I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t)
Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power
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Narrated by:
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Lauren Fortgang
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Written by:
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Brené Brown
About this listen
The quest for perfection is exhausting and unrelenting. We spend too much precious time and energy managing perception and creating carefully edited versions of ourselves to show to the world. As hard as we try, we can't seem to turn off the tapes that fill our heads with messages like, Never good enough! and What will people think?
Why? What fuels this unattainable need to look like we always have it all together? At first glance, we might think its because we admire perfection, but that's not the case. We are actually the most attracted to people we consider to be authentic and down-to-earth. We love people who are real; we're drawn to those who both embrace their imperfections and radiate self-acceptance.
There is a constant barrage of social expectations that teach us that being imperfect is synonymous with being inadequate. Everywhere we turn, there are messages that tell us who, what, and how were supposed to be. So, we learn to hide our struggles and protect ourselves from shame, judgment, criticism, and blame by seeking safety in pretending and perfection.
Based on seven years of ground-breaking research and hundreds of interviews, I Thought It Was Just Me shines a long-overdue light on an important truth: Our imperfections are what connect us to each other and to our humanity. Our vulnerabilities are not weaknesses; they are powerful reminders to keep our hearts and minds open to the reality that we're all in this together.
As Dr. Brown writes, "We need our lives back. It's time to reclaim the gifts of imperfection - the courage to be real, the compassion we need to love ourselves and others, and the connection that gives true purpose and meaning to life. These are the gifts that bring love, laughter, gratitude, empathy and joy into our lives."
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- Shannon
- 2018-12-07
excellent for personal growth
I prefer "Gifts of imperfection" but this is still excellent. would be good if you're a parent.
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- From here
- 2022-01-18
Humbling
An integral map to build humanity and kindness towards self and other so we can achieve a more connected world.
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- Krysee A.
- 2018-11-06
Will listen again.
As a psych student, I found these insights to be very beneficial to my learning and practice!
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- Alex Cook
- 2020-12-03
Decent read
Not as much actionable content as I would have liked but still a good read.
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- David Swanson
- 2020-06-10
Everyone should read (listen to) this.
Brene Brown has done the hard part of figuring out why we feel the way we do, all we need to do now is listen honestly and apply it bravely to our lives. The only thing that could have improved this book would be of it were narrated by Brene herself (nothing wrong with the narrator, but Brene's voice is already well known and comforting).
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- Sjm
- 2022-09-26
Prefer authors voice
I always prefer listening to the authors voice. I find it adds more to it, and keeps my attention when it’s Brene.
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- Tifannie
- 2019-03-27
Everyone should either read or listen to this!
I absolutely loved this audio book and plan on listening to it again. I highly recommend and will be buying a copy for my mom and best friend.
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- Just another Amazon shopper :)
- 2023-04-03
Published in 2010- loved it, the narration was difficult
This is a book of Brené Brown’s early work so is less in depth as some but I still found it very valuable.
I love that BB shares her science based research in Laymans terms, sharing personal stories and human examples.
I found it to be an excellent resource, and a tool for thought-especially when combined with BBs more recent work.
I did find the narration difficult to get through; the narrator seemed to just be reading the pages which completely derails the depth of emotion BB writes with. Im thankful she narrates her own work now.
Regardless, the content made it very worth my time and I would recommend it.
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- Chelsea Makie
- 2023-02-08
Amazing
The only thing I wish was different, was having Brené Brown actually narrate, because I have grown to love her through her audiobooks, and I find something very comforting in her voice. Otherwise, the content is amazing.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2023-02-10
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I wish Brené Brown would read her own audiobooks. The material is so much more compelling with her personality, character and inflections. Still 10/10 for the material
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