The Gap and the Gain
The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success
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Dan Sullivan
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
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Dan Sullivan
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Dr. Benjamin Hardy
About this listen
As he did in Who Not How, Dr. Benjamin Hardy shares one of Dan Sullivan's simple yet profound teachings that until now has been known only to his Strategic Coach clients: unsuccessful people focus on "The Gap", but successful people focus on "The Gain".
"[T]his one simple concept is a masterclass on positive psychology, healthy relationships, mental well-being, and high-performance. Everything that psychologists know about how to create a high-functioning and successful person can be achieved using The GAP and the GAIN." (Dr. Benjamin Hardy)
Most people, especially highly ambitious people, are unhappy because of how they measure their progress. We all have an "ideal", a moving target that is always out of reach. When we measure ourselves against that ideal, we're in "the gap". However, when we measure ourselves against our previous selves, we're in "the gain".
That is where the gap and the gain concept comes in. It was developed by legendary entrepreneur coach Dan Sullivan and is based on his work with tens of thousands of successful entrepreneurs. When Dan's coaching clients periodically take stock of all that they've accomplished - both personally and professionally - they are often shocked at how much they have actually achieved. They weren't able to appreciate their progress because no matter how much they were getting done, they were usually measuring themselves against their ideals or goals.
In this book you will learn that measuring your current self vs. your former self has enormous psychological benefits. And that's really the key to this deceptively simple yet multilayered concept that will have you feeling good, feeling grateful, and feeling like you are making progress even when times are tough, which will in turn will bolster motivation, confidence, and future success.
If you're finding that happiness eludes you no matter how much you've achieved, then learning this easy mindset shift will set you on a life-changing path to greater fulfillment and success.
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- Anonymous User
- 2024-09-10
STOP: Changed My Life
Restarted as soon as I finished. Changed my life. Integrates quickly into so many areas of my life. Clear and well written. Really enjoyed the conversations at the end of each chapter. DO NOT PASS THIS BOOK UP!!!
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- Augusta Lawn Care of Medicine Hat
- 2024-07-18
Life Changing Book
In just one month, this book has had an immense impact on my life. I have about 90% less anxiety, and measuring my success backyards at the end of each day has set me up with a great mindset and attitude that's having ripple affects on my team at work and my family at home. Thank you Ben and Dan for this Masterpiece! Can't wait to read "Who Not How" next.
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- Glenn V
- 2024-07-18
Fit into my lifestyle
This book everyone needs to read. It gives a simple but advanced technique to look at your world and alter it in a way for tomorrow no one else explains as clear.
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- Michael
- 2023-01-27
Recommended
I’m presently listening to Turtles All the Way Down, and I’d like to tell the main character to listen to this book. Very empowering, very honest, and inspirational. Personal takeaway: journaling wins won and wins planned on a nightly basis. Great insights from the authors as well in conversation between chapters. This book is not only for entrepreneurs; I’m a teacher and writer and this book works great for me.
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- TullyTune
- 2023-06-03
excellent
fantastic book and discussion on the benefits of thinking positively and in the Gap.
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- Hugh K.
- 2022-01-16
Brilliant book
I love this book. Short, well written and to the point. I also respect both authors so much so sitting at their feet and learning is a privilege.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2021-10-25
I'm a High Achiever wanna be
This book is amazing! I am not a high achiever. I think it is partly because I have spent three decades of my life looking at the ideal and my mind has been stuck in the gap. I didn't know that until now. I have been following Dr Hardy's work for over a year and have been looking forward to the release of this book. I listened to this audio book because of the interviews but then I had to go buy the kindle version too so I can go through the questions and journal my answers. I look forward to living the rest of my life measuring myself by the Gain. Thank you Dr Hardy and Mr. Sullivan for this powerful book.
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- Holli
- 2023-01-21
Very informative
Easy to understand. Lots to contemplate and place into action.
I really like the interviews with Dan after each chapter.
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- Coach Rory
- 2024-06-21
Measure Yourself Forward Not Backward
This book is brilliant and so relevant to your growth and happiness. How do you measure yourself? Is it by an ideal that you set where you think you should be? And do you also compare yourself to others or measure them by your ideals? We live in a world where devaluing your and other's success is too easy, including those we love most. It takes deliberate practice to focus on the gains. You have the power to convert any experience into a gain. Why not choose meanings that empower you? This book will show you how. I loved it, as did my wife, a teacher shaping young minds.
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- Andi Gee
- 2022-01-19
a must for every entrepreneur.
Definitely a must for every entrepreneur. Though it really made me stop to think of how I can make a difference with the way I set the bar for my husband and how I can really give my kids a huge lesson in how they live their lives to get the most our of them.
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