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Anxiously Attached

Becoming More Secure in Life and Love

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Written by: Jessica Baum LMHC
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A road map for building strong and secure relationships for those who struggle with anxiety in their romantic connections.

An estimated 47 million Americans identify as having an anxious attachment style, which can make being in relationships turbulent and emotionally taxing for them. According to groundbreaking research in the field of attachment, anxious types are more prone to insecurity, jealousy, codependency, and other behaviors that get in the way of finding and sustaining love. In Anxiously Attached, seasoned psychotherapist and couples counselor Jessica Baum guides listeners through understanding their attachment style at its core and building the inner strength and self-love that will lead them to more secure and satisfying relationships.

Developed over ten years in private practice, Baum’s signature Self-full® Method has helped her clients get off the toxic roller coaster of anxious attachment and discover the secure and mutually supportive relationships they deserve. In this book readers will learn how to:

  • Create boundaries to safeguard their sense of self-sovereignty in relationships
  • Communicate to their partners what they need to feel safe and secure in the relationship
  • Develop a secure sense of self-worth and emotional stability
  • Learn the true meaning of a healthy/interdependent relationship and how to establish one with their partner or future partner.
  • Discover a compassionate path towards healing through experiences like mediation practices where they can start to develop more insight into their internal landscape.
  • Attain a deep understanding of the anxious-avoidant dance that is extremely common in intimacy struggles.

Anxiously Attached offers a practical and holistic approach for overcoming anxious attachment issues to discover happier, more fulfilling relationships.

©2022 Jessica Baum (P)2022 Penguin Audio
Communication & Social Skills Love & Romance Psychology Romance Secure Communication
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This book will help you!

This is the book you need to help you with Anxious Attachment. If you struggle with this you will find an ally in the author, because she also experienced Anxious Attachment. The author, Jessica Baum, narrates the book and you can trust her...you can lean on her to take you through the other side of the awful feelings you get when you're triggered and worried that you will be abandoned by your partner. This book is what you need to just be at peace. Do the work within the book and you will find relief, finally...all with Jessica by your side.

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Clarity and a different message

Valued that there were more steps to integration than other attachment books—felt like there was a way through this pattern that hasn’t been voiced in this way before

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Impactful

I don't normally write reviews, but after reading a few of these books, this one is truly pulling my heart's strings. It's so densely informative about APs and our mechanics both from a personal and scientific level. The examples are also great, not cheesy or tedious like in some of the other books I've read, but genuinely relatable. The audiobook reader is also one of the better voices I've heard, and her tone is very compassionate to the contents. I will likely be listening to this a few times along my journey

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Life changing

First Jessica’s narration. I felt she was in the room with me. Gentle and caring.
Second. I believe in lifelong growth and learning. This book helped me understand more about why I behave the way I do sometimes. Gave me tools to change those behaviours and embrace my inner self.
Third. So many people have the challenges that Jessica outlined in the book. I think for anyone having relationship issues, listening to this book with your partner could open up great conversations and help to bring more compassion and deeper understanding.
Lastly, I have already recommended the book to several friends. I hope it helps them as much as it helped me.
Thank you, Jessica for bravely sharing your experiences and giving anyone with anxious attachment, the kindness and community to know we’re not alone.

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Really good but still falls a bit short

First rate explanation of attachment theory and real life examples of how to do inner exploration and growth by recognizing our inner “little me” and taking responsibility for creating a safe and comforting environment for ourselves in which to (possibly) heal and grow.

What is lacking, I’m sorry to say, is the part about actual healing. The book jumps from a sort of hopeful and tender narrative about finding and nurturing your inner “little me” to a bunch of examples of people going to a few sessions with a therapist and then just ending their relationships. Much of the advice seems to be to cut your losses (know when to quit) and walk away. While this is still more insightful than Kenny Rogers’ timeless gambler’s classic song, it’s basically the same thing “know when to hold ‘em, know when to fold ‘em etc.”.

I know that there are plenty of options out there for people to grow in relationship with another, imperfect person (couples counselling, EFT, Imago, etc.). Sadly, the author does not seem to be aware of these approaches, nor to value the possible benefits they offer to individuals who are ready to heal and grow.

My final critique is that this seems to be mostly from a female perspective and not necessarily an “enlightened” one. Most of the examples are of women stuck with apparently hopeless men. It’s almost a trope as presented.

I’d love to see a revised version with more options for healing as well as a more gender balanced perspective.

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Wonderful

I rarely leave reviews. I feel compelled to for this book in case anyone else feels they are an anxiously attachment type. This book is incredibly helpful, compassionate, hopeful, and empowering. Plan on making a lot of notes.
The soothing voice and author’s words makes me want to listen to this again and again.
Special thanks to the author for your work and taking the time to share with us. My little me is giving you a big hug

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Was fantastic

Really appreciated this book. Highly recommend it. Appreciated how it was informative and personalized. Liked the narration cadence as well.

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Best book I've come across in years!

I'm a social worker, but like the author, had relationship challenges due to an insecure attachment style with my parents. I promise you, this book will make sudden sense of your world--how we repeat the patterns we were raised in. No matter how hard we try not to repeat them, the odds are so high. This book helps us stop that, once and for all. Definitely a great book to gift young adults, as well. Save them heartache and teach them self-love and confidence!!!

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love the book. I relate to so much of the content!

love the content but the narration is absolutely horrible. monotone and boring and can cause you to lose focus..

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Just what I needed!!!

I am about half way through this book and I have to say listening to Jessica is like chatting with a friend. Her manner is super approachable. She speaks but not over your head like a lot of experts. Can’t wait to get through the work and begin my healing journey!!!

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