Polywise
A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships
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Narrated by:
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Jessica Fern
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David Cooley
About this listen
As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring consensual nonmonogamy in the hope of experiencing more love, connection, sex, freedom and support. While for many, the move expands personal horizons, for others, the transition can be challenging, leaving them blindsided and overwhelmed. Beyond the initial transition to nonmonogamy, many struggle with the root issues beneath the symptoms of broken agreements, communication challenges, increased fighting and persistent jealousy. Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern and restorative justice facilitator David Cooley share the insights they have gained through thousands of hours working with clients in consensually nonmonogamous relationships. Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that nonmonogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy. Polywise provides both the conceptual framework to better understand the shift from monogamy to nonmonogamy and the tools to navigate the next steps.
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What the critics say
"A must-read for anyone navigating open relationships."—Esther Perel, psychotherapist and author of Mating in Captivity.
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- SSlick
- 2024-04-27
Practical and well presented
I liked hearing both Jessica and David's reflections and about their experiences with consensual non-monogamy. I would have liked to hear more about David's experiences with his chronic illness and CNM.
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- Mr. T
- 2024-12-06
A great follow up
Genuinely an amazing follow up to her original release Polysecure!!! moving from the Why's, to the Hows!
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- Chris
- 2023-10-14
Relationship Growing
Some really good advice / shared experiences to help grow yourself and how you interact with relationships.
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-09-22
excellent!
Loved polysecure and polywise provided even more helpful tools and ideas to help with my enm journey. thank you!!
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