Partner Development

This is a two-book collection of previously released books by Lauren Kozlowski, Trauma Bonding and Coercive Control.

On May 2, 1963, Robert Killins, a former United Church minister, slaughtered every woman in his family but one. She (and her brother) lived to tell the story of what motivated a talented man who had been widely admired, a scholar and graduate from Queen's University, to stalk and terrorize the women in his family for almost twenty years and then murder them. Through extensive oral histories, Cook and Carson painstakingly trace the causes of a femicide in which four women and two unborn babies were murdered over the course of one bloody evening.

Loving Someone with Anxiety is one of the few books written specifically for the partners of people with anxiety disorders. You'll learn the importance of setting healthy boundaries, limiting codependent behaviors, and why taking over roles that make your partner anxious - such as answering the phone, driving, or doing the grocery shopping because your partner feels too anxious to be in public - can be extremely damaging for the both of you.

This groundbreaking audiobook from the best-selling authors of Getting the Love You Want and co-authors of Giving the Love that Heals is the first to address the biggest unexplored issue facing couples today: Most of us are better at giving love than accepting it.

Your partner's attention deficit disorder (ADD) may not seem like a big deal at first, but eventually, the dynamics surrounding his or her impulsivity, forgetfulness, distractibility, and restlessness can really strain your relationship. You don't want to act like a parent, yet you may feel like you can't rely on your partner to get things done. Loving Someone with Attention Deficit Disorder is your guide to navigating a relationship with someone with ADD so you can create healthy boundaries while remaining sympathetic to your partner's symptoms.

We've been told that staying with a partner who struggles with addiction—whether it be with drugs, alcohol, or addictive behaviors—means that we're enabling their destructive behavior. That wanting to help them means we're codependent, and that the best thing for both of us is to walk away from the relationship entirely. But is that true?

This easy-to-understand book explains the standard process from start to finish - through being completely bowled over and convinced that one has found their true soul mate to the games and tests narcissists play once the partner has been successfully seduced. This is a form of narcissistic handbook, essential to keep close at hand when our head is saying one thing but our heart is saying another.

Gaslighting. Love bombing. Hoovering. Triangulating. These are all insidious weapons in the narcissist’s toolkit. Narcissism can be hard to diagnose, but it is one of the hallmarks of abusive relationships. As a therapist specializing in narcissism and domestic abuse, Vanessa M. Reiser has strategies to help victims to identify, understand, and heal from abusive relationships.

When my ex-girlfriend and I broke up, I went to see my family therapist. He asked me about my ex-girlfriend, how I felt, and if I was doing okay. I explained that I felt bad about the relationship ending and that I was mourning. I missed my ex, but I told him that I thought she was a narcissist. The first question the therapist asked: Was the sex good? I found his question interesting because it seems that there is a correlation between great sex and people with mental and/or emotional disorders.

In Vindicated: Confessions of a Video Vixen, Ten Years Later, Karrine takes listeners into the belly of the beast as she harrowingly chronicles the systematic breakdown of her mind, body, and spirit at the hand of one man and the events that propelled her back to prosperity after losing everything. She candidly shares her struggle to be what others demand, her obsession with the American dream, her desperation to appear normal, the lengths to which she went, and the price she paid for it all.

Break the romantic bond with your narcissistic ex for good! As a survivor of narcissistic abuse, Jess DeWitt writes in a witty, in-your-face tone about eliminating the narcissist from your life for good. Through anecdotes and inspiring tips, DeWitt makes you realize three things about yourself that you might not have known: you are bigger than your urge to keep in contact with the narcissist, you hold the key for getting true "Revenge" on the narcissist, and your time is much too valuable to be wasting on someone like him.

The behavior of people with Asperger's can be hard to understand and easy to misinterpret, which is why it's so important to learn more about your partner's condition. The tools presented in Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome will help you build intimacy and improve the way you and your partner communicate. This book will teach you how to understand the effect of Asperger's syndrome on your partner, practice effective communication skills, constructively work through frustrations and fights, and establish relationship ground rules to help you fulfill each others' needs.

Based on the self-help hit by Leslie Becker-Phelps, The Insecure in Love Workbook offers engaging activities, tips, and exercises to help you overcome attachment anxiety by developing compassionate self-awareness. You'll learn to recognize physical sensations, negative thoughts, distressing emotions, and unhealthy behavior patterns that underlie your insecurity; and respond to them in a more nurturing way-rather than beating yourself up. You'll also discover how insecurity can overwhelm or paralyze you, negatively affecting the relationship between you and your partner.

You fell in love. On your wedding day, you never dreamed life could be any better. Now you’re in the midst of a heated battle, your head spinning and your heart broken, wondering where that person went. Tracy A. Malone, an internationally recognized expert on emotional abuse and narcissistic personality disorder, survival coach and founder of a narcissistic abuse support website, has been there, along with countless others whose successes offer quick, enlightening glimpses into methods used to outlast the attempts at destruction, and flourish after the dust has settled.

Coercive control will see an abuser dominate their victim's life, from the food they eat, the people they see, the places they can go, and the things they can say. A controlling partner, through fear and intimidation, will seek to ensure their victim is subdued, to the point of accepting any and all abuse that's fired their way.

A shocking true story that reveals how one woman was tormented to the very depths of despair by her husband through coercive control and continual physical and sexual abuse. Broken in mind, body and spirit and completely isolated from the rest of the world, Hannah thinks she’ll never find the strength to escape, until one day an opportunity arrives....

This audiobook is a completely transparent, in-depth, and detailed account of my journey through retroactive jealousy - from its vulnerable, innocent origins, to its ultimate epic defeat. This book is also a comprehensive guide on how I personally struggled with and eventually transformed the insidious beast into personal strength and power.

This book is for anyone who has experienced emotional abuse or wants to understand and support a loved one who has. Inside you will learn about the causes and effects of emotional abuse, as well as healing strategies. You will learn all about the feelings of worthlessness, isolation, and powerlessness that victims often feel. Plus you will discover practical solutions for dealing with them and becoming a stronger person.

Rumination—obsessive thinking about an idea, situation, or choice that can interfere with normal life—is a common and destructive issue that can negatively impact romantic relationships. You may feel anxious, worried, hopeless, and frustrated, but even if you know your overthinking is a problem, it can be seriously hard to stop. In Stop Overthinking Your Relationship, certified couples therapist Alicia Muñoz draws from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness to offer an effective, four-step approach to reduce rumination and change negative thinking patterns.

Do you feel worthless, empty, confused? Do you feel emotionally exhausted? Do you look in the mirror and not recognize yourself anymore? There is nothing wrong with you. You are caught in a narcissist trap. Toxic relationships can make you sick and destroy your life. According to recent studies, neuroscientists have discovered that long-term narcissistic abuse can lead to actual physical brain damage. That’s why we need to act now! This audiobook is designed to help you change your life.