Attached
The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
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Robert Petkoff
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Written by:
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Amir Levine
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Rachel Heller
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"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)
We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.
Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
- Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
- Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
- Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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What the critics say
"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)
"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read, and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or—as in my case—even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse." (Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American)
"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures—finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on 25 years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader." (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)
Editorial Review
Typically, how we navigate our most important relationships is simply a reaction to what we have learned by observing those around us. Imagine how much better our relationships would be if we learned how to apply a more scientific approach. In Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller deliver an insightful look into what makes romantic relationships tick.
Just as individual love languages affect how smoothly (or not) a love connection can run, the authors’ attachment theory explores an individual’s attachment style and how it influences who you attract and how. Avoidant people, anxious people, secure people, and everyone in between have their way of navigating connections. Understanding why we, and the people we love, identify as such is the key to creating enriching bonds.
Chock-full of questionnaires and quizzes, Attached serves as a roadmap to attaining the romantic and loving relationships every individual needs to thrive. More than a self-help book, it draws on ground-breaking scientific research to shed light on the distinct ways human attachment affects everyone and how building long-lasting, intimate relationships is critical to living a fulfilled life.
Exploring the latest advances in relationship science, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment is a fascinating and valuable listen for anyone seeking to understand better and improve how they interact with their soulmate and all those they love.
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- Ablan Joyce
- 2021-02-04
Eye-opening
I loved it. I learn a lot from it and I will be practicing most of the things.
Great book.
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- thestoreonqueen2.0
- 2021-09-12
A MUST READ
this book was so well written. Scientific info in layman’s terms. There are so much “ ah ha “ moments and nuggets of implementable information.
A fabulous listen and a must if you’re struggling in a relationship to speak the same language and don’t know why .
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- Manuela
- 2020-05-05
Great book!
One of my coworkers recommended I read this and I’m so glad I did. I’m very stubborn and I’ve always found it hard for something to change my perspective and this book definitely did it for me! Makes you realize what aspects of relationships you carry and what aspects you don’t and probably should. Great book and I was really happy to hear an old professor I had in university was one of the researchers!
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- Julie Adams
- 2021-01-23
Wow
loved it, will listen to it again, this has changed the way i view and will approach relationships in the future.
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- Jason
- 2021-01-06
Must read!!!
Very helpful book. Helped me find a lot of answers about myself and why I failed to love properly, but also how I never let anyone close enough to love me properly.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2021-10-12
Life changing!!!!
I don’t use the phrase “life changing” lightly, and though I apologize for the buzz words, it’s the only way to truly capture what this book did for me. I was able to finally walk away from a toxic relationship with the understandings I gained in this book. I recommend it to everyone and bring it up in conversations daily. Pleaseee do yourself a favour and listen or read this, because truly it explains so many dynamics. Incredible is putting it lightly!
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- NBR
- 2020-05-26
beneficial
I've had issues with infidelity and turned to this book to help me strengthen my relationship and what I'm looking for. i found this a great help and some direct connections to my life. My gf and i sat and did that exercises together along with listening to some relevant sections that we both listened to.
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- Priyanka Aryal HP
- 2021-12-15
Interesting
Cool book! It had great points. There were times where it seemed like there was a one-sided preference towards anxious vs avoidant being the bad guy, but overall awesome with useful strategies to use.
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- Maia
- 2022-02-06
an eye opener
it help me understand what I am and what I can do to change gradually.
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- asha
- 2022-01-28
interesting but a lot of content for audio
it was a very interesting read the examples and stories were really interesting however it was a lot of content to follow for an audio book.
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