Eight Dates
Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
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James Patrick Cronin
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Julie McKay
About this listen
Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort - and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on 40 years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.
Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range - from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions - will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before - and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
©2018 John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams (P)2019 Audible, Inc.You may also enjoy...
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- Roxanne
- 2022-04-27
Practical
This book was very informative and practical. Loved the examples and I think these are lifelong suggestions that can be applied to any stage of a relationship. Being honest, understanding of where people are and being respectful of the decisions of others we key takeaways.
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- Jose
- 2024-03-05
Learned so much
This audiobook helped me understand that the purpose of a relationship is to know each other, not to change each other, and that conflict can be painful but it’s the mechanism by which the relationship grows.
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- Vita
- 2020-02-13
Interesting but not life-changing
The book offers a number of interesting ideas and insights. We followed the dates, and found that having conversations was very useful. Of course the 8 dates did not change our lives or dramatically improved our marriage, but I found some utility in them. Nothing replaces counselling, but this book gives a number of handy tools for self-care and self-maintenance. I would recommend it, with a caveat not to expect magic transformations.
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- Anonymous User
- 2023-02-20
Simple and easy to follow
I realized that there is a longer version of the book but nonetheless it is a great starting point for established couples.
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- NSko
- 2021-01-26
Informational
This book was delivered straight to the point with multiple examples that can fit into any real life couple scenarios. I especially enjoyed the text about the studied couples and what they got out of the eight dates experiences with each other.
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- Nic_817
- 2022-03-16
Thought provoking!
Such a great book if you’re building something new with someone or if you’ve been with someone for a long time. The discussion questions are thought provoking and interesting and it helps develop more of an understanding and connection to your partner if both of you are open and honest. I would highly recommend!
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- jenny
- 2020-12-16
everyone should read this book
I have listened to it twice. I absolutely love this book. so much to learn.
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- Marwan El Nashar
- 2022-01-09
grateful for this recommendation
From JJ, I'm looking forward to our eighty thousand and one dates & nights together ❤
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- Lr
- 2020-11-04
Narrator leaves something to be desired
I was not enjoying the female narrator. i hope all quiz content is available online
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- Sarah
- 2022-02-25
Makes more sense as a hard copy
I liked this book but it’s filled with questions to ask your partner so it makes little sense as an audiobook, what am I going to transcribe the questions so I can bring them with me on the date?? 😂 also, this book is not a light read, it’s brings up so many questions that I often had to take a step back and completely rethink things. Which was good, but it felt heavy at times. Again, I think it would have been better for me to take it piece by piece in hard copy form. It’s almost like a workbook.
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