Hello Sex Drive passengers!

Welcome to episode 9, our SEASON FINALE of the Sex Drive Podcast. We are all in the driver’s seat today, answering anonymous questions from you, our fantastic listeners!

What you’ll find in this episode:

• Female listener in a loving marriage says she doesn’t enjoy sex and doesn’t have orgasms when she and her husband are having partnered sex. We provide a wide range of ideas and perspectives for her and for so many others who may feel similarly.
• When should someone seek out sex education? And who seeks out sex education?
• Teaching bodily autonomy and boundaries to children.
• Advice for when children should start being taught sex education and some resources we would recommend for parents and children.
• What’s the point of solo masturbation? Hmmm, we’ve got thoughts!

Resources:

• Good Luck to You, Leo Grande - film
• Sex Educator & Author, Emily Nagoski
• OWL (Our Whole Lives) - Sex ed resources and curricula
• Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect by Jayneen Sanders
• It’s So Amazing! A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies and Families by Robie H. Harris
• Planned Parenthood resources for parents
• Everything you Never Wanted Your Kids to Know About Sex (but were afraid they’d ask) by Justin Richardson

Where you can find us:

Instagram - sexdrivepodcast

sexdrivepodcast@gmail.com

Have questions for next season?  Submit your anonymous questions to us here!

Dorothy Stover-

@dorothydstover

@ackloveschool

Dorothydstover.com

Melanie Rocco -

@melaniekayla13

Katy DeJong -

@thepleasureanarchist

thepleasureanarchist.com

Sam Nininahazwe -

@theburundiansexeducator

Lauren Elise Barnes-

@sex_ed_for_you

sexedforyou.com

Michelle Aguwa-

@reintroduceyourself

Kelsey Hughen -

@_creativecultivation_

@kelseyhughen  

creative-cultivation.com

Hello Sex Drive passengers!

Welcome to episode 8 of the Sex Drive Podcast. Sex Educator, Lauren Elise Barnes, is our driver today, and she’s bringing in a multi-layered discussion around How our upbringing and religiosity can impact our own sexual values. This episode is called Jesus Take The Wheel.

What you’ll find in this episode:

• Sex negative beliefs and sex-positive beliefs we have planted in our gardens
• The differences between explicit, latent, and body-based beliefs
• Who and what was influencing our sexual values at the formative ages of 14 and 21? And who influences our sexual beliefs and values now?
• What do sexual values even mean?
• The power of words — helping to define our values and creating mission statements in life and in partnerships.
• How do we release past beliefs that no longer serve us?
• The power of embodiment practices.

Resources:

• Emily Nagoski
• Rev Bev (Reverend Beverly Dale)
• Brené Brown’s values list
• Joli Hamilton
• One Little Word - Ali Edwards
• sexedforyou.com - Sexual Values Guiding Questions
• Dr Jack Morin
• Erica Smith

Where you can find us:

Instagram - sexdrivepodcast

sexdrivepodcast@gmail.com

What to hear us discuss and answer your questions on our series finale?

Submit your anonymous questions to us here!

Dorothy Stover-

@dorothydstover

@ackloveschool

Dorothydstover.com

Melanie Rocco -

@melaniekayla13

Katy DeJong -

@thepleasureanarchist

thepleasureanarchist.com

Sam Nininahazwe -

@theburundiansexeducator

Lauren Elise Barnes-

@sex_ed_for_you

sexedforyou.com

Michelle Aguwa-

@reintroduceyourself

Kelsey Hughen -

@_creativecultivation_

@kelseyhughen  

creative-cultivation.com

Hello Sex Drive passengers!

Welcome to episode 7 of the Sex Drive Podcast. Sex Educator, Sam Nininahazwe, is our driver today, and she’s guiding this important conversation on Pleasure Beyond Orgasm.

What you’ll find in this episode:

• What are we really talking about when we talk about the “pleasure gap?” Should it actually be called the “orgasm gap?”
• Allowing pleasure to be circular rather than linear - Circular Response Cycle - Dr. Rosemary Basson
• Context matters when it comes to our pleasure experiences
• What would happen if we were to take penetration and orgasm off the table?
• Celebrating self-pleasure!

Resources mentioned in this episode:
Dr. Laurie Mintz - Becoming Cliterate
Dr. Rosemary Basson - Circular Response Cycle
The Art of Giving and Receiving - Dr. Betty Martin
Sex After Grief - Joan Price
Mikayla Bohem - Delocalized self-pleasure
Emily Nagasaki

“Chase your pleasure, baby!” ~ Lauren’s partner, Trey

Where you can find us:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sexdrivepodcast/

sexdrivepodcast@gmail.com

What to hear us discuss and answer your questions on our series finale?

Submit your anonymous questions to us here!

Dorothy Stover-

@dorothydstover

@ackloveschool

Dorothydstover.com

Melanie Rocco -

@melaniekayla13

Katy DeJong -

@thepleasureanarchist

thepleasureanarchist.com

Sam Nininahazwe -

@theburundiansexeducator

Lauren Elise Barnes-

@sex_ed_for_you

sexedforyou.com

Michelle Aguwa-

@reintroduceyourself

Kelsey Hughen -

@_creativecultivation_

@kelseyhughen  

creative-cultivation.com

Hello Sex Drive passengers!

Welcome to episode 6 of the Sex Drive Podcast. Sex Educator, Kelsey Hughen, is our driver today, and she’s guiding this important conversation on Consent and Communication.

What you’ll find in this episode:

• Kelsey introduces our topic and why it’s important to her
• Dr. Betty Martin wisdom abound
• “It throws off the flow” – does it, really?
• What consent can look like when you don’t know what you want
• Making room for curiosity and play in partnership with consent
• Why is there this idea that consent is “unsexy?” And how can we make it sexy?!
• Taking a lesson from The Four Agreements on letting go of assumptions
• Teaching consent and being an example to young people
• When and why consent doesn’t always need to be enthusiastic

Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Dr. Betty Martin - The 3-Minute Game - https://youtu.be/_KCzpNBNbVM
- The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
- Sex Educator, Kaz - @kazkarenlucas
- “Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent & Respect” by Jayneen Sanders
- Sex After Grief by Joan Price
- Bianca Laureano

Where you can find us:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sexdrivepodcast/

sexdrivepodcast@gmail.com

What to hear us discuss and answer your questions on our series finale?

Submit your anonymous questions to us here!

Dorothy Stover-

@dorothydstover

@ackloveschool

Dorothydstover.com

Melanie Rocco -

@melaniekayla13

Katy DeJong -

@thepleasureanarchist

thepleasureanarchist.com

Sam Nininahazwe -

@theburundiansexeducator

Lauren Elise Barnes-

@sex_ed_for_you

sexedforyou.com

Michelle Aguwa-

@reintroduceyourself

Kelsey Hughen -

@_creativecultivation_

@kelseyhughen  

creative-cultivation.com

Hello Sex Drive passengers!

Welcome to episode 5 of the Sex Drive Podcast. Sex Educator, Michelle Aguwa, is our driver today, and she’s guiding this fruitful discussion on Body Mapping.

What you’ll find in this episode:

• Body mapping gives us the space to explore ourselves first and then invite that into practice with a partner(s)
• Taking the focus away from orgasm is the “goal,” and instead, exploring through curiosity
• Exploring the bits of ourselves that historically have maybe felt uncomfortable to be explored/touched
• Tuning into the body’s sensations through massage
• Asking a partner, “What do you like/not like?” (Pssst - “the normal stuff” is not an answer!)
• The importance and beauty of bringing breath into these practices
• How body mapping and other somatic practices can be very healing when working with past trauma
• Our Erotic Blueprint and CET (Core Erotic Theme)
• Allowing primal sounds to be a part of your body exploration practices

Resources mentioned in this episode:
- The Ultimate Guide To Sex Through Pregnancy and Motherhood by Madison Young
- Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
- Erotic Blueprint - as shown on the Goop show
- The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin

Root Chakra Healing Music Playlist; https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2iCcbGkGDge0t0DWys9CgJ?si=92b1b3e5265848e1

Where you can find us:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sexdrivepodcast/

sexdrivepodcast@gmail.com

What to hear us discuss and answer your questions on our series finale?

Submit your anonymous questions to us here!

Dorothy Stover-

@dorothydstover

@ackloveschool

Dorothydstover.com

Melanie Rocco -

@melaniekayla13

Katy DeJong -

@thepleasureanarchist

thepleasureanarchist.com

Sam Nininahazwe -

@theburundiansexeducator

Lauren Elise Barnes-

@sex_ed_for_you

sexedforyou.com

Michelle Aguwa-

@reintroduceyourself

Kelsey Hughen -

@_creativecultivation_

@kelseyhughen  

creative-cultivation.com

Hello Sex Drive passengers!

Welcome to episode 4 of the Sex Drive Podcast. Sex Educator, Katy DeJong, is our driver today, and she’s bringing in the juicy and very nuanced topic of “desire.”

What you’ll find in this episode:

• Dismantling the pathology of desire
• Is there a “normal” amount of desire? (The myth of low desire)
• The nuances of desire and how we experience desire
• Sexual sovereignty
• Melanie’s brilliant new concept of “desire languages!”
• Bonus convo at the end of the episode:
  • Intuitive desire
  • How do we define desire, and what does desire feel like?
  • How our role as sex educators is similar to dulaship

Where you can find us:

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sexdrivepodcast/

sexdrivepodcast@gmail.com

What to hear us discuss and answer your questions on our series finale? Submit your anonymous questions to us here!

Dorothy Stover-

@dorothydstover

@ackloveschool

Dorothydstover.com

Melanie Rocco -

@melaniekayla13

Katy DeJong -

@thepleasureanarchist

thepleasureanarchist.com

Sam Nininahazwe -

@theburundiansexeducator

Lauren Elise Barnes-

@sex_ed_for_you

sexedforyou.com

Michelle Aguwa-

@reintroduceyourself

Kelsey Hughen -

@_creativecultivation_

@kelseyhughen  

creative-cultivation.com

Hello Sex Drive passengers!

Welcome to episode 3 of the Sex Drive Podcast. Sex Educator, Melanie Rocco, is our driver today.

This episode’s topic is ‘Love” (in its many forms). We recorded this episode an hour after the announcement that Roe v Wade had been overturned. This conversation is full of real-time, raw processing, support, and, you guessed it, love.

What you’ll find in this episode:

• Temperature check amongst the educators.
• The importance of mobilizing and regulating emotions through our nervous systems.
• Processing what overturning Roe v Wade means, how it feels and what we can do as humans and as educators to move forward and support one another.
• How do we care for ourselves in these moments and in this time?
• What does a community of love look like, to you?

Resources mentioned:
- 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman
- All About Love, Bell Hooks

Recommended Organizations & Resources:

• Lilith Fund
• Lift Louisiana
• The Yellowhammer Fund
• SisterSong
• National Network of Abortion Funds

Want to hear us discuss and answer your questions on our series finale? Submit your anonymous questions to us here!

Follow the podcast on instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexdrivepodcast/

Where you can find each of us!

Dororthy Stover - @dorothydstover, @ackloveschool, www.Dorothydstover.com

Melanie Rocco - @melaniekayla13

Katy DeJong - @thepleasureanarchist, www.thepleasureanarchist.com

Sam Nininahazwe - @theburundiansexeducator

Lauren Elise Barnes- @sex_ed_for_you, www.sexedforyou.com

Michelle Aguwa- @reintroduceyourself

Kelsey Hughen - @_creativecultivation_, @kelseyhughen, www.creative-cultivation.com

Hello Sex Drive passengers!

Welcome to episode 2 of the Sex Drive Podcast. Sex Educator, Dorothy Stover, is our driver today.

Dorothy’s juicy topic, “Road Head,” is all about how we can get out of our heads and into our bodies during sex.

What you’ll find in this episode:

• What has contributed to, and shaped, the maps we’ve been following in our lives thus far?
• What has been planted in our gardens and by whom? Which plantings are we choosing to water? Which plantings are we uprooting?
• Getting the people pleasing mentality out of the bedroom.
• How dating scenarios and our presence in front of and with another person translates to being in the bedroom with our partner(s).
• The importance of settling our own nervous system first.
• Slloooowwwing things down.
• Allowing ourselves to feel, be touched and receive (when we want to).
• Dr. Betty Martin’s 3-Minute Game.
• Hitting the breaks and finding mobilization in the body through vocalizing needs.
• Embodiment, mindfulness and meditation practices to find sanctuary in our bodies.
• Awakening our senses to bring us into the room.
• “Sexual Snacking”
• Don’t be afraid to ask for a (pizza) break.

Where you can find us! https://www.instagram.com/sexdrivepodcast/

Dorothy -

@dorothydstover

@ackloveschool

www.Dorothydstover.com

Melanie -

@melaniekayla13

Katy -

@thepleasureanarchist

thepleasureanarchist.com

Sam -

@theburundiansexeducator

Lauren -

@sex_ed_for_you

sexedforyou.com

Michelle -

@reintroduceyourself

Kelsey -

@_creativecultivation_

@kelseyhughen  

www.creative-cultivation.com