Why Does He Do That?
Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
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Peter Berkrot
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Lundy Bancroft
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He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship. You will learn about:
- The early warning signs
- Ten abusive personality types
- The role of drugs and alcohol
- What you can fix, and what you can't
- How to get out of a relationship safely
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- Kindle Customer
- 2021-08-15
Very informative!!
Excellent info for victims/survivors and for friends or family that can guide both of them
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- melissa woehler
- 2019-04-12
Amazing eye opener!
This book should be part of every high school curriculum in North America. It would be revolutionary.
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- Anita Gonzales
- 2022-01-24
Changed My Life
This book has changed my life. Understanding the abuser is the way out of abuse!
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- Atosa
- 2021-10-22
"THE" BOOK about any kind of abuse
There may be many books out there that tackle abuse and/or domestic violence. This one, although written by a (very insightful) man, shows you truths (while explaining root causes) that you can never unsee. Abuse does not have to be physical; it takes many forms, and it is all explained here. Many women keep going back to their abusive partner, only to find things taking a turn for the worse every time, Read this one, and you will never go back. This book has saved the lives of many women and children and I believe is Mr. Bancroft's most known and best-selling book so far. After this, I recommend that you read the "Daily Wisdom..." by the same author, which serves as a voice of reason that you fall back on at any time, on any day.
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- Jaz
- 2021-12-29
Every woman should read this!!!
Well written, narrated perfectly. Speaks to every aspect of abuse including emotional abuse. I would recommend that every woman read or listen to this should she feel she is not in control of her life while in a relationship. Eye opener indeed.
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- Vicki Hudson
- 2024-04-25
Very thorough and complete analysis of DV
This book is fantastic as an in-depth analysis of why abusers abuse, how to identify them, how to read them, how to respond to them, and how to support victims. as a DV survivor I could relate to so much of the content and really appreciated the validation and insight the book provided. Th author's views on how to know if the abuser is genuinely changed were remarkably well written and insightful, and would be very beneficial for anyone wondering about validity of change. This book covers the content from every aspect and is a must-read for anyone who is a victim or trying to support a victim, or to understand abusers in general. I am so glad I read this book!
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Highly Recommend !
This book is so informative with plenty of tools for any one affected by abuse. A must read for anyone wanting to make meaningful change in their life or society.
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- Anastasia
- 2024-05-25
Must read for everyone who want to have a healthy relationship
This book shows how your relationship might hurt you, mentally or physically, how healthy relationship should feel, and how to see your relationship for what it is and don’t allow anyone to manipulate you for their gains. Even though the big focus of this book is physical abuse, it offers information what to look for if your partner never pushed you or call names. Abuse comes in different forms.
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- Anonymous User
- 2022-04-19
A critical read
A really important book, I highly recommend it to anyone who has experienced abuse, and anyone who works in a professional capacity with people experiencing domestic violence. Explains really clearly the thought patterns of abusers and gives practical advice. Could be triggering to straight men who have experienced abuse though - because the author works with abusers who often claim to have been mistreated as a way to deflect blame, he is hesitant to believe a straight man's claim of being abused by a female partner. I don't think it's a bug as much as a feature, the book is aimed towards helping female victims and explaining the mindset of male perpetrators, with a brief discussion of gay/lesbian couples.
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- Jess
- 2022-09-27
A Must Read
INCREDIBLY informative, and enjoyable to read. Every school should include this book in their curriculum. Everyone who plans to be in a relationship should read this honestly.
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