In this lively and transformative episode of Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, I sit down with the one and only Dr. Robb Kelly, an expert in neuroscience, trauma recovery, addiction, and mental health. Dr. Robb brings his larger-than-life personality and incredible life story to the mic, sharing his journey from the depths of addiction, trauma, and homelessness to becoming a celebrated healer with a 98% success rate. With humor, vulnerability, and actionable advice, this episode is packed with wisdom for men over 40 navigating life after divorce.

Dr. Robb’s story is one of redemption, resilience, and the power of letting go of what others think. From his spiritual awakening on the rainy streets of Manchester to reconnecting with his daughter decades later, his experiences offer hope for listeners who feel like they’ve hit rock bottom. This conversation is raw, real, and filled with tools for healing.

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Here are 10 key topics covered in this episode:

1. Trauma as the Root Cause: Why unresolved childhood trauma impacts divorce recovery.

2. Letting Go of Resentment: How to release anger and move forward.

3. The Power of Self-Care: Why taking care of yourself first is crucial.

4. Neuroscience in Healing: Techniques like brain spotting to rewire the mind.

5. The Importance of Identity: Rediscovering who you are after divorce.

6. Co-Parenting Done Right: Putting the kids first and working with your ex.

7. The Role of Spirituality: How Dr. Robb’s awakening changed his life.

8. Self-Compassion: How to speak kindly to yourself and build confidence.

9. Surrounding Yourself with Positivity: The influence of your social circle.

10. Practical Tools for Recovery: Oxygen breathwork and mirror exercises to reprogram your mind.

    
    

Dr. Robb Kelly’s insights will leave you inspired and ready to tackle your recovery journey. Listen now and discover how to turn your crossroads into a new beginning!

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Welcome to today’s episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, where we focus on helping men rebuild their lives after divorce. In this episode, we’re joined by Michael Mendribil, a naturopathic doctor, functional medicine practitioner, and transformative coach. Michael’s journey is one of resilience, self-discovery, and healing, and he brings a wealth of knowledge and personal experience to the table. From navigating divorce himself to overcoming life’s toughest challenges, Michael has dedicated his career to helping others heal and thrive.

Michael shares his deeply personal story, including his experiences with divorce, financial struggles, and the emotional toll of caregiving for a spouse with Alzheimer’s. Through these challenges, he discovered the importance of prioritizing self-care, building resilience, and reframing life’s difficulties as opportunities for growth. His insights are particularly valuable for men over 40 who may feel stuck, emotionally depleted, or unsure of how to move forward after divorce.

In this episode, Michael emphasizes the importance of addressing both the emotional and physical aspects of recovery. He discusses how chronic stress, poor sleep, and unhealthy habits can take a toll on men’s health during and after divorce. Michael offers practical advice on how to rebuild physical health through better nutrition, exercise, and stress management techniques. He also highlights the role of naturopathic and functional medicine in helping men regain their energy, focus, and overall well-being.

Top 10 Takeaways from the Podcast:

1. Prioritize self-care – You can’t take care of others if you don’t take care of yourself first.

2. Acknowledge your emotions – Recognize that it’s okay to not be fine and seek support when needed.

3. Reframe divorce as an opportunity – Use this time to rediscover yourself and create a new vision for your life.

4. Focus on physical health – Improve your sleep, nutrition, and exercise habits to rebuild your energy and resilience.

5. Break the stigma around seeking help – Therapy, coaching, and support groups are valuable tools for healing.

6. Build resilience through routine – Establish daily habits like journaling, mindfulness, and self-reflection.

7. Connect with others – Share your struggles with trusted friends or groups to build a supportive community.

8. Address chronic stress – Manage stress through mindfulness, time in nature, and other relaxation techniques.

9. Rediscover your passions – Reconnect with hobbies or interests you may have set aside during your marriage.

Healing is a process – Be patient with yourself and embrace the journey of growth and self-discovery.

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In this episode of the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David dives into the challenges of divorce recovery for men over 40 with special guest Michelle Davies, an internationally acclaimed healer and author of Mental Clarity: Daily Habits to Clear Brain Fog and Improve Focus. Michelle shares her expertise in natural osteopathy and energy-based techniques, offering practical advice to help men regain mental clarity, reduce stress, and rebuild their lives after divorce. From understanding the gut-brain connection to adopting daily habits like proper hydration, sleep, and mindfulness, Michelle provides actionable strategies to combat brain fog and improve overall well-being. The conversation also explores the emotional toll of divorce, the importance of forgiveness, and the role of co-parenting in fostering healthier relationships. Tune in for an insightful discussion packed with tools to help men navigate the complexities of divorce recovery and emerge stronger.

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In this insightful episode of the "Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast," David welcomes Dr. Larry Waldman, a seasoned clinical forensic psychologist with over 45 years of experience, to discuss divorce recovery for men over 40. Dr. Waldman draws from his extensive background in family law, mental health, and even yoga to provide practical advice for navigating the emotional, psychological, and logistical challenges of divorce. He shares wisdom from his books, including "Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex" and "Silver Sex: Insights into Senior Sexuality," emphasizing the importance of self-reflection, healing, and prioritizing what truly matters post-divorce.

Dr. Waldman discusses the dangers of rushing into new relationships, the impact of acrimonious divorces on children, and the importance of recognizing one’s role in the breakdown of a marriage. He also explores how men can rebuild self-esteem through personal growth, fitness, and mindfulness practices like yoga. Whether dealing with loneliness, co-parenting challenges, or "gray divorce" later in life, Dr. Waldman offers actionable solutions to help men heal and thrive. His empathetic, no-nonsense approach reminds listeners that recovery takes time, effort, and sometimes seeking professional help to avoid repeating past mistakes.

Top Ten Takeaways for Men Over 40:

1. Healing Takes Time: Avoid rushing into new relationships. Allow at least a year to reflect and heal before pursuing another partnership.

2. Self-Reflection is Key: Understand your role in the divorce and work on areas of personal growth to avoid repeating mistakes.

3. Prioritize Mental and Physical Health: Engage in activities like yoga, meditation, or fitness to manage stress and regain balance.

4. Seek Professional Help: Therapy can provide valuable tools for recovery, self-awareness, and navigating life post-divorce.

5. Avoid Using Children as Pawns: Co-parent amicably to ensure your children’s well-being and avoid damaging their trust and development.

6. Loneliness is Normal: Combat isolation by joining support groups, connecting with friends, or pursuing hobbies that bring joy.

7. Take Time to Vet New Partners: Look beyond physical attraction and consider shared values, goals, and compatibility before committing.

8. Rebuild Self-Esteem Gradually: Focus on personal accomplishments, positive relationships, and self-care to regain confidence.

9. Gray Divorce Challenges: Recognize that divorces later in life come with unique emotional, financial, and social challenges.

10. Learn from the Past: Use your divorce as an opportunity for growth, and make better choices moving forward.

This episode is a must-listen for men ready to reclaim their lives and build healthier futures post-divorce.

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In this podcast episode, host David interviews Jeff Luther, a former ultra-runner and CrossFit athlete, who shares his journey of resilience and recovery after a life-altering cardiac event and subsequent divorce. Jeff recounts his near-death experience in a CrossFit gym, where he suffered sudden cardiac death in front of his 16-year-old son, was revived with a defibrillator, and diagnosed with a rare heart condition, ARVC, which prohibits strenuous exercise. On top of this, Jeff faced the emotional toll of a divorce, leaving him in a dark place filled with bitterness and despair.

Jeff candidly discusses how his identity, once tied to his athleticism and role as a father, had to be redefined. His bitterness transformed when he realized the importance of his response to challenges—especially for his three sons, who were watching him navigate these hardships. He adopted a strategy of “30 seconds,” focusing on small, manageable moments to rebuild his physical and emotional health. This mindset allowed him to find gratitude, achieve incremental wins, and reclaim his sense of purpose.

The discussion expands to co-parenting, where Jeff emphasizes the goal of prioritizing children’s happiness over conflicts with an ex-spouse. He also highlights the value of community, sharing how attending a divorce support group helped him combat loneliness and find hope. Ultimately, Jeff’s story is a testament to resilience, deep self-reflection, and finding strength in vulnerability, offering inspiration for men over 40 facing similar challenges in life and divorce recovery.

10 Most Important Points from the Podcast Transcript:

1. Sudden Cardiac Event and Diagnosis:

2. Jeff Luther experienced sudden cardiac death while working out in a CrossFit gym with his 16-year-old son. He was revived after several minutes and later diagnosed with ARVC (Arrhythmogenic Right Ventricular Cardiomyopathy), a rare heart condition exacerbated by exercise. This diagnosis forced him to completely reassess his identity as an athlete.

3. Emotional Toll of Divorce and Heart Condition:

4. Simultaneously dealing with his heart condition and a divorce plunged Jeff into a deep emotional struggle. He admitted to feelings of bitterness, anger, and despair, questioning why such events happened despite living a healthy lifestyle.

5. Bitterness and Transformation:

6. Jeff initially struggled with bitterness, feeling like a victim of his circumstances. However, he realized that people cared more about how he responded to challenges than the challenges themselves. This realization motivated him to change his mindset, especially for the sake of his three sons who were closely observing his actions.

7. "30 Seconds" Strategy for Recovery:

8. Jeff adopted a "30 seconds at a time" approach to regain control of his life. This method involved breaking tasks into manageable moments, celebrating small wins, and focusing on incremental progress. It became a foundational strategy for his physical and emotional recovery.

9. Finding Gratitude and Perspective:

10. Jeff shifted his focus from what he lost to appreciating what he still had. He practiced gratitude, even for small things, which helped him reframe his mindset and find joy amidst adversity.

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In this episode of Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David interviews Derek Hoffman, co-founder of Ignite Performance and Health, a company revolutionizing the hormone replacement, weight loss, and fitness industries. The discussion centers on helping men over 40, particularly those recovering from divorce, regain control of their physical and mental health. Derek shares his personal journey, including his experience with testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), and how it inspired him to create a medically directed, care-based model for sustainable health transformations.

Derek emphasizes the challenges men face post-divorce, such as neglecting self-care, physical decline, and emotional struggles. He explains how Ignite Performance and Health combines hormone therapy, nutrition, and strength training to help men achieve life-changing results. The program focuses on personalized care, including regular blood work, tailored nutrition plans, and strength training to build muscle and confidence. Derek also debunks common misconceptions about TRT, such as "roid rage" and fertility issues, and highlights the importance of proper nutrition and exercise for long-term health.

The episode concludes with Derek encouraging men to prioritize their health and take advantage of the free resources available on Ignite's website. His ultimate goal is to help men feel confident, strong, and ready to tackle life with a "strut in their step."

10 Important Points:

1. Self-Care for Men Over 40: Men often neglect their health, prioritizing work, family, and community, which leads to physical and mental struggles.

2. Challenges Post-Divorce: Divorce can exacerbate health issues, making it crucial for men to focus on self-care and recovery.

3. Ignite Performance and Health: A medically directed program combining hormone therapy, nutrition, and fitness to transform lives in six months.

4. Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT): Properly managed TRT can improve energy, recovery, and confidence without harmful side effects.

5. Misconceptions About TRT: Myths like "roid rage" and infertility are debunked; TRT, when done ethically, is safe and effective.

6. Importance of Nutrition: Nutrition is more critical than exercise or medication; personalized plans ensure sustainable results.

7. Weight Loss vs. Fat Loss: Weight loss alone is not the goal; maintaining muscle mass and reducing fat is key to looking and feeling better.

8. Strength Training for Longevity: Building muscle improves physical health, mental well-being, and confidence, especially as men age.

9. Personalized Care: Regular blood work, tailored nutrition, and customized fitness plans ensure safe and effective results.

10. Free Resources for Men: Ignite offers free guides and information to educate men about health and fitness.

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In this episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab" podcast, Cody Butler, an Australian author and coach, discusses his RISE formula (Reveal, Interrupt, Shift, Empower) as a tool to help men overcome trauma, particularly after divorce. Drawing from his personal experiences of failure, loss, and emotional struggles, Cody shares how he transformed his negative belief systems to achieve personal growth and happiness. He emphasizes the importance of identifying limiting beliefs, changing thought patterns, and adopting constructive philosophies to live a fulfilling life.

Cody explains that many people struggle with unrealistic expectations and mental traps that perpetuate feelings of failure and unhappiness. He highlights the role of self-awareness, accountability, and community support in breaking free from these cycles. Furthermore, he underscores the connection between purpose and pain, suggesting that personal struggles can often lead to meaningful contributions to the world.

The episode concludes with Cody encouraging listeners to embrace self-compassion, focus on gratitude, and shift their mindset from survival to thriving.

10 Key Points from the Episode

1. The RISE Formula: Cody's method involves revealing unconscious beliefs, interrupting negative patterns, shifting perspectives, and empowering new behaviors.

2. Impact of Childhood Beliefs: Cody shares how a childhood remark from his father ("You don't deserve nice things") shaped his self-worth and led to repeated failures until he addressed it.

3. Happiness and Expectations: Unrealistic and unmet expectations are a primary source of unhappiness. Adjusting expectations to be realistic is crucial.

4. Mental Traps: Common mental traps include focusing on "getting through" situations rather than "getting something from" them. Shifting to a growth-oriented mindset is transformative.

5. Control Your Response: While external circumstances are often beyond control, individuals can always control their response and attitude toward them.

6. Community and Accountability: Healing and personal growth are significantly more successful when supported by a community or accountability group (as evidenced by the "Change or Die" study).

7. Trauma Fuels Purpose: Personal struggles and pain often lead to discovering one’s purpose, as they allow individuals to connect with and help others in similar situations.

8. Self-Compassion: Being kind to oneself is essential for overcoming anxiety, stress, and depression. It helps foster confidence and purpose.

9. Daily Gratitude: Practicing gratitude daily, even for small things, shifts focus away from negativity and promotes a positive mindset.

10. Behavior Drives Change: Talking about problems can provide temporary relief, but real transformation comes from adopting new behaviors and attitudes.

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The podcast episode features David Rosenthal, a divorced, remarried former rabbi and relationship coach, who shares his deeply personal journey through divorce and his strategies for helping men over 40 recover from similar experiences. David discusses the challenges he faced during his 16-year marriage, the amicable yet difficult separation process, and how his faith helped him grow emotionally and spiritually. He emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, self-compassion, and self-care in the healing process while providing actionable advice for co-parenting, managing emotions, and rediscovering personal identity after divorce. Drawing on his experience as a rabbi and coach, David also explains how he helps clients navigate their individual paths without imposing his own beliefs.

David shares practical tips for co-parenting five children, focusing on maintaining harmony for the sake of the children while keeping personal emotions in check. He stresses the importance of prioritizing self-care, such as sleep, exercise, and nutrition, and talks about how men can rebuild themselves by reconnecting with their inner desires and interests. Additionally, he highlights self-compassion's role in overcoming guilt and shame and offers insights into regulating emotions through mindfulness and perspective shifts.

The episode concludes with David providing his contact information and encouraging listeners to connect with him for coaching advice while the host expresses gratitude for the enlightening conversation.

10 Key Points from the Script

1. David's Divorce Journey: Married for 16 years with five children, David experienced an amicable but emotionally taxing divorce and used counseling to navigate the separation.

2. Faith's Role in Healing: As a former rabbi, David leaned on his faith to guide him through the emotional pain of divorce, deepening his spiritual connection in the process.

3. Co-Parenting Philosophy: David shares strategies for maintaining a child-focused approach in co-parenting, avoiding vindictive behavior, and fostering a positive environment for the kids.

4. Self-Care Essentials: He emphasizes the importance of sleep, exercise, and nutrition as the foundational pillars of self-care.

5. Rediscovering Identity: Divorce offers an opportunity to rediscover personal interests, desires, and hobbies that may have been suppressed during the marriage.

6. Emotional Regulation: David teaches clients to acknowledge and process emotions like anger and sadness without judgment, using mindfulness and perspective shifts to manage them effectively.

7. Self-Compassion: Recognizing and accepting one's own imperfections without self-criticism is crucial for healing and personal growth.

8. Healing Through Perspective: David encourages clients to step back emotionally, akin to observing oneself from a higher perspective, to regulate overwhelming feelings.

9. Challenges of Single Parenting: Balancing responsibilities and managing emotional waves when transitioning between parenting and alone time is a significant challenge for single fathers.

10. Advice for Struggling Fathers: For fathers dealing with alienation or strained relationships with their children, David advises focusing on self-healing and self-improvement to transform the dynamic.

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