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  • 31. Why New Year's Resolutions Fail (And What to Do Instead): A Guide to Sustainable Goal Setting in Midlife
    Dec 23 2024

    In this episode, I discuss why traditional New Year's resolutions often fail and present a more effective approach to creating lasting change through micro-goals and habit stacking. Perfect for anyone looking to make meaningful changes in 2025 without the pressure of traditional resolutions.


    Key Statistics

    - Approximately 80% of New Year's resolutions fail by February

    - Most people abandon their resolutions within the first two months


    Why Traditional New Year's Resolutions Often Don't Work

    - Create unrealistic expectations

    - Timing is arbitrary

    - Lack proper support systems

    - Don't account for lifestyle sustainability

    - Put too much pressure on January 1st as a start date

    - Often too ambitious without proper planning


    Better Alternatives to New Year's Resolutions

    SMART Goal Setting

    - Specific

    - Measurable

    - Achievable

    - Relevant

    - Time-bound


    Micro-Goals Approach

    - Start with small, manageable changes

    - Examples:

    - 10-minute walks, 3 times per week

    - Adding one vegetable to dinner

    - Getting to bed 30 minutes earlier

    - Writing for 30 minutes each day


    Habit Stacking

    - Build one small habit at a time

    - Add new habits only after mastering previous ones

    - Focus on sustainability over quick results

    - Create systems rather than focusing solely on outcomes


    Tips for Success

    • Regular Check-ins

    • Celebration Strategies

    • Support Systems

    • The Importance of Self-Reflection

    • Alternative Timing Approaches


    Resources Mentioned

    - Book: "Wintering" by Katherine May

    - Women Mastering Midlife community


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    28 min
  • 30. Natural Stress Relief: How CBD Can Help Women Navigate Holiday Anxiety & Midlife Changes with Melody Swehla
    Dec 16 2024

    In this episode, I sit down with Melody Swehla, a former nurse turned CBD advocate and wellness entrepreneur, to discuss how CBD can help manage stress, particularly during the holiday season and in midlife.

    Episode Highlights

    About Melody's Journey

    • Former nurse who became a certified personal trainer after the pandemic

    • Started using CBD to manage her own anxiety and stress

    • Found significant improvement in mood regulation and stress management

    • Now helps others, particularly midlife women, with CBD education and wellness

    Understanding CBD vs. THC

    • CBD and THC are different compounds from the cannabis plant

    • CBD focuses on wellness without psychoactive effects

    • CBD works with the body's endocannabinoid system

    • The endocannabinoid system was discovered in the 1990s

    • All mammals have this system, which helps maintain bodily balance

    Benefits of CBD for Holiday Stress

    • Helps manage social anxiety at holiday gatherings

    • Improves sleep quality

    • Reduces stress-related emotional eating

    • Strengthens immune system

    • Helps with stress-induced physical symptoms

    • Provides a healthier alternative to alcohol at social events

    Quality Matters in CBD Products

    • Important factors for choosing CBD:

      • Must be USDA certified organic

      • Third-party tested

      • Certificate of Analysis (COA) available

      • CO2 extraction method

      • Transparent company practices

    • Warning signs:

      • Avoid CBD products on Amazon (not authorized)

      • Avoid gas station CBD

      • Be wary of products from China (80% of U.S. CBD)

    CBD for Children

    • Safe for children when using quality products

    • Helps with:

      • School-related anxiety

      • Sleep issues

      • Mood regulation

      • Allergies

      • ADHD symptoms

    Getting Started with CBD

    • Recommended starter products:

      • Nano jellies (90-95% bioavailable)

      • Oil tinctures

      • Balance and Restore bundle options

    • Importance of working with an advocate for personalized recommendations

    • No "one size fits all" approach

    Safety Considerations

    • Consult healthcare provider if on blood thinners

    • Discuss with doctor if on multiple medications

    • Many users have successfully reduced other medication usage

    • No impairment for driving

    • No significant side effects reported

    Connect with Melody

    https://www.instagram.com/ftsfitness/

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    59 min
  • 29. The Truth About Alcohol in Midlife: Impact on Menopause, Sleep, and Health for Women Over 40
    Dec 9 2024

    Have you been noticing a “sober curious” or sober lifestyle grabbing social media attention? In this essential episode, we dive deep into the complex relationship between alcohol consumption and women's health during midlife and menopause. From holiday celebrations to stress management, we explore why women might increase their alcohol intake during this life stage and the surprising health implications that come with it. I also offer my suggestions for sans-alcohol options during this holiday season.


    Important Statistics & Research Findings

    - More than one drink disrupts sleep in 39.2% of cases

    - One drink reduces sleep quality by 24%

    - Even less than one drink disrupts sleep quality by 9.3%

    - Women who drink three alcoholic drinks per week have a 15% higher risk of breast cancer

    - Risk increases by 10% for each additional daily drink

    - 66% of alcohol-attributable cancers in women were breast cancers

    - Approximately 144,000 new cases of breast cancer annually are linked to alcohol consumption

    - 8.6% of all breast cancer cases and 7.3% of breast cancer deaths are attributed to alcohol consumption


    Impact on Menopausal Symptoms

    - Increases frequency of vasomotor symptoms (hot flashes and night sweats)

    - Disrupts sleep architecture:

    - Increases sleep latency

    - Decreases REM sleep

    - Alters deep sleep patterns

    - Exacerbates brain fog and cognitive issues

    - May increase risk of depression and anxiety


    Resources Mentioned

    - Mocktail guide with recipes (available in show notes)

    -Oura app for tracking sleep and alcohol consumption

    - Book reference: "Upgrade" (discussing brain changes during life transitions)

    -https://www.breastcancer.org/risk/risk-factors/drinking-alcohol

    -https://www.sleepfoundation.org/nutrition/alcohol-and-sleep#references-78452


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    36 min
  • 28. Embracing Midlife: Dr. Shayna Kaufmann on Finding Wisdom, Strength and Joy Beyond Menopause
    Dec 2 2024
    In this enlightening conversation, I had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Shayna Kaufmann about her book 'Embrace the Middle.' We delved into the challenges and gifts of midlife for women, discussing the importance of shifting perspectives on menopause, the SOFTT method for navigating midlife challenges, and the significance of self-compassion and resilience. Dr. Kaufmann emphasized the need for open conversations about aging and encouraged women to embrace their wisdom and experiences as they navigate this transformative stage of life. Episode Highlights The Inspiration Behind 'Embrace the Middle' Dr. Kaufmann shared that her own journey through menopause and other midlife challenges inspired her to write the book. She wanted to find a way to navigate these changes more gracefully and powerfully, drawing from her meditation practice and real-life experiences. The SOFTT Method I was particularly impressed with Dr. Kaufmann's SOFTT method for handling difficult moments: - S: Slow down - O: Observe thoughts and feelings - F: Feel bodily sensations - T: Tenderness (self-compassion) - T: Tune into inner wisdom Dr. Kaufmann provided a powerful example of using this method when dealing with her mother-in-law's cancer diagnosis, demonstrating how it can help in real-life situations. Challenges and Gifts of Midlife We discussed the top challenges women face in midlife, including: 1. Physical decline 2. Death and loss 3. Caregiving demands (the "sandwich generation" issue) However, Dr. Kaufmann also emphasized the often-overlooked gifts of midlife: - Wisdom - Comfort in one's skin - Resilience - More fulfilling friendships - Greater self-awareness Changing the Midlife Paradigm Dr. Kaufmann and I talked about the need to shift society's view of midlife women. Some key points included: - Having more open conversations about menopause - Welcoming and celebrating midlife beauty - Addressing ageism and sexism - Celebrating women's accomplishments in midlife Finding Direction in Midlife For women struggling to find meaning or direction, Dr. Kaufmann advised: - Giving yourself grace during this uncomfortable period - Staying open-hearted and open-minded - Exploring new interests without rushing - Tapping into wisdom and self-awareness The Power of Stillness We discussed the importance of finding stillness in a culture that values constant activity. Dr. Kaufmann suggested starting small, even with just three breaths, to begin cultivating this practice. Personal Reflections As someone with teenage daughters, I found Dr. Kaufmann's insights on the evolving nature of motherhood particularly touching. Her description of the beautiful adult-like relationships that develop as children grow older gave me a positive perspective on the changes to come. I also appreciated her emphasis on embracing the physical changes of midlife. As someone who has struggled with body image, her message of self-acceptance was powerful and liberating. Connect with Dr. Shayna Kaufmann Embrace the Middle linktr.ee/embracethemiddle www.instagram.com/shaynakauffmann Connect with Me Learn more about the Women Mastering Midlife Community: www.msvictoriabyrd.com/community Free 1:1 Coaching Consult Call with Victoria: www.msvictoriabyrd.com/booknow Connect with Victoria: msvictoriabyrd Have questions you'd like answered in an "Ask Me Anything" episode? Send them in here: Ask Me Anything Form Remember to subscribe to the Women Mastering Midlife podcast for more inspiring conversations about navigating the joys and challenges of midlife!
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    43 min
  • 27. The Power of a Gratitude Practice in Midlife: Transforming Your Health and Happiness
    Nov 25 2024

    In this Thanksgiving week episode, I dive deep into the transformative power of gratitude, especially for women in midlife. I share my personal experiences with gratitude practices, scientific insights into how gratitude affects our brains and bodies, and practical tips for incorporating gratitude into daily life. The conversation emphasizes the mental health benefits of gratitude, including reduced anxiety and improved relationships. I encourage listeners to start a gratitude practice, no matter how small, and reflect on the long-term positive impacts it can have on overall well-being.


    Key Takeaways

    1. Gratitude can significantly improve mood and mindset.

    2. Incorporating gratitude into daily life can enhance emotional well-being.

    3. Practicing gratitude can help rewire the brain for positivity.

    4. Gratitude practices can reduce anxiety and symptoms of depression.

    5. Acknowledging small things can lead to a greater sense of abundance.

    6. A gratitude practice strengthens relationships and social connections.

    7. Starting a gratitude practice can be simple and flexible.

    8. Overcoming negative mindsets is crucial for practicing gratitude.

    9. Gratitude can help navigate difficult life transitions.

    10. Consistency in gratitude practices leads to lasting benefits.


    Call to Action

    1. Start a 7-day gratitude practice, even if it's just one thing per day.

    2. Reflect on how this practice impacts your mood and outlook.

    3. Share your experiences with me on social media or in the podcast comments.

    4. If you already have a gratitude practice, consider sharing it to inspire others.

    5. Subscribe, download, and share this podcast with friends who might benefit from these discussions.

    Remember, there's no right or wrong way to practice gratitude. The key is to find a method that works for you and to be consistent. Let's embrace the power of gratitude together and transform our midlife experiences!


    Thank you for listening, and I look forward to connecting with you in the next episode.


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    28 min
  • 26. Dionna Hickox: Creating a Perimenopause Journey on Her Terms
    Nov 18 2024

    In this candid and inspiring conversation, I sat down with Dionna Hickox, a woman I've known through social media for seven years. Dionna shares her remarkable journey from being a reluctant gym-goer to embracing a fitness lifestyle, navigating the emotional challenges of becoming an empty nester, and even embarking on an adventurous van life experience. We dive deep into her experiences with perimenopause, the importance of community support, and her mission to empower women through strength training and self-acceptance.


    Key Takeaways

    1. Dionna started her fitness journey in her late 30s, initially feeling intimidated by the gym.

    2. She found motivation through accountability by becoming a Beachbody coach.

    3. Transitioning to an empty nester brought feelings of loss and the need to redefine her identity.

    4. Living in a van was a dream of her husband's, which she supported despite initial hesitations.

    5. Dionna's experiences with perimenopause led her to share her journey to help other women feel less alone.

    6. She emphasizes the importance of educating oneself about menopause and its symptoms.

    7. Dionna encourages women to embrace their imperfections and prioritize their health.

    8. She believes in the power of community support among women navigating similar life changes.

    9. Dionna is creating a strength training guide to help women feel empowered in their fitness journey.

    10. She advocates for a balanced approach to health, focusing on both physical and mental well-being.


    Talking with Dionna felt like chatting with an old friend. Her honesty, humor, and willingness to share both the ups and downs of her journey are refreshing. As someone who also talks about menopause frequently (much to my 13-year-old's chagrin!), I appreciate Dionna's efforts to normalize these conversations.


    Our discussion about the differences in food and lifestyle between the U.S. and places like Italy was particularly interesting to me. It's a reminder of how our environment and choices can significantly impact our health and well-being.


    If you're inspired by Dionna's journey, I encourage you to:

    1. Follow Dionna on social media for daily inspiration and honest conversations about midlife.

    2. Start educating yourself about perimenopause and menopause - knowledge is power!

    3. Consider incorporating strength training into your routine, no matter your age or fitness level.

    4. Be open to trying new things and embracing imperfection.

    5. Join or create a community of women supporting each other through midlife changes.


    Connect with Dionna Hickox

    Dionna’s links: https://www.kevintheberner.com/dionna

    Follow Dionna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dionnahickox/


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    Learn more about the Women Mastering Midlife Community: www.msvictoriabyrd.com/community

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    54 min
  • 25. Creating the Life of Your Dreams Regardless of Age or Circumstances with Debbie Weiss
    Nov 11 2024
    In this inspiring conversation, I had the pleasure of interviewing Debbie Weiss, author and motivational speaker, about her journey of self-discovery and empowerment in midlife. Debbie shared insights from her memoir and upcoming guide, emphasizing the importance of embracing change, setting boundaries, and pursuing dreams at any age. Through her personal experiences, Debbie illustrated that it's never too late to make meaningful changes in life and that personal growth often comes from overcoming obstacles and listening to one's intuition. Key Takeaways 1. Our stories are important, even if they seem small or ordinary 2. Midlife can be a time for reinvention and personal growth 3. Learning to say "no" is a crucial part of self-care and boundary setting 4. Setting boundaries helps prioritize personal needs and dreams 5. Pursuing dreams requires action, commitment, and sometimes financial investment 6. Investing in yourself can lead to unexpected opportunities and personal growth 7. Stepping outside of comfort zones is essential for personal development 8. Listening to your intuition is key to making important life decisions 9. Exploring multiple streams of income can enhance financial stability 10. It's never too late to start a new chapter in life or pursue a passion Memorable Quotes * Debbie: "Our stories are important." * Debbie: "I didn't want to get to the end of my life with regrets." * Debbie: "Learning to say no is a form of self-care." * Debbie quoting Glinda from The Wizard of Oz: "You always had the power, my dear. You just had to learn it for yourself." * Debbie: "Nobody's going to come ringing your doorbell and saying, 'I think this is what you need to do. Come with me.' You have to make it happen yourself." About Debbie Weiss Debbie Weiss is an author, motivational speaker, and advocate for women's empowerment in midlife. Her memoir details her journey of self-discovery after turning 50, and her upcoming book, "The Sprinkle Effect," offers guidance for creating a more fulfilling life. I was intrigued to learn about Debbie's background as a CPA and insurance agency owner, and how she found her calling in inspiring others to embrace change and pursue their dreams. Upcoming Book: The Sprinkle Effect Debbie gave us a sneak peek into her upcoming book: * It's a guide to creating a more colorful and fulfilling life * Includes 15-16 different "sprinkles" or strategies for personal growth * Topics include perspective, mindset, belief, dreaming, action, and resilience * Comes with an optional workbook for exercises and self-reflection After this inspiring conversation with Debbie, I encourage you to: * Read Debbie's memoir for inspiration on embracing change in midlife * Look out for her upcoming book, "The Sprinkle Effect," and its accompanying workbook * Reflect on your own life and consider what dreams or goals you may want to pursue * Start setting boundaries and practicing saying "no" to create space for personal growth * Invest in yourself through courses, books, or experiences that align with your goals Connect with Debbie Weiss debbie@debbierweiss.com www.debbierweiss.com https://www.instagram.com/debbie.r.weiss https://www.tiktok.com/@debbierweiss Please click here to join the Maybe I Can free FB Community Connect with Me Learn more about the Women Mastering Midlife Community: www.msvictoriabyrd.com/community Free 1:1 Coaching Consult Call with Victoria: www.msvictoriabyrd.com/booknow Connect with Victoria: msvictoriabyrd Have questions you'd like answered in an "Ask Me Anything" episode? Send them in here: Ask Me Anything Form Remember to subscribe to the Women Mastering Midlife podcast for more inspiring conversations and practical advice on navigating midlife with confidence and purpose!
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    45 min
  • 24. Embracing Holiday Joy in Midlife: Balancing Weight Concerns and Traditions
    Nov 4 2024

    Can you savor holiday joy without the guilt? Today's episode explores how to fully embrace the magic of the season in midlife, balancing traditions with self-care and letting go of weight worries for a truly joyful holiday. We dive into the art of enjoying holiday indulgences while staying true to your health goals, covering mindful eating, stress management, and staying active. Plus, we reveal the surprising truth about holiday weight gain, share heartwarming family traditions, and invite you to join our supportive community for a joyful, balanced season.


    Tune in to hear:

    • Mindful eating tips that will allow you to to enjoy the season guilt-free
    • Tips for incorporating exercise to keep up your fitness during this season
    • Strategies for managing holiday stress that include breathing exercises, meditation, and ways to focus on joyful connections rather than weight worries
    • The value in embracing holiday traditions to boost well-bring and strengthen bonds with your favorite people


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    32 min