
I Love You but I Don’t Trust You
The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship
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Emily Durante
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Written by:
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Mira Kirshenbaum
About this listen
Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged.
In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.
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- Rossana6200
- 2020-10-19
Great and very informative with solutions.
I loved the suggestions on how to build trust. It had also helpful strategies to use in having difficult conversations. It is a must read on how to build trust.
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- Chrysteann
- 2019-05-06
Great Listen
Such an eye opener...my thoughts, views and actions had already changed before I even finished. Thank you Mira
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- Amazon Customer
- 2021-03-26
so much help towards saving my marriage.
Even though he cheated it's helped with perspective and giving my self time to take action. Rather than screaming and kicking him out.
thank you 💞
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- Suren
- 2021-11-23
learning a new language
I grew up in the environment, where I learned to dismiss female feelings. Those feelings were secondary to me as a man. I have hurt my partners. And I didn't understand why they are hurt. This book is like a learning language that I always wanted to learn but never managed to.
It makes me understand and see why people were affected the way they were. It also shows that I was not a beast also. Just a confused man. I really value the possibility to learn language of hearing and seeing another person and validating those feelings as Worthy
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- Rebecca Rees
- 2023-07-19
Amazing insite
I actually really enjoyed this listen! Much information and the author allows a view of both sides of the trust relationship from the trustee to the entrusted or lack there of! Great book
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- Amazon Customer
- 2024-01-02
Very useful resource
Highly recommend for anyone who is looking to rebuild trust. Very good resources and examples.
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- Tammy S
- 2021-09-14
Informative
Good information, but ideally, it’s so individual to each relationship, it all comes down to mind over matter. And whether or not the partners involved really work at it.
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