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Polysecure
- Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
- Narrated by: Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert, Nora Samaran
- Length: 7 hrs and 52 mins
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Publisher's Summary
Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?
Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships.
Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides nonmonogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.
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- Raven
- 2020-11-15
amazing, 7 STARS
I've read attachment books and most of them are not only extremely mononormative but also lack awareness around Traumas . Jessica acknowledges the impact of the different types of trauma on your attachment style very well. tge only think I found that was missing was considering the impact of mental disability or mental health on attachment style which I think also plays a part.
I absolutely love the emphasis she puts on becoming secure in your relationship with yourself. which is rarely talked about in attachment theory. I also ike that she added Questions to Consider as well as practical applications of each topic.
over all I love this book and will definitely be reading it again.
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- Lauren Heenan
- 2022-09-22
WOW
What a wonderful listen for anyone experimenting with Poly, AND folks who plan to stay monogamous. Fantastic principles that can and should be used regardless of relationship. The narration was superb. Will be recommending to anyone who will listen, haha
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- Amazon Customer
- 2022-02-07
Fantastically helpful
I wish I'd read this a decade ago and I'll read it over again at least once. I recommend it to absolutely anyone who wants to understand themselves and their relationships better, whether or not they're poly.
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- Kailee Hirsche
- 2021-11-28
Great book, disappointing PDF
I loved listening to this book. However, only having the reflection questions in audio form makes completing the exercises in this book (and gaining the full benefit of this resource) very difficult. I tried making a bookmark each time reflection questions came up, but that proved to be impractical. I decided, surely, a printed form of the questions should be available with my audiobook purchase. Sadly, the PDF only has diagrams and footnotes that did not add value to my experience of the book.
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- Anonymous User
- 2021-10-21
Genuinely one of the best books I could recommend,
even if you're not polyamorous or open in any way. I'd learned about attachment theory, but turns out I only scratched the surface of what I could learn and how much I could improve. I'm so so grateful for this book, and everyone who recommended it for years before I finally read it.
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- Erin
- 2023-10-04
Better Books
I stopped listening when it was apparent that while the author had some knowledge about the topic they also had a lot of misinformation about polyamory included. After 10 years of poly relationships I have read much more knowledgeable authors on the subject.
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- jk
- 2023-05-10
Helpful to ALL relationships…
…including those with ourselves. A+ for the section on attachment theories and especially to chapter 9 about self. Between these, wonderful insights that can benefit every kind of relationship.
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- Amazon Customer
- 2023-04-23
loved this book
A very well informed book!
I enjoyed all the information provided.
I look forward to the next
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- Janel Hirdes
- 2023-02-01
One of the best books for poly folks
Do yourself a favour and take in this book.
It’s given me so much to reflect on, to work through and to address within myself and my relationships.
I heard about this book through an ENM podcast, Normalizing Non Monogamy, and I’m so happy I did!
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- Jason martin
- 2022-12-21
Pleasantly surprised
Thank you :)
This was incredibly helpful.
Chapters on trauma and attachment will help me in more ways then I could have realized.
Thank you again✌️
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