High Conflict Parenting

In The High-Conflict Custody Battle, a team of legal and psychology experts present a practical guidebook for people like you who are engaged in a high-conflict custody battle. If you are dealing with an overtly hostile, inflammatory, deceitful, or manipulative ex-spouse, you will learn how to find and work with an attorney and prepare for a custody evaluation. The book also provides helpful tips you can use to defend yourself against false accusations and gives a realistic portrayal of what to expect during a legal fight.

The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most.

33 Strategies of War is a comprehensive guide to the subtle social game of everyday life, informed by the most ingenious and effective military principles in war. It's the I-Ching of conflict, the contemporary companion to Sun Tzu's The Art of War, and is abundantly illustrated with examples from history, including the folly and genius of everyone from Napoleon to Margaret Thatcher, Hannibal to Ulysses S. Grant, movie moguls to samurai swordsmen.

Spanning world civilizations, synthesizing dozens of political, philosophical, and religious texts and thousands of years of violent conflict, The 33 Strategies of War is a comprehensive guide to the subtle social games of everyday life, informed by the most ingenious and effective military principles in war. Structured in Greene's trademark style, The 33 Strategies of War is the I Ching of conflict, the contemporary companion to Sun Tzu's The Art of War.

Based in the revolutionary science of attachment theory and evidence-based emotionally focused therapy (EFT), this is an effective, research-based road map for helping high-conflict couples break free from painful and destructive habits. With this book, you'll uncover the root cause of your conflicts-both as individuals and as a couple. You'll also find simple strategies for creating an emotionally secure environment, as well as tips for managing triggers, de-escalating arguments, and cultivating a real and lasting connection.

With more than three decades of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. McBride guides you through the emotional fallout and challenges of being married to and divorcing a narcissist. The court system assumes that both parties in most high-conflict divorces are at fault, but a narcissist can wreak havoc in the divorce process. Dr. McBride shows how to navigate this kind of divorce and how you and your children can heal afterward.

The only way to get over it is to get through it. Help is here. High-Conflict Divorce for Women has everything that divorce books for women should have - practical strategies, helpful scripts, and realistic advice on how to navigate and cope with a difficult divorce. From understanding the legalities of divorce, to developing a post-divorce budget, and more, this book goes beyond other divorce books for women to offer a wide range of strategies for getting through each stage of the process. Plus, you'll discover tips for emotional and physical self-care and mitigating stress.

Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person? Most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success when, in reality, these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. When it comes to love, the brain is irrational and shortsighted. We make decisions based on incomplete information, biased understanding, and strong emotion. Love truly is blind. That's why you need dating radar - it gives you a way to detect hazards you might otherwise miss by recognizing:

When people repeatedly use personal attacks, I think of them as “high-conflict people” (HCPs), because they lack skills for dealing well with conflict. Instead of sharing responsibility for solving problems, they repeatedly lose it and increase conflict by making it intensely personal and taking no responsibility. They are the most difficult people, because they are preoccupied with blaming others—what I call their “targets of blame”—which may include you! They speak Blamespeak: attack, defend—and attack again.

Many people think they know what they are doing when they go up against someone else in court. But do you really know what you are getting yourself into? The narcissist values popularity, status, money, power, resources, and false image. Many court personnel also subscribe to these same priorities in their life, and if you weren’t successful in dealing with one narcissist - you surely won’t be able to cope with the lawyer team that your narcissist hired to antagonize you.

In this 10th-anniversary edition of Don't Alienate the Kids attorney, mediator, and therapist Bill Eddy shows listeners how to protect children from the harm of alienation and high-conflict divorce, boosting their resilience by teaching them to think flexibly, manage their emotions, and moderate their behaviors.

Jayson Gaddis is a personal trainer for relationships and one of the world’s leading authorities on interpersonal conflict. For almost two decades, Gaddis has helped individuals, couples, and teams get to the bottom of their deepest conflicts. He helps people see the wisdom in conflict and how to get to zero - how “clean and clear” we feel with others when we have successfully worked through a disagreement. In Getting to Zero, Gaddis shows the listener how to stop running away from uncomfortable conversations and instead learn how to work through them.

Talk to Me like I'm Someone You Love is a brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing. This revised edition features two new sections - one on making love and another on deepening trust - containing more than 25 new "flash cards for real life", statements that hold the power to express what we wish we could say to the person we love but for which we can't find either the right words or the right tone in which to say them.

This classic resource shows parents how to set clear, concise guidelines to ensure positive and constructive discipline.

Many highly reactive couples—quick to argue, anger, and blame—need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of the issues in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a "high-conflict" couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, stop making things worse, and work on building a better relationship.

In most things, how much participation you put in matters. In court, however, being overly involved in the court proceedings, giving the court too much information to look over, tampering too much in what the lawyers are negotiating, and acting as an authority in front of the judge will get you into hot water. In 20 minutes, you'll learn how to separate yourself, emotionally, from the outcome of the court case. We will help you to recognize that the blueprint of your life and your identity doesn’t have to take this outcome as a failure. 

Are you struggling to find your voice amidst the chaos of divorcing a narcissist? Do the constant battles, negotiations, and manipulations leave you drained? Are you overwhelmed by the thought of co-parenting with a narcissist? You can escape the web of a narcissist, and you do not have to sacrifice your well-being for the sake of co-parenting. This starts with drafting a comprehensive co-parenting agreement, to provide a solid foundation for future interactions.

Are you struggling against a courtroom full of people who are stressing you out more than your ex did? Are you terrified of losing everything in the midst of a high conflict divorce? Are you terrified that the torture will never end? Do you fear retaliation from the narcissist, and do you fear losing your children or your sanity to him? In 20 minutes, we will discuss a lot of the feelings and emotions that you are going through, and we will tell you how to better cope with going up against the narcissist in court. 

Muchas parejas altamente reactivas—parejas que rápidamente discuten, se enfadan y culpan—necesitan mucho más que los consejos comunes para parejas. Cuando las emociones destructivas se hallan en el núcleo de los problemas de su relación, por mucha comunicación eficaz o intimidad que se construya, no arreglará el conflicto que le aqueja. Si usted forma parte de una pareja altamente conflictiva necesita conseguir controlar sus emociones en primer lugar, dejar de empeorar las cosas y solo después trabajar en construir una relación mejor.

Most people who enter into a toxic relationship don’t really know what the definition of a healthy relationship is. They know that they don’t want to get into another toxic relationship that will end in divorce. But what exactly is a healthy relationship? In 20 minutes, we will cover what a healthy relationship looks like. It looks a lot different from the toxicity that you may be used to living under, whether it was with your ex or a narcissistic, or ill-attuned parent.