Erotic photography, the feminine mystique, and musings on morality—Yeh shares how the eye is his sexual organ.

00:00 Signaling shame and using context clues to assume peoples’ lines

03:20 Being ostracized by clowns for his provocative work

06:34 Approaching life with humor and why he likes being a “nice sociopath”

09:12 Desires informed by Greek classics and the sexiness of androgynous femininity

13:07 Putting on personae and his day-to-day asexuality

16:45 Preferring exercise to ejaculation and post-photography masturbation

19:26 How weightlifting leads him to easier arousal

21:18 Enjoying sensations of lips and softness on his balls

25:43 Discovering his queerness with the local puppy play coalition + his take on the Erotic and Eroticism

29:55 Turned on by extremes as a photographer and a hands-on dildo experience

33:24 An anonymous open-door fisting session and hiding in a makeshift gloryhole

36:19 The thrill of documenting unpredictable situations and his “cognitive basis for morality”

40:45 His most shocking stories and writing vignettes of each encounter

45:14 Dreams of sissy porn, capturing the feminine mystique on film, and leaving space for the unknown

49:43 Ideological lines, normalizing taboo desires, and why he wants to know what drives you

📈 STATS | 33 heterosexual queer Chinese man, he/him pronouns, monogamous, freelance photographer, classics scholar, lifer, from Las Vegas, into: sex, sexuality, voyeurism, documenting sexual experiences, philosophy, nihilism

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Philosophical musings on art and voyeurism through the lens—Yeh shares how his “lack of emotion” inspired a life of trying out different personae and his transition from street photography on the Las Vegas Strip to stepping into the world of survival sex workers.

00:00 Documenting strangers’ sexualities and his personal academic reading habits

06:54 Noodling on narcissism and approaching every interaction as significant

09:37 Masking, social alienation, and exploring taboo

14:25 Why his masculine role models are the “cowboys of porn” and the different sides of his Self

18:30 Directing a dominatrix during a shoot and how his shame changes based on his active persona

21:23 Reflections on the social construction of taboo and becoming desensitized to what was once “forbidden”

26:21 Photography origins: surveillance-style photography, gonzo journalism, and erotica

30:38 Voyeuristic inspiration from David Lynch’s Blue Velvet and learning as self love

35:25 Feeling disconnected and experiencing social intimacy through information exchanges

38:31 His analytical approach to human connection

44:28 Pinning down what excitement actually is and how learning is always in support of his actions

47:12 The secret to being a good voyeur and physiologically reactionary sexual attraction

51:21 Ultimate voyeurism dreams + hypocritical health, safety, and consent practices

54:35 Following assumptions and social scripts to achieve his desires

56:15 Big reactions to his art and being shunned for documenting subjects on the edge of society

📈 STATS | 33 heterosexual queer Chinese man, he/him pronouns, monogamous, freelance photographer, classics scholar, lifer, from Las Vegas, into: sex, sexuality, voyeurism, documenting sexual experiences, philosophy, nihilism

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Pegging explorations, unexpected orgies, and sex clubs with friends—Jack shares updates about her own life plus their research on the intersection of kink and autism.

00:00 How a formal autism diagnosis helped them realize what they do and don’t understand about neurotypical behaviors

07:04 Enjoying tit-clit-tit flogging + when IS sensory play sexual or nonsexual?

12:38 Flogging tips for beginners

14:18 How a PhD assignment led to an unexpected oral sex orgy

18:34 Open to orgies with friends and why you should NEVER bite a clit without consent

21:50 A field trip to a San Francisco sex club

23:03 Having a threesome with a pregnant woman and her husband who are beautifully in love

28:50 Educational squirting experience with a big double-ended dildo

31:34 Discovering a more recent preference for penetration and staying connected post-threesome

35:45 First time pegging a dude and future harness explorations

40:32 Sleeping with her dentist and a mouth full of pubes

44:53 A sixth sense for what a dick will look like before seeing it

47:30 Navigating a mismatch of sexual rhythms and why they always do a debrief after sex

54:01 Underwater hot tub blowjobs and a partner losing his shorts

56:51 Excited for double penetration, dating more women, and for their sex life to keep getting better and better

1:00:06 How YOU can help research the huge overlap of autism and kink

1:02:52 Realizing that her PhD in human sexuality is only the beginning

Jack’s episode from October 2019 | The Ooey Gooey Game

📈 STATS | 31 genderfluid autistic human, she/they pronouns, single, sex educator, sex researcher, into: sensations, impact play, human sexuality, squirting, sex parties, underwater oral

🔗 JACK LINKS | survey screener / jmurphy@mymail.ciis.edu

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Lesbianism, kink dynamics, and her transgender journey—Elizabeth shares stories of self-discovery and how it led to a marriage that embraces submission, pleasure, and mutual growth.

00:00 Experiencing constant crushes and being open to relationships unfolding naturally

04:38 How physical safety allows her to take big emotional risks during sex

06:08 Self-censorship and the value of privacy

13:56 Discovering the rhythms of a stable relationship and exploring submissive fantasies

17:54 The sexual effects of transitioning from testosterone to estrogen

20:16 Early fact-based book learnings and how her masturbation practices have changed

25:08 Experiencing urgent gender feelings and when she stopped following the heteronormative script of p-in-v sex

28:21 Lesbian “Bed death” and how her first time with another queer partner helped her break sexual patterns

32:59 How kink allows her asexual wife to enthusiastically engage in sex

36:25 Why she needed to understand her lesbianism before she transitioned

39:38 How Buffy the Vampire Slayer inspired her gender journey

42:11 Relaxing into the safety of submission: edging, hypnosis, and anal

45:32 Her favorite ways to dirty talk and receive impact play

49:31 Building stability: artistically, socially, and professionally

52:07 Playing with strap-ons and supporting her wife in receiving

54:11 The societal importance of loving and helping men

57:21 Spreading love with genuine curiosity and small acts of kindness that help people feel chosen

📈 STATS | 39 lesbian white trans woman, she/her pronouns, submissive, monogamous, married to partner of four years, into: D/s, impact play, hypnosis, role play, TTRPGs, game design, writing, romance novels

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Radical self-care, a nurturing marriage, and a sex-inclusive love of romance novels—Elizabeth shares how she practices receiving love.

00:00 What she loves about romance novels and the importance of feeling chosen

05:54 Reflections on asexual relationships and knowing what kind of sexual connection she needs

08:36 How her wife’s grand romantic gestures help her feel seen and appreciated

12:55 Discovering the perks of a mutually “selfish” marriage

15:02 Figuring out how to romance her wife with enthusiastic support

19:35 Building trust through consistent, conscientious care and deep gratitude

22:16 Polyamory almost-explorations and why she doesn’t recommend serial monogamy

24:46 How transitioning led to more communicative and emotionally present relationships

27:49 Finding space for solo time to enjoy romance novels, old sci-fi, and TTRPGs

📈 STATS | 39 lesbian white trans woman, she/her pronouns, submissive, monogamous, married to partner of four years, into: D/s, impact play, hypnosis, role play, TTRPGs, game design, writing, romance novels

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Nude car shows, sex toys, and swinging—BJ returns to share his recent explorations and his discovery of a new kink.

00:00 The importance of always having a towel at a nudist car show

05:37 Heightened sensuality in nudity and the different types of nudism

12:19 Expanding his sexual tool shed with FirmTech’s data-collecting TechRing and Performance Ring

17:44 Reclaiming his sexuality post-injury through prostate play and his new favorite cock ring

23:53 Reflections on perfectionism and pursuing excellent ongoing connections

28:45 Exploring a clothing compersion kink and appreciating mutual nurturance

34:01 Post-divorce swinging experiences and getting back into the swinger lifestyle

38:27 Cultivating open-mindedness to live a better, happier life

41:58 Excited for meditative knitting and serving the kink community through leather work

BJ’s episode from October 2024 | Sexagenarian Sexologist

📈 STATS | 60s non-monogamous cis male divorcé, retired protestant pastor, American Midwest, into: nudism, new sex toys, swinging lifestyle

🔗 BJ LINKS | vvrc / sexuality resources

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Easily adaptable, a passion for travel, and the realities of working in adult PR in an increasingly censored society—Brian shares good vibes and loves of work and play.

00:00 How staying active and going with the flow fuels his happy workaholism

04:40 Romanticizing his work + the pros and cons of easily accessible porn

10:40 The joys of dry humping and being grateful for discovering masturbation “late”

14:20 Offending people in the name of supporting his clients and de-stigmatizing sex

17:16 Daily censorship battles and the power of Big Tech

21:55 Why he always has his next vacation planned and enjoying every little win

24:32 PR work origin story and constantly testing his (really good) people skills

28:27 Reflections on generational communication styles when it comes to dating apps, texting and phone calls

33:29 Surprise joys of solo travel

36:19 Finding the balance of giving and receiving in relationships + the sexiness of the unknown

43:17 Sex ed moments burned into his memory and the two movies that taught him about sex

46:58 Early days of not understanding homosexuality as a straight choir boy

51:38 Acrobatic sex, a Narcos-style party, and Playboy Mansion experiences

56:34 The best New Year’s of his life and a long distance office surprise

1:00:26 AVN Expo experiences and enjoying the unknown

1:04:43 Where he finds clarity and the grounding necessity of hugs

📈 STATS | 49 straight dude, president of BSG PR, into: work, music, travel

🔗 BRIAN LINKS | @bsgpr / X

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Playful acts of service, embracing threesomes, and pursuing what she wants—Olivia shares how she discovered her desires and the ways she wants to give and receive.

00:00 Learning about sex from talking with women rather than getting a formal education

04:10 Unlearning what porn taught her and navigating unhelpful educational tools

08:26 Confidence and explicit direction about how to be touched

09:52 How her brother’s friends helped her be open with herself and others about sex

15:15 The sexual blueprint of what she wants to pursue in connections and knowing what she doesn’t want

18:41 Desire for playful sex that allows for the full emotional experience (including giggling while cumming)

25:13 Building trust, needing mental stimulation and a gradual pace when it comes to sex and relationships

31:17 Enforcing boundaries and why WE LOVE CONDOMS!!!

37:35 Looking forward to a partner who is as passionate about her as she is about herself

42:50 Wanting a long-term, ravishing connection with exciting experiments and open communication

45:48 Thoughts on sex with other women, FFM, FMF, MFM, and MMF threesomes, and double penetration

52:19 Approaching sex as an act of service from a selfless place

58:10 Spreading love by being kind and receiving people as they are in any given moment

1:00:49 Reconnecting to her artistry, sharing her natural gifts by educating others, and reflecting the kindness she’s received out into the world

📈 STATS | 28 straight (so far) sapiosexual demisexual Black/African American cis woman, she/her pronouns, single, celibate, thinking about dating, monogamous, threesome-curious bad bitch good girl with a praise kink into: compliments, intimate sex, foreplay, dirty talk

🔗 OLIVIA LINKS | @livvcarter / @livvonfilm / @notoliviabenson

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