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I Didn't Sign Up for This
- A Couples Therapist Shares Real-Life Stories of Breaking Patterns and Finding Joy in Relationships . . . Including Her Own
- Narrated by: Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
- Length: 9 hrs and 1 min
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Publisher's Summary
What happens when your relationship no longer feels like the one you said "yes" to?
Couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish has spent the last seventeen years dedicated to helping hundreds of couples in distress find hope and healing, sometimes by staying together and other times not. Breakdowns in communication, lack of intimacy, infidelity, overbearing in-laws and exes (to name a few)―she's seen it all.
Shortly after the birth of her first child, Dr. Tracy suddenly began to see herself in her clients' narratives. Despite the overwhelming joy she felt as a new mother, she also found herself welling up with anger and resentment toward her partner as she began shouldering more than half the domestic load and childcare labor in their marriage. In time, she found herself uttering the very words she'd heard countless times in her office from her clients: I didn't sign up for this.
Part memoir, part self-help, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish's debut book provides a rare look inside real therapy sessions with four couples―and into her own marriage. With unflinching candor and heartfelt empathy, she digs to the root of the issues that fuel our day-to-day relationship conflicts and illuminates the common struggle of what it means to be human: the incredible difficulty of showing up wholly and authentically in our most intimate relationship with others and with ourselves.
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- 2023-11-13
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Working very hard to save a relationship, thank you for your support in building my relationship tool box
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- LovelyL
- 2024-07-07
Introspective & Insightful!
I got so much more out of this book than I expected. I enjoyed learning about Dr. Tracy's experience in working with couples, and in living her own life with all of these tools and concepts. Her sharing her story along with the other couples it was easy to understand while creating an introspective and very insightful listen. I came away with a lot to reflect on and bring into my own life and relationships. I would actually like to have the book in my hands to I can go through the exercises and highlight different things she shared.
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- Marcos
- 2024-01-19
So eye opening!
I learned so so much! Not just about how to help my relationship, but also what therapy could actually look like!
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- 2023-12-30
Easy to understand/ relate to
It was easy to relate to the context and the book included reflections along the way! Thank you!
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- SUSAN LANG
- 2024-02-26
Relatable stories
So many relatable issues in relationships and ways to dig deeper. A really great read that I highly recommend!
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