Bringing the light to your darkness

Amazing book this opened my mind to so much I’ve accepted as normal or loving realationships it has even shown me some unhealthy habits I’ve formed I really enjoyed this book as it was eye opening for me

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Love bombing

Thank you so much for writing this book
Lit truly was revelational
I still find myself emotionally wanting to get sucked back in
But now I know why it happens in the sheer fact that I know why it’s giving me the strength not to get sucked back in
And it’s all because of your writings that brought it to light
Thank
You
Regards
Bernard

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Absolutely AMAZING!

Years of therapy right here. You know what it feels like for somwone to finally get it, disect it and validate all that has been felt. I am so grateful to have stubbled across this is a bout of desperation. I feel corageous, understood and strong.

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Outdated, narrow-minded

What another reviewer ‘Coleen’ wrote a year ago, is absolutely spot on! Please read!
While some might find this book helpful at a very elementary level - and for that, it may have its place- I caution that this book comes from a very, very outdated point of view, by a narrow-minded and incredibly arrogant author. Perhaps it is because of her own trauma she mentions in the last two hours of the recording that generates her critical view, but I do not believe this book to be truly helpful to many and worse, perhaps even harmful in some situations.
This book may first help you identify toxic behaviours, yes, but I implore you to please continue to learn about trauma, brain/emotional development, attachments styles etc from more widely respected sources, and seek up to date therapy.
Good luck.

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loved this book

Found this book an easy listen and helpful with my recovery journey recommend this book

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Clear discussion of a sensitive topic

This was a well thought out and put together discussion on a sensitive topic. I thought the practicality of the steps the author takes you through on a journey of healing were clear and concise and easy to wrap your mind around which all leads to one thing: they are easy to action and that’s what’s so important. I would recommend this book to anyone.

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So many better books

I’m not sure who the author is writing this book for. Herself, clients or therapists. There is tone of arrogance and superiority that is at times dangerous for those seeking help. At times there seems to be a lack of compassion for people experiencing abuse. For example, she states that if a client breaks no contact with their narcissistic partner she will end her therapeutic relationship. Any good therapist will know that it For someone who is being abused it may take many attempts to break contact with their abuser.
Many times in this book it seems the author is patting herself on the back as she discusses how she deals with clients. I found there was more of this than descriptions about hidden abuse or at least it was hard to stay focused on the description with the distraction of the authors ego.
There are so many good books out there about this topic. I would skip this one.

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