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  • Why Does He Do That?

  • Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
  • Written by: Lundy Bancroft
  • Narrated by: Peter Berkrot
  • Length: 13 hrs and 32 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (126 ratings)

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Why Does He Do That?

Written by: Lundy Bancroft
Narrated by: Peter Berkrot
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Publisher's Summary

He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship. You will learn about:

  • The early warning signs
  • Ten abusive personality types
  • The role of drugs and alcohol
  • What you can fix, and what you can't
  • How to get out of a relationship safely
©2002 Lundy Bancroft (P)2011 Tantor

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"This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended for all libraries, especially those in communities with emergency shelter programs." ( Library Journal)

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Very informative!!

Excellent info for victims/survivors and for friends or family that can guide both of them

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  • 2021-12-29

Every woman should read this!!!

Well written, narrated perfectly. Speaks to every aspect of abuse including emotional abuse. I would recommend that every woman read or listen to this should she feel she is not in control of her life while in a relationship. Eye opener indeed.

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Highly Recommend !

This book is so informative with plenty of tools for any one affected by abuse. A must read for anyone wanting to make meaningful change in their life or society.

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Amazing eye opener!

This book should be part of every high school curriculum in North America. It would be revolutionary.

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Changed My Life

This book has changed my life. Understanding the abuser is the way out of abuse!

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"THE" BOOK about any kind of abuse

There may be many books out there that tackle abuse and/or domestic violence. This one, although written by a (very insightful) man, shows you truths (while explaining root causes) that you can never unsee. Abuse does not have to be physical; it takes many forms, and it is all explained here. Many women keep going back to their abusive partner, only to find things taking a turn for the worse every time, Read this one, and you will never go back. This book has saved the lives of many women and children and I believe is Mr. Bancroft's most known and best-selling book so far. After this, I recommend that you read the "Daily Wisdom..." by the same author, which serves as a voice of reason that you fall back on at any time, on any day.

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  • LC
  • 2019-08-02

A must read for abused women

This books makes so much sense if you were ever in a abusive relationship and were left with questions. I learnt a lot from this book and feel I could listen to it again and learn more

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Amazing!

Highly insightful. Very helpful. Has helped me put words to the abuse that I have been through.

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A critical read

A really important book, I highly recommend it to anyone who has experienced abuse, and anyone who works in a professional capacity with people experiencing domestic violence. Explains really clearly the thought patterns of abusers and gives practical advice. Could be triggering to straight men who have experienced abuse though - because the author works with abusers who often claim to have been mistreated as a way to deflect blame, he is hesitant to believe a straight man's claim of being abused by a female partner. I don't think it's a bug as much as a feature, the book is aimed towards helping female victims and explaining the mindset of male perpetrators, with a brief discussion of gay/lesbian couples.

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A Must Read

INCREDIBLY informative, and enjoyable to read. Every school should include this book in their curriculum. Everyone who plans to be in a relationship should read this honestly.

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