode insightful and supportive. If you'd like to send me a question for a future episode, please email me at duffthepsych@gmail.com.

In today’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Manu Kapur, a professor of learning sciences, to delve into his unique approach to education: productive failure. Dr. Kapur explains how intentionally designing failure within the learning process can lead to deeper understanding and greater knowledge retention. We discuss the science behind productive failure and how it differs from traditional methods, which often focus on direct instruction followed by application. Dr. Kapur shares his experiences from childhood dreams of soccer to academic life at ETH Zurich, showing how personal failures have shaped his life and work.

Together, we explore key concepts like the “four A’s” of productive failure: Activation, Awareness, Affect, and Assembly. This method encourages learners to first explore problems in a safe space, where failure is expected, to prepare them for deeper learning through expert guidance afterward. Dr. Kapur’s insights reveal how frustration and negative emotions, when managed safely, can enhance memory and motivation, making failure a powerful tool in the learning process.

In this episode, Dr. Kapur provides real-world examples, from learning statistical concepts in the classroom to developing retrieval paths in social interactions. We also discuss how productive failure can be applied beyond the classroom to daily life and parenting, helping adults model and reinforce the benefits of persistence and exploration for children.

Chapters:

00:15 — Introduction: Meet Dr. Manu Kapur and the Concept of Productive Failure
05:30 — The Science Behind Learning Through Failure
12:00 — The “Four A’s” of Productive Failure: Activation, Awareness, Affect, and Assembly
18:30 — Real-Life Examples: Productive Failure in the Classroom
24:00 — The Role of Emotions in Memory and Learning
30:05 — Applying Productive Failure in Daily Life
36:25 — Parenting and Productive Failure: Teaching Kids Resilience
41:50 — Productive Failure’s Global Applications and Cultural Reflections
47:05 — Key Takeaways and Where to Find More from Dr. Kapur

About the Podcast I’m Dr. Robert Duff, and on this podcast, we dive deep into mental health and personal growth, bringing expert insights and practical advice to help you navigate life’s challenges. Join us for conversations that break down complex concepts into actionable steps.

Guest Links:

• Dr. Kapur’s Book: Productive Failure: Unlocking the Science of Failure for Deep Learning and Growth
• Website: ProductiveFailure.com
• Follow Dr. Kapur on LinkedIn,

Connect With Me:

• Website: http://duffthepsych.com
• Instagram: http://instagram.com/duffthepsych
• YouTube: http://youtube.com/duffthepsych

#ProductiveFailure #Learning #Education #GrowthMindset #MentalHealth